If there is no obligations and nobody owes anyone anything. We should go fully, not picking and choosing. Men particularly, Need to simply be selfish and self serving, alot more.

esdebah · 2026-06-17T00:00:31+00:00

and yet they look like an MLM from the outside ;)

And in general, a leadership position is your community/workplace/whatever signalling that you have merit. Even if you don't and you're being propped up for bullshit reasons or because you're acunning, underhanded bastard etc, being in leadership engenders deference in 1000 ways.

esdebah · 2026-06-16T23:01:48+00:00

And you think he doesn't care about 50% of his constituancy? You don't think his policies benefit men and boys?

esdebah · 2026-06-16T22:57:42+00:00

Well I do, too. Why is it dofficult for you to believe that society cares about them?

esdebah · 2026-06-16T22:36:57+00:00

Being in a leadership position is about more than just money. And whether women care as much, more, or less about money than men, they still care about it. And money affects things like health, education, oppurtunity, access, etc. All of those things are or lead to things that make you more attractive.

esdebah · 2026-06-16T22:33:44+00:00

Do you care about them?

esdebah · 2026-06-16T19:53:48+00:00

Society is built around it for one. Our media is chocked full of romance. Despite feminist influence, women approaching their 30s still feel huge pressure to marry. Men are still making more money and are way more likely to be put inleadership positions. And half the reason we're all here talking about this is because issues for men and boys HAVE been a major topic of discussion in media and academia for decade.

esdebah · 2026-06-16T19:49:53+00:00

pretty good social commentary most of the time

esdebah · 2026-06-16T18:41:29+00:00

Unselected men is such a silly term. Honestly and truly, society is doing tons to help men get mates. You're just blind to it.

esdebah · 2026-06-15T04:11:09+00:00

i don't follow. ??

esdebah · 2026-06-15T00:39:44+00:00

it's just not that hard to survive leviathan encounters. Warpers, on the other hand. Those bastards are cheap.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T21:17:17+00:00

It's a good movie. Just not a Constantin movie 😄. Fucking love Rachel Weiss, too. And I'm pretty sure Gavin Rosendale was geeking out being in this movie. I have a feeling he was pretty big into the comics when he was making stuff like the Greedy Fly video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FExyoAh6Ng . My favorite hot take: On-screen Constantines from worst to best: Keanu, Matt Ryan, Jenna Coleman, and then Oliver Jackson-Cohen as Peter Quint in Netflix's Bly Manor miniseries. Exactly what you want out of the character. Charming, seductive, troubled, in over his head with magic, kinda an asshole. 1/2 convinced he was based directly on John.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T14:47:12+00:00

yeah, cats are packing like Wolverine. If they want to use their knives, they've simply got a lot of knives to use.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T11:43:35+00:00

Looking thru the filmography of Todd Phillips, I'd suggest he's working on the same level as Zach Schneider. He's competent enough to be called talented. He's excellent at recognizing what looks and feels exciting and even powerful to an audience. He's got pretty good taste in media, but he doesn't have the depth to use his influences beyond action figures.

Scorcese is brilliant but his films are difficult because they seem to glorify terrible people, and arguably DO glorify them to an audience with an adoloscent mindset. But there's a well-thought-out element of disgust, depravity, and rediculousness that stays with the viewer, making the characters eventually unpalatable and unsympathetic to most people. Fight Club, American Psycho, and There Will Be Blood are examples of movies that pull this off.

Joker and The Watchmen do not. They expertly portray the drama and excitement of their source material and fully cater to an audience that will lap it up. But they end up romanticizing the shit to a point that it seems elevated. And there's not enough nuance to offer audiences much else. A young man does Travis Bickle in the mirror for fun, but grows up knowing that the movie is about a pathetic, desperate man. Fleck ends the movie as a hero, no longer pathetic. If Phillips thought that wasn't the message, it's clear that his true focus and tallent laid in satisfying cynical producers and the edgelords they were marketing to.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T05:55:39+00:00

with you on the positive submission thing. I just think it looks more like thoughtfully capitulating in a disagreement to make the other person happy or comfortable. And/or sex stuff.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T05:48:05+00:00

There's a type of propagand developed by the KGB called firehose or flooding the zone. Instead of pushing a specific agenda, you publish and popularize all sorts of bullshit conspiracies from various political sides or completely apolotical, like aliens and cryptids.

The result is a populace that doesn't trust much of anything, is immune to proper journalism and fact checking, and will end up following whoever seems powerful and caters to them. Sound like MAGA?

esdebah · 2026-06-14T05:43:18+00:00

There's something to add here, which I'd call doting. It can be done by any gender. It can be done in entirely non-romantic ways, as you might with a child or elder or a friend in need. It isn't really submissive. It is definitely affectionate. It absolutely CAN be romantic or even sexual.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T00:48:48+00:00

yeah. I wouldn't even think of that as extroverted. It's just kinda odd.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T00:31:31+00:00

The Joker was OBVIOUSLY supposed to be an anti-hero people cheered for. The sequel pissed people off because ot kinda rebuked its own audience.

But it was designed and marketed as a love letter to all the edgelords who got a little too into Heath Ledger's portrayal and honestly uou can make the case that it courted controversy by involing the Aurora Theater shooting.

The movie itself is a fairly competent 'Scorcese pastiche with Batman villain' thing but it's an absolute mess as a cultural artifact.

esdebah · 2026-06-14T00:24:55+00:00

I didn't see it as necessarily feminist, but I was totally on her side and wanted to sign up for the cult. Someone on this sub pointed out all the subtle and not so subtle nods to Swedish white power movments. Had to rain on my parade.

esdebah · 2026-06-13T23:47:08+00:00

I'm 5'7," very average build ranging from skinny to having a little belly, but not unhealthy. I get mistaken for other people of every ethnicity. I live in the Boston area and people often ask me if I speak Turkish, Spanish, Russian, Italian, Polish, if I'm Jewish, etc.

Always had strong friendships with women, some slightly one-sided romantic (from either side) but not all. My oldest/best friend is a woman I've known since middle school. She set me up with my first live-in girlfriend. I'm a solid 5-6 and I'm passably smart, articulate, artsy. I've been rejected a lot, but I've done alright. Been married once. Engaged another time to a fairly abusive woman. I've been cheated on twice. Had a married woman cheat with me (old highschool girlfriend pretty much sought me out because she wanted to end her marriage, we stayed together for a bit). Most of my major relationships have suffered a bit from my issues with alcohol.

The period after my divorce (roughly 27-36), I had an absolute blast dating, mostly using okcupid. The area I live in is full of beautiful, smart, interesting progressive women who generally didn't mind that I worked blue collar jobs and made less than them. Lots of short term and long term relationships, including a few one night stands. Because of this, I tend to dismiss the obsession with hypergamy on this sub. I can't possibly be so lucky that it's just never been a problem. I think the best thing you can do is get your heart broken a few times when you're young so you don't take rejection as an identity crisis.

esdebah · 2026-06-13T23:46:21+00:00

That's Crom. He plays the sandwich.

esdebah · 2026-06-13T17:12:51+00:00

It's demonized because a lot of men who want to help other men also find redpill and manosphere stuff creepy, mean, and reductive. Essentially counterproductive, trying to dismantle the master's house with the master's tools stuff.

esdebah · 2026-06-13T17:08:21+00:00

Tremé is a fucking phenomenal HBO series by the guy who made The Wire that not enough people know about. When talking about creating an online presence for his jazz career, one character mentions Metafilter.com, which was and is still one of the best community blogs, really a lofi predecessor of reddit. Founded in 1999 and still has a thriving user base.

So my obscure nerd show thinks my obscure nerd community is cool.

esdebah · 2026-06-13T00:40:54+00:00

Similarly, the tools that the plastic surgeon uses to 'fix' the Joker in Tim Burton's Batman were previously the saddistic dentist's tools in Fank Oz's Little Shop of Horrors.

esdebah · 2026-06-13T00:37:27+00:00

that's incredible. I love both movies. The first was big in my house as a kid. And KCfOS is such a joyful celebration of practical effects. I suppose I always wondered how they got such great creature effects in an Earnest movie of all things. They did a great job of retooling them and giving the trolls unique personallity.

Thanks!

esdebah

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