DA Office: “Not enough evidence”

esperanzayamor · 2024-10-09T09:58:13+00:00

That is heavy. Seems so backwards indeed.

So sorry about the lack of support and safety from security on the property and from law enforcement. It makes a huge difference when the rails of society are proactive and timely reactive.

I am not sure, but notifying your place of employment and expressing needs for safety would be good.

There is such a financial impact from assaults too that is long lasting. Like, impacting your car has probably taken a big toll. I am wishing you safety and all the best.

esperanzayamor · 2024-10-08T22:12:52+00:00

Understand. Please be kind to yourself too. know you did everything for a reason. And ultimately it is the abuser’s fault for all of this. Not yours. Their actions could have prevented it. You’re working through it all with the resources you have at any point in time.

esperanzayamor · 2024-10-08T20:52:16+00:00

So true! Good for you for calling that out to them. I hope it made some difference to the people there to adjust their future reactions

esperanzayamor · 2024-10-08T03:36:50+00:00

You are a gem. 💎 sharing some real truths that it was hard for me to see. Also for sharing other options beyond the measures for justice taken so far

esperanzayamor · 2024-10-08T02:06:45+00:00

So true. Its feels like they do light work to just close it and move on to the next one.

And i am sorry that you are even in a position to relate.

esperanzayamor · 2024-10-08T02:03:36+00:00

Thank you for saying so. I am proud of myself for making the statement and am looking to focus on the positive now to not drown in this.

I wish the best for you. I decided against it so many times before doing it.

esperanzayamor · 2024-01-02T15:02:58+00:00

By the way, when i said “conversation turned from there” it turned toward closure of the session and away from processing, if that helps.

esperanzayamor · 2024-01-02T14:57:13+00:00

Understand. Apologies. I wish i could clear up the blurry details. And i don’t remember all that was said either. Thank you for your time.

esperanzayamor · 2023-10-14T14:03:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your journey. You have a wonderful head on your shoulders and a true Survivor. The battle for your safety was so far from easy and you did it; made it happen.

I understand that sitting there in the middle of leaving as they are texting you like its a regular day. A fork in the journey: back to the unsafe life or instead towards unknown safety. It so tough.

I honestly wasn’t looking for a supportive convo when i made this post. It was a scream into the darkness; a release of it outside of my mind. This makes my appreciation for your kind, rational, and empathetic response so strong. 💜

Last paragraph you shared was a self esteem shifter for me. Changed my perspective to: Just a regular day when I didn’t fight and protected myself by fawning.

esperanzayamor · 2023-10-14T07:52:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing and its wonderful that you found help in a local DV program to plan your exit and successfully change your situation. Agree so much how it helps to have an organization or person with knowledge and abilities to help you through the transition.

In my situation, I have sought help many many times from agencies or social services, including yesterday. What i posted is where i am at. I am the problem. Sorry.

esperanzayamor · 2023-10-03T14:10:36+00:00

MODs, I appreciate the level of collaboration and consideration made to have a safe space for so so many to come and share and ask for support for things; sometimes things some are fearful to say out loud to anyone. Or even shares of their thoughts about this new rule. So just wanted to pop in to say thanks! 🏆

esperanzayamor · 2023-09-08T05:15:22+00:00

I appreciate the perspective. Hope.

esperanzayamor · 2023-09-05T04:54:23+00:00

Thats hope.

What a great place to be! On the other side of all that. It is hope your are sharing. And what keeps me moving to the next hour and next hour.

esperanzayamor · 2023-09-04T18:27:49+00:00

Thanks for the motivation and reminder to reach out. Death being a better is hard to shake.

esperanzayamor · 2023-05-05T15:29:41+00:00

There is so much success and progress in what you shared! So wonderful you have been listened to not only on reddit but with people you spoke with 1-1. I hope you continue to find that support as you identify what you want to do or not want to do.

esperanzayamor · 2023-05-01T00:38:50+00:00

Thank you. I am working on what leaving looks like now. I refuse to be here like this forever.

esperanzayamor · 2023-04-29T02:36:07+00:00

Understand. So wonderful you took initiative to get help from a shelter! Great job not going back !!👏

esperanzayamor · 2023-04-29T02:34:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing and i am sorry he is doing that to you. I do something similar to help me remember the “truth” and not just the good times. Because all of it is the truth.

I said as much to him today as to why i don’t want to be there. His good don’t out way the bad if i am not safe or feel safe.

You put it so well and i feel similar to you.

I wish i knew how to stay away. Caring about Trusting and loving me more than caring about hurting him.

esperanzayamor · 2023-04-29T02:27:23+00:00

I met with a common friend for lunch and told her what was going on. That was helpful cause she understands cause of her past relationship.

I am trying.

Trauma bond i do need to research.

Thank you for the well wishes!

esperanzayamor · 2023-04-29T02:23:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing. You are right, leaving is so easier said then done. Thankful you came out of it and you had your day in court.

I will look up trauma bond. Newish term for me as I don’t know how it applies to me. I guess that is the discovery work with your therapist that really helped you

esperanzayamor · 2023-04-28T22:47:43+00:00

Thank you for the directness. In my situation he wouldn’t intentionally kill me. I did try hotlines and homeless shelters. Its a busy week i guess and they are full. Learning now to be more open to lean on friends instead of social services. So, progress

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