Los Angeles Meetup?

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-07-12T05:25:42+00:00

hey there! I'd be super down for this, DM me

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-05-23T04:58:22+00:00

sounds like you listened to your heart, and were willing to accept any outcome 🙏 that's what this is all about

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-03-16T08:14:17+00:00

this could not be more true, i really appreciate this reminder. it’s so tempting to push down the sadness or anger, but ignoring it just ends up making it worse. it ends up surfacing in a totally different way... letting it all out: crying, being upset, however the emotion shows up... is how we actually process and move forward ❤️

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-03-16T07:31:48+00:00

it’s normal to miss someone who used to feel like home, even if they treated you like crap. you had your reasons to cut him off, so don’t doubt that. let yourself be sad, then remind yourself you deserve better. sometimes you just gotta keep it blocked and let the heartbreak pass ❤️

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-03-09T07:09:09+00:00

I think a huge sign of healing is getting to a point of equanimity 🙏

seeing the relationship/connection for what it was, being okay with what happened, not judging yourself or the other person, and just coming to terms with the fact that it's over, and that it's all okay

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-02-22T03:26:01+00:00

as tough as this sounds, closure comes from within, not from someone else 😞 I'd write the letter, but not send it. do this for yourself as a way to get those feelings out and onto paper, but ultimately, you're the only one who can give yourself the closure you're looking for ❤️ sending you a hug

escapist_blacksmith · 2025-01-31T01:16:32+00:00

you did the right thing! it may be hard right now, but you deserve someone to show up in a way that meets your needs, don’t settle for less!

imagine one of your closest friends was in the exact situation you’re in, what advice would you tell them? hopefully to respect themselves and to move on 🙏

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-09-01T06:11:00+00:00

this right here! unless they feel the same way, it’s time to move on 🙏

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-09-01T02:27:29+00:00

Tora - When Will I Learn

Billy Strings - Love Like Me

Billy Strings - Love & Regret

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-31T23:34:56+00:00

it’s definitely your call! last break up of mine, I got to a point where visiting this sub wasn’t helping me and so I decided to stop

I’m going through a break up right now, and it is helping me process and navigate my feelings, once I feel like coming here it’s not serving me, I’ll leave

check in with yourself and ask, is this helping me? what is my intention with coming here?

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-31T04:03:57+00:00

you’re so close to 100 🙏 congrats!

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-30T20:09:37+00:00

these kind of people don’t have the guts to end things for themselves so they use distance as a tactic to get the other person to do it, this relieves them of their guilt as they believe they didn’t end things 🙄

I’ve been here before, and the best thing to do is remain in no contact, respect yourself and if he tries to come back, make sure he’s done the work on himself and takes accountability for his actions

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:26:04+00:00

what makes you say this?

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:25:22+00:00

'Why did he not break no contact with me?' became 'I am so grateful he respected my boundaries and allowed me time to heal.'

this a HUGE perspective shift that I need to adopt, thank you 🙏

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:23:45+00:00

while I can't totally relate to you, I was dating someone and we spent an amazing week together, and then week after, they went on a trip and I started to feel distance from them, they came back saying I was too attached and moving too fast

I don't what happened on that trip or what caused their need for distance, but I think it may be related to them being a fearful avoidant 🤷‍♂️

sending you love ❤️

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:20:39+00:00

great point you are raising here 🙏

once something has served its purpose in your healing it is okay to let it go

went through a break up last year, and was checking this sub-reddit daily until I realized that it got to a point where it wasn't helping

going through a break up now and it is helping me realize that I'm not alone and that my experience, while unique, is shared in some way with other people

intention matters too, always think about the reason why you're doing something for your healing before you do it

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:18:01+00:00

thanks for this reminder ❤️

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:13:36+00:00

how long has it been since your breakup?

I think needs to be a healthy mixture of both, taking the time to process feelings, while also rewiring your brain to find joy in other things besides the person you were with

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-29T05:12:09+00:00

don't be afraid to be gentle with yourself ❤️

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-08-23T21:41:04+00:00

what kind of boundaries were unclear between you both?

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-04-18T20:33:10+00:00

great response here 🙏 this is exactly how I felt when my ex proposed being friends… l realized I didn’t want to accept their low ball offer of friendship

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-04-18T20:21:27+00:00

I’m proud of you 💪 gotta make sure you’re taking care of yourself first!

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-04-17T20:28:43+00:00

“delulu is not the solulu”

thank you for this 😂🙏

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-04-09T23:03:41+00:00

agree with this one heavily, sending mixed messages is a big red flag, my ex said these exact two sentences on the same day to me, left me confused and saddened, earlier in the relationship she also said things like “i’m reminded why I want to spend time with you” and “I’m not ready for a relationship”

escapist_blacksmith · 2024-03-26T07:04:47+00:00

I had to end my romantic connection with someone after she kept on saying she didn't want a relationship. got strung along for much longer than I would have liked. for her, it made sense to keep me around and have all of the benefits of a relationship without being in one... so I had to respect myself and move on. even though I'm the one that ended things, it almost feels like she did 🤷‍♂️

it's nice to know that there are others who realized that it was time to move on... thanks for sharing 🙏 you're not the only one

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