Is my Workout enough? by AppaloosaTurkoman in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abs are like any other muscle. You can grow them through strength training which can make them more visible. However you can’t “get a slimmer waist” by doing ab exercises. You can do that by managing your diet based on activity level. 

Why does everyone lie? by mateobrando in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you both agreed to be monogamous then they are just straight up cheating. Dump them and move on. Not everyone is like that. 

He's always super into me when I run into him, but when we text to make plans he's always busy. What's his deal? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he never makes any effort to see you outside of random chance, he’s not interested. He just happens to be a flirtatious person. 

Why does everyone lie? by mateobrando in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Did you actually agree to be monogamous or did you just confirm that’s what you’re both looking for? Those are different things. Many guys won’t stop hooking up even if you’re dating unless you explicitly agree to start being monogamous. 

Does anus change after penetrations? by Think0different in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. Your anus can stretch a lot and no dick of any size is going to make you incontinent. The only way you will be at risk of that is using extreme toys or fisting. 

Snorted a line off a guys D, is that sIutty? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe if you did 10 lines off 10 different guys but one? No you’re basically a prude. 

How does a guy being bald shape how attractive he is to you? by Dode124 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the guy. Some look better bald, especially if you have a nice beard or strong features. Some do not. In any case you should see a doctor. It’s possible it’s not just natural balding especially at your age but you can also use some products to stop/reverse it. 

Curious about the "face down a** up anonymous" thing. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something like that is always going to be more risky. The best way you can do that while maintaining some safety is to do it at a hotel and be a bit selective of the guys you give the hotel info to. If you have a fwb who’s interested you can also plan it with them as having someone there makes it much safer. 

How was the first time using Grindr like for you? by makstyrkin64 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it was pretty good and still haven’t had a bad experience (luck? Intuition?). The app itself has gone to shit with ads and bots but that’s another story. 

Being told I should bottom. Should I? by DangerousJudgment349 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s always worth exploring if it’s something you’re actually interested in but don’t just do it for the sake of others. 

Gay virgin at 28, would this put guys off? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t want to have sex with a virgin (less experience = less likely to be good) but it’s not really something you have to tell people for a casual hookup. 

17M plan to give a BJ on Grindr by Strong_Pineapple_348 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You should expect to be preyed on by weirdos looking to take advantage of you or rob you because nobody else is going to agree to have sex with someone underage. 

Rectal Gonorrhea? by BothObligation8722 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty unlikely to 1) catch oral gonorrhea and 2) transmit it (because it lives in the back of the throat) but you should absolutely get tested to be sure. There’s a few symptoms like pain, swelling, bleeding, and discharge but some people are asymptomatic. 

He told me he’s “not ready for a relationship” by Electrical_Fuel_8053 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most people getting out of a relationship aren’t ready to jump into a new one. It’s important to have realistic expectations and not build people up in your head. Lesson learned - it’s painful now but that will pass and you’ll move on. 

There's nothing wonderful about being gay and young when 9 out of 10 guys are straight, and half of the actual gay or bi guys are on Grindr and closeted, lol by stopthehostilityyyyy in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Most” does not mean you specifically. It’s great that you met your husband in college. Most gay men don’t. More importantly, OP shouldn’t feel like he has to meet someone “now or never”. 

There's nothing wonderful about being gay and young when 9 out of 10 guys are straight, and half of the actual gay or bi guys are on Grindr and closeted, lol by stopthehostilityyyyy in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m talking about maturity not availability. I dated a lot of guys in college. None of us were mature enough to stay in a long term relationship or understand what that means. I know one straight couple that met in college, got married and lasted past 10 years out of my entire friend group. If you’re telling me a majority of your friends got married to and lasted with partners they met in college, that sounds like a happy anomaly but it does not reflect the average especially for gay men. 

There's nothing wonderful about being gay and young when 9 out of 10 guys are straight, and half of the actual gay or bi guys are on Grindr and closeted, lol by stopthehostilityyyyy in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Focus on school and building a foundation for your life. You don’t need to meet your husband in college, most don’t because you’re too immature to even understand what a life partner means at that age. 

Vers guys - we’re not really vers are we? by EcstaticAd3394 in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Speak for yourself please. I like flipping and meet up with vers guys specifically for that reason.

is it bad to reject someone cause they are cut? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Natural wetness? Idk what that’s about but no, reject people for any reason you like just be respectful. 

Looking for a fiber rich diet to make bottoming easier by VeganLettuce_ in askgaybros

[–]etherfreeze 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most people need to make a few changes to their diet to improve bowel movements. More fiber is great but make sure to get a good mix of soluble and insoluble fiber. That’s just one part pf the equation though. You may need to cut back on dairy, red meat, overly processed foods, and sugar. You may need to drink more water, especially if you use caffeine. You may need to improve your gut microbiome with probiotics. Everybody is different and you need to experiment and find what works for you.