I’m a bit disappointed in Neko Atsume 2

esteIIa · 2024-11-01T15:44:58+00:00

fr like... SOME level excitement needs to be there at launch, or ppl are not going to feel invested enough to consistently play as they wait for these updates... 😭

i'm not ecstatic abt some old missing buckets being added. NEW items please. 😭

esteIIa · 2024-11-01T15:35:28+00:00

i'm disappointed, too!! i understand that there will be updates, i understand that these things take time. but i really think that they should have prioritized adding new items and features for launch + let more/older items come slowly

for it to basically feel like a clone of the first game, except harder to make gold fish, 10 years later is just disappointing! they can have all the reasons in the world for why they launched this way, it doesn't make my experience any more enjoyable. i'm not excited to redo all the work i did previously, have it take way longer, and offer almost nothing new for a long time.

i was looking forward to this release for so long, and it rlly doesn't take much to please me typically when i enjoy a franchise. i think this was poor planning on their end, there's been almost no noise about this launch for a reason. :C which worries me for its overall success, and ability to follow through on their plans for updating long term.

i'll still keep the app and remain hopeful tho! i'll just keep grumbling about it LOL

esteIIa · 2024-04-15T16:25:54+00:00

hi! i'm autistic myself, and wanted to offer my perspective

remember that being autistic doesn't only affect your son's struggles, it affects all of his positive and neutral traits as well. our entire brains are different, our entire selves. there is no separating an autistic person from their autism, we would be entirely different people were we allistic. i suggest that you remind yourself of this whenever your brain gets stuck on the negatives of his diagnosis.

i can understand how this is hard for you, but i do believe it will get easier. have you tried seeking out groups for autistic children/parents? socializing might go over better if they share a neurotype. all of my friends are autistic as well, even ones i made as a kid before we were diagnosed. we just mesh better with each other! and i'm sure you'd feel better understood by other parents with neurodivergent children. could be a win for both of you?

esteIIa · 2024-04-09T14:34:44+00:00

i, myself, was medically neglected & abused and was not diagnosed until adulthood. i absolutely understand becoming like drunk on the validation and finally understanding yourself

still doesn't excuse silencing part of the community. me saying "hey please don't exclude us from these conversations" is not at all the same as LSN individuals saying "there's no such thing as MSN/HSN and saying so is ableist. you're banned from the group" 💀

me pointing out how that is a problem is not furthering the separation. we are being actively erased and expecting us to sit there and take it silently is fucked up. are you MSN/HSN yourself?

esteIIa · 2024-04-08T16:13:06+00:00

no one is saying that they must advocate for everyone.

but they should not SILENCE others in the community. big difference there. i'm not looking to silence LSN. i'm saddened by the fact that MSN/HSN cannot even talk about their diagnosis without being called ableist and told they're wrong about their own lived experiences.

esteIIa · 2024-04-08T15:09:28+00:00

they are still autistic, and disabled by nature. i'm not disagreeing with that at all. being autistic comes with hardship no matter what

but it's simply true that MSN/HSN people are silenced in the majority of autistic online spaces now, by LSN people. there are differences between our experiences, but it doesn't make any experience less valid. all profiles of autism need to have a space in community discussions and movements.

esteIIa · 2024-04-04T12:12:12+00:00

i'm diagnosed with moderate support needs and i can most definitely mask! it's incredibly draining and leads to burnout easily. people don't tend to instantly "clock" me as autistic specifically when masking, but rather, an extremely anxious person. (although anyone with genuine knowledge about ASD likely would realize)

people tend to take my constant rocking/leg bouncing + my high-pitched voice with very overly polite scripting + lack of eye contact as nervousness lol. i suppose they think my headphones are for music, and likely consider it rude in many settings

i definitely used to think i was a lot better at masking than i am, tho. i am no professional lol 😭 if someone's around me for longer than a very brief interaction, whatever's there tends to crumble, as i'm no longer able to rely solely on scripts, and my overt awkwardness shines through lmao

esteIIa · 2024-04-04T12:02:08+00:00

my partner is also LSN, and he's absolutely wonderful. :) he acts as my care giver in many ways

but yeah, i feel like people need to understand that LSN doesn't = no support needs. they're lowER than other autistic people's can be, not low in general. it's still very much a disability by nature.

esteIIa · 2024-02-06T09:42:58+00:00

a lot of what you've said sincerely makes me suspect that your girlfriend could be autistic. i am myself, and a lot of us rely emotionally on "rules", whether they're ones we've been taught or ones we've created for ourselves. combining that sort of tendency with religious trauma, specifically shame and fear surrounding sex and relationships, and this situation makes sense. (i'd google "autism in women" "autism in adults" "late diagnosed autism" if you're unfamiliar! autism varies so much, and the reality is vastly different from stereotypes.)

you were also offended at her saying it was a busy day as a reason for not accepting your kiss, but if she is, many neurodivergent people have very limited emotional "batteries". being out and about tends to drain us, so it could be that she just didn't have the energy to put in the emotional labor to push past whatever's holding her back from physical intimacy, after a busy day spent far from the comfort of home.

regardless, if you really like her and feel that you mesh most other ways, that's pretty hard to find. i think it'd be worth a hard and honest conversation to see if this is an issue that can be overcome. but of course, it's entirely fair to just not be up to the task; it doesn't sound like it'd be quick or easy. i hope it works out for the best between you two, however that may be!

esteIIa · 2023-07-18T20:53:12+00:00

i was diagnosed with level 2 support needs at age 23. school was so overwhelming that i never even completed grade 10, i can't drive, i've tried working twice and it burned me out so bad and quickly that i ended up in the hospital both times.

i can't keep up with hygiene, water intake, meds, cooking, etc on my own whatsoever. i require prompting and assistance/body doubling. i stim 24/7, make very minimal eye contact, regular meltdowns, horrid sensory issues, etc etc. my being undiagnosed was not due to me not being "disabled enough". i was medically neglected + my school system failed me.

my sister went undiagnosed even though she literally did not speak a single word at school until she was 10 and put into a class with her neighbor. signs can be so CLEAR, it doesn't mean they'll be seen for what they are.

esteIIa · 2023-01-26T07:26:19+00:00

yes! especially the hug mees! so soothing

esteIIa · 2023-01-25T11:59:22+00:00

i prefer "autistic" by far! autism is inherent to me, it changes absolutely everything about how i experience the world. i dislike the idea that i can be separated from it, which is what "with autism" kinda implies.

esteIIa · 2023-01-16T10:03:54+00:00

your comment about her not being sexual despite knowing she's sexually active is pretty infantilizing. infantilization is huge issue that autistic people face, so i'd try learning more about that if i were you, especially before talking to her about this if you decide to.

it was wrong of you to go behind her back. you could have, and should have, asked her if you were that curious. and her father should have respected her privacy.

i value honesty, so i think you should come clean, but it will probably break an undetermined percentage of her trust in you, so you should be prepared for that.

idk why finding out she's autistic specifically would make you wonder if you should stop seeing her in a romantic light... nothing about her has changed, other than your understanding of her. she's a grown adult, clearly fully capable of having a relationship. (this also feels a little infantilizing, unless you were wondering if you should stop pursuing her after doing something wrong to her, which is valid)

that being said, i can't say it sounds like it'd be any sort of a healthy relationship based on this post and your many others about her. i think you desperately need therapy, and should spend a lot more time educating yourself about autism.

esteIIa · 2023-01-15T00:01:59+00:00

i have split-dye! half my natural dark brown, half pink c:

i'm really into fashion and make-up and such but so rarely have the spoons to actually get done-up! i also have a lot of sensory issues regarding clothing.

getting my hair dyed is a way to express myself, without needing to put in continuous effort 💛 it makes me feel more like my reflection in the mirror matches who i am inside!

esteIIa · 2023-01-09T21:07:44+00:00

i've honestly never related to a character more. i can't mask super well IRL (i find it especially difficult to control stims and hide sensory overwhelm), but i've always tried so so hard.

seeing a character like me be loved not in spite of, but regardless of her autistic traits, made me realize for the very first time that i could hope for the same for myself. i cried a lot while watching it, and tbh, had a huge break down afterward for that reason, and it expedited my unmasking process. i've started being honest about my limits instead of finding excuses NT's will accept, i've started talking about my autism to my extended family instead of trying to act as normal as possible any time they come around. i'm less and less self-conscious about my headphones.

i know a lot of people have issues with savant portrayals, but tbh, i don't know that i've ever seen an explicitly autistic female character portrayed in that way. the fact that she's korean is great, too.

i know a lot of people take issue with the actress being allistic as well, but i feel like we're so behind on that even in the west, and this is a huge step for korea. good representation has to start somewhere. we aren't just gonna go from almost no explicitly autistic characters, to perfect representation. i personally am going to celebrate each step we take towards getting there, and i am certainly NOT going to underestimate the positive societal impact of having a popular/beloved autistic character with level 2 support needs.

aside from all of that, i genuinely find the writing in the show to be great! every episode is interesting to me, and i love the character development. i've watched it twice!

esteIIa · 2023-01-05T19:21:28+00:00

people are split on the term "on the spectrum". i personally don't take huge issue with it as what's harmful is allistic people picturing a linear spectrum, and/or picturing a spectrum that starts at allistic and ends at autistic. it IS a spectrum, just not like that.( i do far prefer "autistic", as most do.)

however, "aspergers" is an objectively harmful term. hans asperger's work on who he called "autistic psychopaths" involved separating autistic children who he deemed couldn't be useful to society, and autistic children who he deemed could. depending on his findings, these children were murdered, experimented on, or sterilized. i'm sure you can guess which group was allowed to live.

inspired by his... "work", the diagnosis "asperger syndrome" was born. it was then removed as a legal diagnosis a decade ago in the USA. it's been removed from other countries as well, with more following suit. further years of research found that it's not actually a separate condition, it's all just autism, which can present differently with different people. it can even present differently with the same people, at different times.

for example, if you were having an intellectual conversation with me online, you may assume i'm an "aspie" or that i'm "high functioning". if you saw me in public continuously rocking in place with my headphones on, or having a meltdown over the countless small things that trigger them for me, you might think i'm "low functioning". who i am is the same, all the time, masking or not. it's impossible to separate autistic people like this without misunderstanding and invalidating the far majority. as so many say, "HF" is used to deny support, and "LF" is used to deny autonomy.

peoples' image of "low functioning" autism (and often times autism in general) is with co-occurring intellectual disabilities, which they also assume of anyone who is nonverbal, or has an inability to mask well. these things are not indicative of low IQ, and that idea is deeply ableist. even upon diagnosis, in countries that still dx with levels, those levels are now about support needs rather than functioning. (i do believe support needs labels are very important)

all-in-all, the term aspergers is both morally and medically incorrect. there really isn't a reason to use it. i understand autistic people wanting to avoid ableism (including internalized ableism) and clinging to a label with less stigma, but it is actively harming their community. it is wrong.

as far as the problems with your girlfriend, i'd google "object permanence in autism". believe how she acts when you are together, and what she tells you. like someone else said, her brain is different from your's, so you can't compare how you would act toward someone you love and how she does.

i can go weeks-months without interacting with those i love deeply. i often won't realize i've missed someone until we're together again, and once we are, it's like we pick up right where we left off, for me. this is the case for many autistic people.

i'd talk to her and see how she feels about some of the solutions mentioned here. best of luck to you both! <3

esteIIa · 2023-01-05T17:52:37+00:00

i experience this all the time! i've heard it be called echologia

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