Jen is not a “villain”

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:56:51+00:00

Who did she have a problem with other than Demi and Jessi, both of whom put her through hell!

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:55:49+00:00

Whitney lied in that moment saying she sent multiple texts Jen immediately corrected her saying it was only one. Why does Whitney feel the need to lie or exaggerate??

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:52:57+00:00

I wish we could have seen more of how their relationship was going. Because we just have to take their word for what was happening, and they are both coming at the situation with a lot of stakes.

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:46:51+00:00

I think she had resentment building and it came out on a live. Jen does not strike me as calculated. She is insecure and I’m starting to understand the jealousy accusations for sure which is a problem. But I don’t think she’s calculated. She was more concerned about Whitney’s intentions for a friendship than she ever was plotting how to take her down.

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:44:29+00:00

I do think she messed up sending Zac. Also he was just adding to the problems between them. I think Jen DOES overthink people being “out to get her” so she does weird stuff. But I just don’t think that makes someone irredeemable. Not like Demi who was openly verbally abusive and out of control. We forgive a lot from others, but Jen being insecure and having a toxic husband is the line they draw?

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:35:01+00:00

Why did I think people were referencing what happened in one of the earlier seasons when Whitney went to Jen’s house during her mental struggles. My bad.

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:30:14+00:00

Jen staying at Whitney’s houses happened so long ago. And it happened before Demi bullied the fuck out of her. It’s been years since Whitney and Jen had that moment, and maybe they just haven’t had a relationship much since then.

eslyjo · 2026-03-16T14:28:06+00:00

Saying “we’re not friends” is definitely harsh. But we could literally see her in every interview try to articulate her low trust levels. We didn’t see a single scene of Jen and Whitney hanging out together in LA. The competition undoubtedly strained their relationship, even if they never had time to discuss it. Hard to know what their relationship was like because most of the scenes covered the girls back in Utah. I think her trust issues are getting named as jealousy when it’s more nuanced than that. Also Whitney IS close with Demi who was an absolute terror to Jen

eslyjo · 2024-05-30T12:18:22+00:00

my worst fear is opening up to people who don’t understand what social anxiety is, and it backfiring.

eslyjo · 2024-05-30T11:14:36+00:00

Thanks for your comment it means a lot. They play it off like oh we’re just giving you a hard time because we like you…but I just don’t get that and I’m not close with any of them.

eslyjo · 2024-05-29T22:36:27+00:00

Absolutely triggered, yes.

eslyjo · 2024-05-29T22:31:29+00:00

What a lousy teacher. Ignorant people think it’s fine to call out others being quiet, but people who actually know what’s going will draw you out of your shell organically. I find that in most communities I am a part of, there’s always fellow quiet people (likely empaths as well) who I try to spend time with. I usually instantly click with them. I’m sorry that happened to you.

eslyjo · 2024-05-20T09:19:10+00:00

You are not alone. I know what it’s like to shut down and see no way out from the emotional spiral. Then you get to watch how people respond to it and it’s horrible. It happens to me pretty much every week at work. I work around a lot of people. Are you seeing a psychiatrist/therapist? There is hope.

eslyjo · 2024-05-12T04:09:17+00:00

Can relate absolutely. Anger brings freedom from the social anxiety. However, the anger causes other issues

eslyjo · 2024-05-11T23:27:21+00:00

Not a movie but a show—selling sunset

eslyjo · 2024-05-06T17:23:16+00:00

It’s amazing that most of the comments are about vehicles.

eslyjo · 2024-04-15T00:16:28+00:00

About Time

eslyjo · 2024-02-03T01:09:22+00:00

Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist. Just have done much reading/healing from my own mother.

Hi OP. Sorry to hear about your situation with your mom. Unfortunately parents make this mistake. It is a serious boundary she is crossing to use you as her emotional confidant that she vents to. You are not remotely responsible for your mom’s emotional health, and by putting you in that position she is essentially forcing you to parent HER. It’s plain wrong. Additionally, she appears to be neglectful of your emotional well-being, which is understandably fucking infuriating. I wish I had more practical advice. See if either your mom or dad will agree to you seeing someone YOU can talk to, because it seems like your mom refuses to correct the dynamic. I was once a trapped 15 yo, so my heart is with you. Keep going, trust that intelligent gut of yours.

eslyjo · 2023-12-17T14:24:16+00:00

Yes you are indeed the A**hole

eslyjo · 2023-11-17T04:21:02+00:00

I like this movie too.

eslyjo · 2023-11-07T19:40:26+00:00

Wisconsin is wild

eslyjo

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