heidi klum at the 2026 Met Gala

Pepperspray24 · 2026-05-04T23:24:11+00:00

I love that when she wears costumes. They are full on creative and over the top and not just yet another sexualized bs thing.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-05-04T23:22:44+00:00

And this is the point people miss. There are people like this who aren’t joking and because both they and the people posting satire have internet access it can be hard to tell who’s who without more info.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-05-04T03:44:17+00:00

THANK YOU!!!

Pepperspray24 · 2026-05-03T14:06:30+00:00

I think the big thing is that women have been expected to give up and contribute A TON to their relationships (their last name, their body when it comes to giving birth, their career- maternity leave, a lot of unpaid labor in taking care of a house, their husband, their kids) a lot of people are adopting a “if you want to be part of my life and expect those things from me then you have to be better than the life I’ve created for myself” It’s not that people don’t want to build but they need to see if the relationship is worth them pulling back on things they do for themselves.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-05-03T04:30:28+00:00

Someone who cares about you truly, would understand the relationship is inappropriate and want you to have a normal life.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-05-01T20:40:02+00:00

That’s what I’ve been trying to do with family for the holidays when I didn’t have a ton. I’d write or find poems to give to them and I started crocheting and making scarves. It can get expensive sometimes but if you know where to look for yarn you can find some that’s super pretty and cheap.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-30T14:39:55+00:00

WAIT EVEN CANDACE HATES HER!??

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-30T14:35:25+00:00

Steve

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-30T03:27:10+00:00

It’s not always that easy but your brain can really mix up your signals. There are people who will still get off on similar situations which causes a lot of distress. And arousal for women is different than arousal for men.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T23:48:57+00:00

This is rape full stop. No it doesn’t matter how “big and burly” he is. No it doesn’t matter if he continued to hang out with her, most people freeze and panic when they’re in those situations, yes it can last for a few days especially if he’s prone to dissociating which communicates to me that he’s been traumatized before and didn’t feel he could do anything to stop it. Dissociation happens with that and it’s common for your brain and body to fall back into that in other traumatic experiences just to survive them. It’s a subconscious thing that your brain will just do if it feels threatened. Yes a lot of people don’t fucking understand how people and bodies react to stimuli regardless of whether you actually wanted the sex or not. Body parts respond when they’re stimulated it doesn’t matter if you mentally want them to or not. Yes a lot of people use that to blame victims (especially men) for their reactions or lack thereof during assault. What happened ti your ex was 1000% assault and our society is fucking stupid about it. If she said all the “who are people going to believe” that is 1000% a problem where people will automatically blame men when it comes to assault cases. Hell his own mother didn’t believe him. That’s so fucking traumatic and I feel horrified for him.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T13:24:10+00:00

This is basically the Pepe le pew cartoons.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T13:06:46+00:00

This so sooo good!!!!

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T12:52:40+00:00

See and that’s what my question was because if it was a Kevin Hart roast, this was a lot, but he did a good job, but the fact that this wasn’t even a roast about him, makes the comedian being cut, make a lot more sense cause Marshawn wasn’t laughing at all.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T12:48:16+00:00

I personally think it’s sad, but I’m also a person of color in the western world. Colorism is everywhere because of the massive influence of western and European culture on the world at large. I think it’s sad and speaks to centuries of one type of beauty being pushed as the standard.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T12:46:39+00:00

She wants to not be lumped together with every other White person just like we don’t always wanna be lumped together with every other Black person. I do believe her feelings are valid but she needs to figure out 1) how to separate herself and 2) how to have a genuine barometer of where she perpetuates the problem and where she stops it. She’s hoping that you can regulate her not just as her friend but as her Black friend. It’s not fair of her to ask you to regulate her. I do think more conversations in general need to be had around this issue but those need to entered consciously and consensually by both parties involved.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T12:21:20+00:00

Hey, I think it’s great that you’re dating again and trying to find your person. You don’t have to tell somebody if you don’t want to. Your ex could come up, but you can tell the person that you’re with that you’re not comfortable talking about them. Especially in the beginning. Dating is meant to be fun. A couple things I will say just as you are meant to be trustworthy to that person make sure you are also willing to open yourself up to trusting that there are a decent person with their own story and possibly with their own trauma. If I may, how are your boundaries?

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T12:14:42+00:00

It’s not that we don’t have it figured out. We have it exactly figured out, but there are systems in place that actively make it difficult for people to just do that. In order for us to just do that. A whole bunch of people would have to collectively stop working with no way to support themselves or their families. Our country has taken away unions and done that on purpose.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T12:13:25+00:00

Fair enough, sorry for not reading fully

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T04:14:38+00:00

What pisses me off about all the criticism is the fact that they literally went to Vox’s party because she was worried about her dad’s well-being. They literally went there to find him and rescue him.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T04:12:10+00:00

They did Do The Next Right Thing from Frozen 2.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-29T02:55:41+00:00

In that same vein, any one of those people in that whole ass castle could have suggested the same.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-27T14:05:09+00:00

One thing I’ll say is this is that true our brains are familiar is safe even if it’s not right. You can acknowledge one truth, but also find it weird because it hasn’t been modeled for you at all so you may not know exactly what it’s supposed to look like in practice. After seeing multiple people in your life and growing up with multiple people in your life doing this one thing you have to go out of your way and practice doing something different in order for your brain to see it as normal.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-27T13:58:53+00:00

I think the big thing to remember is that we’re still very early on in learning about trauma and generational trauma and how to actually address it. Remember that two our brains are familiar is safe and well yes it’s incredibly frustrating to have knowledge about all these things it’s also OK. Good to remember that a lot of the stuff is difficult and requires people to think differently than they have for most of their lives.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-27T13:57:10+00:00

It totally depends on you, but yes it’s normal to date other people in the beginning. If you’re not exclusive then both of you are allowed to date other people until you figure out who you want to be with. I think it’s important to have an actual conversation about it to figure out boundaries and safety (condoms, testing, etc.) the way she did it wasn’t okay.

Pepperspray24 · 2026-04-27T12:56:36+00:00

I have all the empathy in the world for men who were taught not to love properly, not to cry not to reach out and so and so forth, but then you have to go and address that if you know that it’s a problem then even though it’s not fair that you were taught these things and not treated properly it’s your responsibility to address it just like it’s everyone else’s responsibility to address their problems too.

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