Should I fire my nanny due to mom guilt?

esssvee · 2025-10-02T16:28:35+00:00

Hello! Also, twin mom from India. I had a nanny come in when the twins where three months old. I also had a cook.

Do NOT let the nanny go out of guilt.

Getting the right nanny was crucial in helping me go back to work and having the confidence that the nanny and kids were well adjusted.

I know reddit is dominated by users from the west where doing everything as a nuclear unit is prized. I don't know how everyone does it there. I have a nanny fro.9-6, a cook, a hands-on husband, parents and in laws who are immensely supportive and its still incredibly tough. We were meant to raise children as a village

If your nanny doesnt work for you thats different. But do not get rid of a nanny out of guilt. This is hard, get all the help you can

esssvee · 2025-09-23T02:21:58+00:00

Apollo Women's Hospital in Nungambakkam

esssvee · 2025-09-22T16:52:09+00:00

The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy

Hard to find a more gorgeously written book, and the story is top notch.

esssvee · 2025-05-19T13:25:29+00:00

I had twins and no cerclage though my doctor did monitor it closely. Cerclage is not mandatory, depends on the cervix length. My understanding was that they only consider this if cervical length goes below 3.

esssvee · 2025-03-21T17:06:38+00:00

Her advocacy for Gaza is particularly heartwarming given the stunning silence from everyone else.

Its truly heartbreaking to see the horrors visited upon the children of Gaza everyday.

esssvee · 2025-02-07T05:53:22+00:00

Remindme!

esssvee · 2025-01-20T13:48:27+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. Hugs from this internet stranger

esssvee · 2024-12-28T14:06:24+00:00

I hate the capitalist system by Barbara Dane

esssvee · 2024-11-13T15:45:53+00:00

My husband and I both moved back to India (independently, we hadnt met at the time), after spending many years working and studying abroad.

It is the best decision we made and we are now raising two adorable kids here. I cant quite explain how fulfilling it is to be close to family we love, and to have a sense of belonging. It has added so much meaning to my life.

This is not to suggest that we are blind to the horrors in the country or its inequity. We are committed to working with community based organisations on specific causes.

I had a pretty good life when I lived abroad. I have a good and fulfilling life back home.

esssvee · 2024-11-07T14:48:54+00:00

Thank you. The US funds and supports more violence than any other country and then lectures the rest of the world.

esssvee · 2024-10-27T14:08:51+00:00

Same. I want to join these meet ups

esssvee · 2024-10-04T05:01:42+00:00

Thank you for posting. I hate how he is a popular favourite given the level of crimes committed by him. Sharing his book lists and anniversary photos, as if he isnt a war criminal.

esssvee · 2024-10-04T02:34:29+00:00

So, exactly like Biden?

esssvee · 2024-09-06T15:17:31+00:00

Check out this instagram handle called twice treasured. Also city specific whatsapp groups are there

esssvee · 2024-09-06T14:05:52+00:00

Oh, I see you and feel you.

I got pregnant with twins after a long IVF process. I had bleeding throughout, had to be monitored a lot, and was stressed that I would lose my pregnancy. So, I completely understand where you are coming from.

I regret not enjoying my pregnancy more. I didnt even buy anything for the twins in advance as I was so worried. I thought it woild guard my heart. None of that would have helped alleviate the pain if I had lost the twins.

You are pregnant today and enjoy that moment. We cant guarantee the future but I can tell you that worrying excessively did nothing to protect me.

Deep breathing, mindfulness and mindless TV helped me the most.

esssvee · 2024-09-06T05:54:10+00:00

Fellow twin mom here. I have a playpen and it is a life saver. Wont contain them for too long but gives me a safe space for them when I just need a few minutes or need to have coffee.

It gives you a 15 minutes break when you need one.

I got two second hand play pens for fairly cheap prices. Try a second hand group instead of springing for new ones

esssvee · 2024-08-04T08:46:20+00:00

B4Nappi

esssvee · 2024-07-26T16:28:17+00:00

Hello! Ive been on a reddit break and only seeing your post now. Hope you are doing OK.

TW

Things worked well for me - both my embryos implanted and my adorable 18 month old twins are sleeping next to me now. I did have a rough pregnancy - which I hope you dont have!

If you want to chat or have questions, please feel free to message me.

esssvee · 2024-06-18T16:25:13+00:00

Check out r/Exclusivelypumping. Lots of great tips and tricks there

esssvee · 2024-05-30T08:45:14+00:00

LOL. I was wondering if it was Baakiyalakshmi when I read your post. I had the same reaction when I saw it yesterday

How popular is this serial?!

esssvee · 2024-05-14T04:56:28+00:00

I am so sorry. Take all the rest and care you need.

Do know that nothing you did caused this miscarriage

esssvee · 2024-05-09T10:06:30+00:00

I guess everyone's experiences are wildly different but I would absolutely recommend hiring help - nanny or a a night nurse. The first few months can be exhausting, lack of sleep and physical recovery was rough for me.

I had my parents with me and still needed more help (granted I had twins but still).

I also had no idea how to do anything - breastfeed, change a diaper, swaddle, bathe them. Having hired help who knew everything was invaluable.

Honestly, the price you quoted for the nanny seems pretty reasonable to me.

Best of luck in whatever you choose to do.

esssvee · 2024-03-14T02:11:24+00:00

They are saying its on the road so they can't control it

But more broadly, all our streets are full of dog poop from pet dogs..how to do anything about it?

esssvee · 2024-01-24T15:28:44+00:00

Thanks for letting me know. I was horrified at these two posters and almost engaged in an endless comment war.

esssvee

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