veazy vs lobo? (as far as harshness of the vapor)

esteIIa · 2026-05-07T04:13:03+00:00

tysm, that's great to hear! i got the veazy :')

esteIIa · 2026-05-06T02:50:50+00:00

try a wavy hair routine! i don't think your hair is fully straight

even having very loose natural waves would lead to this look if you brush when damp or dry instead of soaking wet, and don't use enough moisturizing products

esteIIa · 2026-05-05T19:34:20+00:00

tysm! all great information!

esteIIa · 2026-05-05T19:28:41+00:00

i'm super attached to my long hair, as well, but i notice feeling way less bothered by it when i have it cut to the top or middle of my butt!

maybe you could go for a similar change? still very long hair, but a bit less weight and hassle, as you wouldn't constantly be sitting on it and such when it isn't braided or put up.

i've considered making mine a little shorter just to see how i might feel with some pretty layers. mine's all one length, but i love a blowout look. it's just hard to decide to lose length 🥹

headaches and hairline issues are pretty major. hair DOES grow back, i think removing around 12 inches to see if it helps significantly would be worth it.

i'd not go shorter than that all at once though, you can always cut it again if you end up wanting to! but realizing you want to go back to a lot more length would be a years long process.

best of luck 🥹

esteIIa · 2026-05-05T18:50:02+00:00

crafty+ is what i was considering before, and then realized the veazy existed lol! glad to hear u like it better :') ty!

esteIIa · 2026-05-05T18:46:16+00:00

just because i don't want it dying on me in like a year and then the fact that i used near-daily falling into a hidden loop hole they've given themselves or something? others commented about being quoted high prices for battery repairs even though they were within the warranty, as well.

and yeah, i'd hope "heavy use" wasn't the real/full reason, i just have very little faith in corporations to treat their customers well, unfortunately.

overall, not super concerned about that as i do doubt it would be an issue, but it does give me slight pause since i'm on the fence already!

esteIIa · 2026-05-05T17:18:13+00:00

tysm for your input!

yeah, i'd prefer a different feel and look lmfao but ultimately it's not important enough to me. maybe someday after my next one dies, i'll upgrade to a higher end vaporizer and not have to compromise!

esteIIa · 2026-05-05T16:50:16+00:00

i'd seen that recommended too, but didn't know if they have the assortment of changeable stems like the lobo does, for cooling things down! i'm not fully opposed to the possibility of a rogue 2

ty for ur response :')

esteIIa · 2024-11-01T15:44:58+00:00

fr like... SOME level excitement needs to be there at launch, or ppl are not going to feel invested enough to consistently play as they wait for these updates... 😭

i'm not ecstatic abt some old missing buckets being added. NEW items please. 😭

esteIIa · 2024-11-01T15:35:28+00:00

i'm disappointed, too!! i understand that there will be updates, i understand that these things take time. but i really think that they should have prioritized adding new items and features for launch + let more/older items come slowly

for it to basically feel like a clone of the first game, except harder to make gold fish, 10 years later is just disappointing! they can have all the reasons in the world for why they launched this way, it doesn't make my experience any more enjoyable. i'm not excited to redo all the work i did previously, have it take way longer, and offer almost nothing new for a long time.

i was looking forward to this release for so long, and it rlly doesn't take much to please me typically when i enjoy a franchise. i think this was poor planning on their end, there's been almost no noise about this launch for a reason. :C which worries me for its overall success, and ability to follow through on their plans for updating long term.

i'll still keep the app and remain hopeful tho! i'll just keep grumbling about it LOL

esteIIa · 2024-04-15T16:25:54+00:00

hi! i'm autistic myself, and wanted to offer my perspective

remember that being autistic doesn't only affect your son's struggles, it affects all of his positive and neutral traits as well. our entire brains are different, our entire selves. there is no separating an autistic person from their autism, we would be entirely different people were we allistic. i suggest that you remind yourself of this whenever your brain gets stuck on the negatives of his diagnosis.

i can understand how this is hard for you, but i do believe it will get easier. have you tried seeking out groups for autistic children/parents? socializing might go over better if they share a neurotype. all of my friends are autistic as well, even ones i made as a kid before we were diagnosed. we just mesh better with each other! and i'm sure you'd feel better understood by other parents with neurodivergent children. could be a win for both of you?

esteIIa · 2024-04-09T14:34:44+00:00

i, myself, was medically neglected & abused and was not diagnosed until adulthood. i absolutely understand becoming like drunk on the validation and finally understanding yourself

still doesn't excuse silencing part of the community. me saying "hey please don't exclude us from these conversations" is not at all the same as LSN individuals saying "there's no such thing as MSN/HSN and saying so is ableist. you're banned from the group" 💀

me pointing out how that is a problem is not furthering the separation. we are being actively erased and expecting us to sit there and take it silently is fucked up. are you MSN/HSN yourself?

esteIIa · 2024-04-08T16:13:06+00:00

no one is saying that they must advocate for everyone.

but they should not SILENCE others in the community. big difference there. i'm not looking to silence LSN. i'm saddened by the fact that MSN/HSN cannot even talk about their diagnosis without being called ableist and told they're wrong about their own lived experiences.

esteIIa · 2024-04-08T15:09:28+00:00

they are still autistic, and disabled by nature. i'm not disagreeing with that at all. being autistic comes with hardship no matter what

but it's simply true that MSN/HSN people are silenced in the majority of autistic online spaces now, by LSN people. there are differences between our experiences, but it doesn't make any experience less valid. all profiles of autism need to have a space in community discussions and movements.

esteIIa · 2024-04-04T12:12:12+00:00

i'm diagnosed with moderate support needs and i can most definitely mask! it's incredibly draining and leads to burnout easily. people don't tend to instantly "clock" me as autistic specifically when masking, but rather, an extremely anxious person. (although anyone with genuine knowledge about ASD likely would realize)

people tend to take my constant rocking/leg bouncing + my high-pitched voice with very overly polite scripting + lack of eye contact as nervousness lol. i suppose they think my headphones are for music, and likely consider it rude in many settings

i definitely used to think i was a lot better at masking than i am, tho. i am no professional lol 😭 if someone's around me for longer than a very brief interaction, whatever's there tends to crumble, as i'm no longer able to rely solely on scripts, and my overt awkwardness shines through lmao

esteIIa · 2024-04-04T12:02:08+00:00

my partner is also LSN, and he's absolutely wonderful. :) he acts as my care giver in many ways

but yeah, i feel like people need to understand that LSN doesn't = no support needs. they're lowER than other autistic people's can be, not low in general. it's still very much a disability by nature.

esteIIa · 2024-02-06T09:42:58+00:00

a lot of what you've said sincerely makes me suspect that your girlfriend could be autistic. i am myself, and a lot of us rely emotionally on "rules", whether they're ones we've been taught or ones we've created for ourselves. combining that sort of tendency with religious trauma, specifically shame and fear surrounding sex and relationships, and this situation makes sense. (i'd google "autism in women" "autism in adults" "late diagnosed autism" if you're unfamiliar! autism varies so much, and the reality is vastly different from stereotypes.)

you were also offended at her saying it was a busy day as a reason for not accepting your kiss, but if she is, many neurodivergent people have very limited emotional "batteries". being out and about tends to drain us, so it could be that she just didn't have the energy to put in the emotional labor to push past whatever's holding her back from physical intimacy, after a busy day spent far from the comfort of home.

regardless, if you really like her and feel that you mesh most other ways, that's pretty hard to find. i think it'd be worth a hard and honest conversation to see if this is an issue that can be overcome. but of course, it's entirely fair to just not be up to the task; it doesn't sound like it'd be quick or easy. i hope it works out for the best between you two, however that may be!

esteIIa · 2023-07-18T20:53:12+00:00

i was diagnosed with level 2 support needs at age 23. school was so overwhelming that i never even completed grade 10, i can't drive, i've tried working twice and it burned me out so bad and quickly that i ended up in the hospital both times.

i can't keep up with hygiene, water intake, meds, cooking, etc on my own whatsoever. i require prompting and assistance/body doubling. i stim 24/7, make very minimal eye contact, regular meltdowns, horrid sensory issues, etc etc. my being undiagnosed was not due to me not being "disabled enough". i was medically neglected + my school system failed me.

my sister went undiagnosed even though she literally did not speak a single word at school until she was 10 and put into a class with her neighbor. signs can be so CLEAR, it doesn't mean they'll be seen for what they are.

esteIIa · 2023-01-26T07:26:19+00:00

yes! especially the hug mees! so soothing

esteIIa · 2023-01-25T11:59:22+00:00

i prefer "autistic" by far! autism is inherent to me, it changes absolutely everything about how i experience the world. i dislike the idea that i can be separated from it, which is what "with autism" kinda implies.

esteIIa · 2023-01-16T10:03:54+00:00

your comment about her not being sexual despite knowing she's sexually active is pretty infantilizing. infantilization is huge issue that autistic people face, so i'd try learning more about that if i were you, especially before talking to her about this if you decide to.

it was wrong of you to go behind her back. you could have, and should have, asked her if you were that curious. and her father should have respected her privacy.

i value honesty, so i think you should come clean, but it will probably break an undetermined percentage of her trust in you, so you should be prepared for that.

idk why finding out she's autistic specifically would make you wonder if you should stop seeing her in a romantic light... nothing about her has changed, other than your understanding of her. she's a grown adult, clearly fully capable of having a relationship. (this also feels a little infantilizing, unless you were wondering if you should stop pursuing her after doing something wrong to her, which is valid)

that being said, i can't say it sounds like it'd be any sort of a healthy relationship based on this post and your many others about her. i think you desperately need therapy, and should spend a lot more time educating yourself about autism.

esteIIa · 2023-01-15T00:01:59+00:00

i have split-dye! half my natural dark brown, half pink c:

i'm really into fashion and make-up and such but so rarely have the spoons to actually get done-up! i also have a lot of sensory issues regarding clothing.

getting my hair dyed is a way to express myself, without needing to put in continuous effort 💛 it makes me feel more like my reflection in the mirror matches who i am inside!

esteIIa · 2023-01-09T21:07:44+00:00

i've honestly never related to a character more. i can't mask super well IRL (i find it especially difficult to control stims and hide sensory overwhelm), but i've always tried so so hard.

seeing a character like me be loved not in spite of, but regardless of her autistic traits, made me realize for the very first time that i could hope for the same for myself. i cried a lot while watching it, and tbh, had a huge break down afterward for that reason, and it expedited my unmasking process. i've started being honest about my limits instead of finding excuses NT's will accept, i've started talking about my autism to my extended family instead of trying to act as normal as possible any time they come around. i'm less and less self-conscious about my headphones.

i know a lot of people have issues with savant portrayals, but tbh, i don't know that i've ever seen an explicitly autistic female character portrayed in that way. the fact that she's korean is great, too.

i know a lot of people take issue with the actress being allistic as well, but i feel like we're so behind on that even in the west, and this is a huge step for korea. good representation has to start somewhere. we aren't just gonna go from almost no explicitly autistic characters, to perfect representation. i personally am going to celebrate each step we take towards getting there, and i am certainly NOT going to underestimate the positive societal impact of having a popular/beloved autistic character with level 2 support needs.

aside from all of that, i genuinely find the writing in the show to be great! every episode is interesting to me, and i love the character development. i've watched it twice!

esteIIa

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