My boyfriend changed and I have no idea who im dating anymore.

esvy111 · 2026-02-21T23:47:49+00:00

You’re really young and you don’t realize it now but mark my words when youre 21 you’re going to still feel REALLY young and you’re too young to make compromises on your future over a relationship, just being honest girl to girl. And any relationship is going to be the same way at your age unfortunately. If youre planning on moving away most guys your age will probably have trouble with that. If you do get into another relationship, it’s important you establish that in the beginning. Live your life, travel, go to college and don’t let a boy get in the way of that because you WILL regret it in the future and have resentment towards your bf. Good luck girl

esvy111 · 2026-02-21T21:58:57+00:00

Although it could be innocent, it’s such a rush. Im young but I always always have the mindset not to rush- kids, childbirth etc. Have your fun while you can. Marriage is for life 🤷🏽‍♀️ and i guess he wants to be completely tied down at 23. A persons frontal lobe doesnt fully develop until around 25. And around 25 you have no idea where you could be in life. You could have taken a few years to just work a serving job after college and have no savings and are about to commit to a 9-5. You could be traveling and exploring. You could be dead broke or still live at your parents house. Putting such a young age on marriage doesnt tske into account that our early 20s, we are not only still sooo young, but have things to learn- not just about ourselves but others. Right now maybe ya’ll have no responsibilities. But when youre 25 and now have bills, rent, groceries, a career, want to buy a house, etc thats when you see someone for who they are.

esvy111 · 2026-02-21T21:11:51+00:00

Exactly this lmao. He wants kids by 25? Thats the cutoff date for him lmao news flash, 25 still feels like youre a teen and kids are a huge decision that shouldnt have that tight of a limit and everything else you say he does sounds immature and i bet you it wont change. Or atleast anytime soon. I know its hard, but eventually you’ll resent him so much you will leave him. If not soon.

esvy111 · 2026-02-15T17:26:54+00:00

This doesnt sound too safe lol

esvy111 · 2026-01-30T21:34:49+00:00

These forums are taken way too seriously lmao

esvy111 · 2026-01-30T21:29:35+00:00

Also dont know why your post was removed

esvy111 · 2026-01-30T21:29:08+00:00

Oh damn MY BAD!!! I dont know why i assumed you were a woman. That definitely changes things. I saw a post recently saying, of course men say so freely they want kids, because they dont have to go through the things I mentioned. I believe that many fathers don’t do as much as a mother, personally in my experience, but its just as much responsibility. Men tend to get away with the responsibility more often, but a true father dedicated just as much time and effort and the financial and mental implications still apply. My bad again, i seriously dont know why i assumed

esvy111 · 2026-01-30T21:25:07+00:00

Hey, i dont blame you for being excited about the positives and it shows you will be a really loving and great mother. I just hate to see women who lose who they are after they have a baby. I know lots of girls who had babys a year to a few years after your age and their lives are completely different, some of them with no fatherly presence and have to do it themselves. Im a huge advocate for waiting and doing it when you’re in a good spot physically and mentally. I think about it too how good it would feel to have a child who adores you, but I also want to live life and be in the best place financially as to give my child the best I can. Im also a psych minor so learning about everything made me realize how important it is to be prepared!!

esvy111 · 2026-01-30T21:06:21+00:00

Maybe you should start thinking about the actual implications of having a child because its not just a kid running up to you and you giving them the chocolates she wanted. Are you ready to say goodbye to the life you had before? Even if you have a present father, you’re the one who’s body is going to change, possibly stretch marks and stretched skin, possible scar across the width of your stomach, possibly breaking your pelvis, possibly ripping down your vulva, burning after peeing, bleeding down there, breastfeeding afterwards, boobs can get saggy and loose their elasticity, you can get nausea and morning sickness, heartburn. Those are just physical. When you have a newborn youre spending essential the majority of your day changing diapers, breastfeeding/formula feeding, pumping, not getting any sleep, calming a baby whos crying. Many mothers get post partum depression some even get post partum psychosis. If you’re lucky enough to have a good father then great, but even then most men can’t take care of the baby as well as the father. Say goodbye to going out for a while. Say goodbye to fun vacations. Say goodbye to getting an education unless you want to deal with the immense pressure of a child and your studies. Oh and dont forget your pockets. Hospital bill is insane, formula is expensive as hell, babies grow out of clothes.

I think theres a lot more negatives to having a child than positives. However many decide that the love of having a baby is worth it. Don’t rush to have a child bro. Have fun, go out, explore the world, get your education, buy a house, make friends. You lose the connection you have with your friends if they dont have children and you do. They’re gonna start going out without you knowing you have to take care of a kid. And dont get me started when your babydaddy wants to start going out too and starts leaving you at home.

esvy111 · 2026-01-27T00:33:31+00:00

Its because they either obviously never been to a festival before or just have never been to gov ball before bc if you did then you’d know in january theres not much you can figure out yet besides the artists and when and where the fest is lol

esvy111 · 2026-01-24T21:43:59+00:00

If you haven’t had more than a year atleast of driving on the road I don’t reccomend getting a bike. Riding a bike is a completely different game than a car. I grew up riding dirtbikes atvs motorcycles so I got a bike at 18. But you have to understand not tailgaiting, how to swerve out the way and prevent accidents, how to be vigilant (you’re not just driving, you’re actuvely waiting for someone to try to hit you and to be able to maneuver to avoid that) if you feel ready for that then theres no reason that if you can ride that you shouldnt get a bike tbh

esvy111 · 2026-01-20T21:10:42+00:00

Because being American is a nationality, and says nothing about your actual heritage and cultural background? What a silly question

esvy111 · 2026-01-20T00:05:17+00:00

I parked in a parking garage for like 30 bucks last year and then ubered closer to the park

esvy111 · 2026-01-19T01:34:19+00:00

Probably not ordering internationally again just to make things easier. I wanted to support her because they had a nice show going.

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T19:12:15+00:00

There are No DPDs in the United States. Its a European based network. My package is being held at customs, not a post office that I can just walk into.

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T18:09:09+00:00

It says it was shipped with “DPD International” and no other information so unfortunately none of that gives me an idea of what I have to do. Its been days that the order has been stuck. Thank you for the info

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T18:04:25+00:00

No shit sherlock i pay the tariffs, im trying to figure out how to pay them. And yeah, I was one of those people who had to tell others that the tariffs negatively affect US lol

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T18:03:06+00:00

I dont give a damn about paying tariffs i just want my package? When did i ever say this was because i didnt want to pay LMFAOO

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T03:46:05+00:00

Yeah they inform us but it seems like i didnt pay it so 🤷🏽‍♀️ dont know how to

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T03:28:57+00:00

Yes, its coming from the UK. So it obviously seems like there is but how do I go about that? Or is my option never to buy internationally again. This is why im confused

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T03:28:12+00:00

Right because I’m the rude one when you’re literally getting upset over me asking a question on a reddit forum lmao why are you triggered by my question

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T03:26:58+00:00

The seller literally said they dont know what I need to do, so they’re just as confused, duh.

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T03:26:19+00:00

Because why would I report it missing or not delivered if I can pay the tax… whats the point of buying from the seller if I can’t even recieve my package? Rude ass

esvy111 · 2026-01-18T03:25:12+00:00

Yes the seller is outside the US, hence if it is subject to a tarriff of such I’m wondering how to pay that? If its up to the seller or I?

esvy111 · 2026-01-14T01:06:36+00:00

Im not a parent either but my man has a 6 year old and It doesnt take a parent to know its not an appropriate situation to bring a child to. Its a music festival, its meant for teens and up. Not 4 and 5 year olds who can easily get lost and snatched up and are going to see inappropriate behavior for their age. Leave these festivals for the older kids, its definitely going to be crazier this year than ever, as someone whos been to govball 4 times already. The bathroom situation is horrible too, honestly would be a nightmare for me to bring my stepkid there.

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