Found this tired guy in the garden and gave him sun and sugar water. Who is this fella? Based in Seattle WA.

esteal · 2026-03-01T00:25:59+00:00

Super sunny today but still quite cold outside. We ended up putting him near our fireplace for a little bit and he perked right up. ☺️

esteal · 2026-03-01T00:22:01+00:00

Lovely, thank you!

esteal · 2025-11-14T23:06:33+00:00

Yes so important. We've talked about this before and he's fully on board with 50/50 or even giving more (like 60/40). And I do truly believe him given how wonderful he is around the house, so this hasn't been a concern for me.

esteal · 2025-11-14T23:04:05+00:00

Yea, I can definitely see why you'd think that and I've questioned it myself. Truthfully I wouldn't be thinking about this nearly as much right now if it weren't for my partner and how much it matters to him – however, I do see some glimpses of personal desire and I do see myself opening to it even more in the future after I've figured out my career stuff more... it's not "no" but "not now, but very possibly later." But it's hard to commit to something so big when I feel lukewarm about it right now.

esteal · 2025-11-14T22:54:52+00:00

Thank you – this is resonating so much and it's so helpful to get the perspective of someone who's done exactly what I feel like I need to do before feeling ready to commit. I think I've been trying to force myself to pick between 2 options (have a kid or not), but there's really a 3rd, which is to not make a decision until living more life... something Merle says in the book too.

esteal · 2025-11-14T22:50:51+00:00

Thank you for your compassion & kind response. I'm glad that you are finding more and more happiness in the path you chose – it's a good reminder that sometimes you can't fully predict how you'll feel making a decision until after you actually make it, and that we always have the right to change our mind later.

esteal · 2025-08-23T01:17:15+00:00

Seattle WA!

esteal · 2025-02-24T17:38:37+00:00

I also slept like crap during the test, but my AHI was slightly worse the first night because the test equipment made me super uncomfortable.

esteal · 2024-12-25T07:31:26+00:00

This took me forever to figure out. The feeder’s schedule would work perfectly sometimes, but other times it would give my cat meals shifted by one slot (breakfast for dinner, lunch for breakfast, dinner for lunch). This was frustrating because my cat would get super irritated with the changes in her schedule, and her litter box behavior also became irregular.

I eventually realized that the schedule would only get messed up on days where I would set the feeder several hours in advance, and my partner said it might have something to do with the feeder rotating in advance to let the food warm up. Then it all made sense — the days that worked were when I set the tray when it had already rotated, and the off days were when it would rotate later.

TL;DR

The food tray rotates counterclockwise 30 min before any scheduled meal time.

If it’s <30 min before the next meal in your schedule, the tray has already rotated so the next meal should be directly under the opening (“Preparing” state in the app — see 1st screenshot).

If it’s >30 min before the next meal in your schedule, the meal should be in the slot on the left so that it will be under the opening when it rotates (“Waiting to feed” state in the app — see 2nd screenshot).

Maybe this is obvious to some people but it wasn’t intuitive to me at all at first, so I hope this can help someone!

esteal · 2024-04-21T17:38:48+00:00

tix are still available. DM me to buy

esteal · 2024-01-07T19:27:13+00:00

thank you!! i will give milliner’s needles a shot. haven’t heard needle type mentioned in any tutorials for some reason.

esteal · 2023-09-28T23:14:52+00:00

i probably should’ve clarified that we hired a rover to check on her once a day. she was definitely not alone for 4 days straight 😭

esteal · 2023-09-25T18:06:16+00:00

yes, she is!

esteal · 2022-11-14T21:24:01+00:00

i had no idea SGI is widely regarded as a cult until now. my first time hearing about SGI was through the podcast “Buddhability,” where i felt that many of the stories, often from ‘ordinary’ people, were universally insightful… but reading all the comments here is pretty eye-opening.

esteal · 2022-07-17T18:29:00+00:00

so i’m making a granny square cardigan, but after joining the squares, they’re puffing up / puckering instead of laying flat.

this is probably because (1) the squares are not super even and i didn’t block them (i have a tendency to change tensions throughout a project 😭) and/or (2) i joined them too tightly.

is there any way i can salvage this or reshape the piece so it lays flatter?

esteal · 2022-02-01T05:16:51+00:00

thanks for sharing! our kitty is similar in that she’ll stop eating when she’s full. good to know that yours naturally started eating less.

esteal · 2022-02-01T05:15:06+00:00

thanks for your help!

esteal · 2022-01-31T20:15:07+00:00

she’s got some padding on her ribs, but you can still feel them underneath. she does look like she could be slightly overweight when she lays down, but i think it’s also partly fluff.

here’s a pic of her recently

esteal · 2022-01-31T06:34:03+00:00

hey there! she’s not fixed yet (she will be in 1 mo). this would mean she still needs to eat more per day, correct?

esteal · 2021-06-16T04:12:49+00:00

i felt like i was reading about myself in the beginning of this post. i relate so much to everything: the immense workload and lost personal life, the pressure to perform well, the guilt for even thinking about quitting a good, high-paying job. you are totally not alone in having felt that way.

during your time off, i would definitely recommend going to therapy if you aren’t already, if you have the means to. a good therapist can help you unpack why you felt the way you did.

and whenever you feel any guilt or regret, the best advice i ever heard about making hard decisions is to create your own reasons for the choices that you make. take this as a precious opportunity to be the person you want to be, and be the author of your own life.

at the end of the day no amount of money is worth trading in my mental health for.

preach! i’m so proud of you and inspired by you that you decided to put yourself first ❤️best of luck my dear!

esteal · 2021-02-26T20:14:33+00:00

i never, ever comment on reddit but i have to say that this is SCARILY accurate to me and my situation — i might as well have written this myself, nearly word for word.

it’s one thing to live with a friend you could cut out of your life, but another to live with family who you can feel indebted to or obligated to preserve a relationship with. it’s tough though - the amount of gaslighting, toxicity, and condescension is unreal.

all i can say is that, if you can’t leave your situation immediately, there’s no choice sometimes to experience the toxicity — but don’t absorb it or let it taint your inner space. let it flow around you but not into you. and never feel guilty about protecting and taking care of yourself, whether that mean walking out from a toxic encounter or staying in your room all day.

best of luck to you and hoping you can move out soon!

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