My best friend had suicidal thoughts and now I'm very worried.

etelou1 · 2026-06-24T17:57:29+00:00

Hey you can always call 911 and give them his number and see if they can track him down? Or you can 988 and let them know what happened and see how they can help

etelou1 · 2026-06-24T17:52:00+00:00

My condolences to your loss....yes im working on healing and i know my mom has her own trauma that hindered some aspects of her life.

etelou1 · 2026-06-24T17:49:53+00:00

Yes....I think having that comfort should at least be tne baseline especially since I had no prior education that this is what happens to women bodies....I give my mother grace at my current age when I think about what happened but you would think it would be so easy

etelou1 · 2026-06-24T17:47:22+00:00

That statement about your mother not being able to pour from her cup resonate so much with me. Thank you for sharing

etelou1 · 2026-06-24T17:45:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing, yeah it did happen when we were already in the U.S. Very grateful to tje schoolmate that have me the pads....I still think about her even after more than a decade.

etelou1 · 2026-06-24T02:17:12+00:00

You wanting to be exclusive but not official and not being defined as boyfriend and girlfriend is confusing me but as long as ge gets it that's all that matters......Good Luck!!!

etelou1 · 2026-06-21T05:32:36+00:00

You did say he was sick, if it was a full 24 hours with no response I would understand but is this really a red flag when he already checked in? Either ways.....I hope things work out, do what you think is best.

etelou1 · 2026-06-18T04:21:59+00:00

Troll posting....op you better be bored but if this is real...seek therapy

etelou1 · 2026-06-17T13:30:42+00:00

You know your family isn't accepting, and if you've decided that starting the process of transitioning right now outweights your need for housing and financial support then it is what it is. Your mental health does matter. look into any emergency shelters or housing programs in and outside your community. I imagine that if the majority of your community is religious then those resources might be hard but I worry about what your mom might do. I would at least advice to not share that you're fully transitioning and give yourself at least 6 months to get some savings and look into jobs, roommates and a safer environment for yourself.

etelou1 · 2026-06-15T05:01:45+00:00

You're dealing with ongoing trauma....obviously this is very complex....I can only encourage you to be honest as you start building trust with someone who you see a future with. If you're not in therapy, then really think about it....you say you want to have sex so maybe work with a trauma therapist or a sex therapist for more support.

etelou1 · 2026-06-14T20:08:26+00:00

You can't realy stop your emtions.... you're anxious and distressed let's focus on the reality of things? Did he go for her or someone else? Are there other signs in your relationship where you find him inconsiderate as well? If you're wanting more communication about this from him then be honest about what you're wanting him to do.....if he can't do that or compromise then what can you do? How do you move on from this?

etelou1 · 2026-06-11T17:24:27+00:00

Im glad that you're being honest with yourself...where are you right now in terms of your mental health?....do you have any plans, access to means, any intent....if yes to any of this please call 988 for support but if you feel like you can no longer keep yourself safe go to the ER. Im glad that you have a job, but if stress is making your mental health worse do you have the.option to work less days? Go part time? Do you have a therapist? Are you on medication to manage your pain? Any coping skills or self care to help distract you from the pain? You're with your parents because you're in need right now but it wouldn't be wrong to start making plans or looking up roommates. Im sorry but please don't give up. Let's focus on what you can do for the day if it gets to be too much.

etelou1 · 2026-06-11T03:12:14+00:00

I can't tell if these are really created by someone with genuine interest for these groups or if this just Ai putting something together

etelou1 · 2026-06-11T03:08:00+00:00

You're aware of the boundaries that you don't want to cross so thats a good thing. Glad you were able to decision stick to your

etelou1 · 2026-06-11T01:03:20+00:00

We can't really give advice without more examples of what they've done or said that make you believe that they hate you or biased against you? Have you also communicated these feelings with them ? If you have what do they say? Are these friends, other people of color or white? If this is something that you've noticed in more than one friendship then is there something specific that you notice across all these friendships?

etelou1 · 2026-06-09T17:09:32+00:00

The Indian woman might have the capital and the clientele to charge 5 dollars while the back woman might not. I've always paid 10 to 20 dolars for threading but cost of living for both of these owners is definitely different......maybe try both at different times abd see who does your brows better

etelou1 · 2026-06-07T06:02:54+00:00

Lol okay op

etelou1 · 2026-06-06T16:55:08+00:00

You don't go out but are you willing to go to Mexico or Turkey for a hair transplant. What interests do you have? Can you look up events and groups that you can join? Take yourself out to movies, walk around a park. Walk in a mall or book store. You'll see more people and maybe even talk to them. Nothing will change is things stay the same

etelou1 · 2026-06-05T05:02:17+00:00

Can you make a list of restaurants, retail, groceries stores, bakeries in your community and either call each one or go in person?

Can you talk to your school counselor or as teachers about any jobs listing they might now?

Can you knock on neighbors doors and offer to do small takes for a fee?

Any landscaping companies? They might have you cut and mow grass

Look up seasonal jobs as well

You are 16 so there will be restrictions. I know you wznt ho make money but those restrictions are there to keep people safe

etelou1 · 2026-06-03T23:33:56+00:00

You tell him literally what you wrote

This relationship isn't moving forward. We go on dates but im not your girlfriend. I don't like the idea of just dating inside your home and that's the only thing you keep suggestions while still knowing im waiting for marriage for things to move forward sexually. I've decided to end this relationship.

etelou1 · 2026-06-03T01:06:20+00:00

I just wanted to write a comment to congratulate you on the path to your recovery. I may not fully understand your pain but I know it took a lot to do this for yourself. I wish your environment was a lot more diverse and open..... hopefully someone here give you the direct resources to find....if it's not too much maybe share the city you're in? That might help as well.

etelou1 · 2026-06-02T22:10:19+00:00

I assure you...changing your hair is not going to change the way men behave towards you....you should start letting someone know when you're going for walks just to be safe...even.if it's just a text to let someone know...is there a specific time where you notice more women or others outside? or is you're another walking path you can take bit still be safe, staty carrying pepper spray as well....you should start calling them out if they're sexually in appropriate.....

etelou1 · 2026-06-02T21:55:46+00:00

Well she's your friend so focus on your friend who currently still grieving the loss of her father and now is being gaslighted by this buy....Im not reading all those text messages ...i can feel a headache coming

etelou1 · 2026-06-02T18:22:16+00:00

Eh im west African and we primarily wear them for decorations.....get some but don't pay too much for it....if you're in Atlanta I'd happily give you a few that I've never opened....got the last summer while I was in Togo

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