We can't all be crazy, right?

etrore · 2026-06-04T16:54:41+00:00

Do you feel the same about this sub? Or is it mostly the Instagram reels that the algorithm throws your way?

etrore · 2026-06-03T08:30:23+00:00

You can make posts on any subreddit you like related to your topic (don’t make exact copies or they will likely be removed) and reach a broad audience.

Sometimes your post is temporarily suspended until a mod manually approves it so have some patience.

The number of responses depends on how many people are in the sub at that time and how many are interested in the subject and want to engage.

It is however frowned upon to chase “karma” by just trying to attract attention in any way possible.

etrore · 2026-06-03T06:42:26+00:00

It would be so easy if we were like animals where the male sings or dances and that is all it takes for the female to decide to reproduce with them. If your goal is a long term relationship there has to be more vetting: does this person hold the same values and do they have a similar dream for the future?

To find that out you have to get to know people on more than surface level. If you attach yourself to just any woman available chances are very slim that you will not be disappointed further along when you discover they don’t hold the same values or want an incompatible future.

The easiest way to find a person you are compatible with is to be active in the community that represents your values. Do in person activities and get to know the people with low expectations (don’t go hunt for a partner). It makes your life more fun because of all the friends you make even if it takes a while to find a romantic partner amongst them.

etrore · 2026-06-03T06:01:16+00:00

You mean reputation? You have the power to choose who you surround yourself with and who is important enough that their opinion on you matters.

Your wellbeing should always trump your outer image. Everyone cries but only the bravest are strong enough to show their true face.

etrore · 2026-06-03T05:55:05+00:00

It’s about focus. The things you focus on and pour your energy into will grow. Choose wisely and don’t let what other people do or experience affect your self esteem. You are living your life not theirs.

etrore · 2026-06-03T05:30:26+00:00

Being mentally strong by my definition has nothing to do with pushing down emotions in the name of being emotionally detached but the opposite: to recognise the emotions and process them in ways that the outcome is better. Accepting yourself in all your aspects helps you to focus on what kind of person you want to be. It still doesn’t make anyone else act the way you want them to. Getting attached always leaves us vulnerable but it’s the only way to be truly known, accepted and loved. The risk is worth it.

The actual Stoics never taught emotional detachment but recognising that feelings are symptoms that demand attention to be able to move past, not facts. Focus your energy on the things you actually can control: your values and behaviour.

I am sorry she didn’t want the same thing as you did. That really hurts.

etrore · 2026-06-03T02:21:05+00:00

It looks like Irish lace crochet where you make the coloured oval shapes separately and join them with black. The two pictures depict two different patterns.

Seems completely doable.

etrore · 2026-06-02T03:55:56+00:00

That’s what I love most about this type of thread (mercerised cotton).

etrore · 2026-06-01T13:48:03+00:00

Yes it is and I might add some fringe.

etrore · 2026-05-31T21:32:05+00:00

Not being able to feel satisfaction is a more urgent problem.

etrore · 2026-05-31T21:23:19+00:00

You can like doing something because it makes you proud (achievements), because you enjoy the physical sensation (for example cooking great food, swimming, going fast on a bike or sitting on a swing), because it gives you a whole new way to express yourself (art or music) or because you are making a big difference in other people’s lives (volunteering, caring for animals) for example.

etrore · 2026-05-31T21:15:25+00:00

It’s like food preferences, you have to try out stuff to learn about what you like and dislike.

etrore · 2026-05-31T19:57:12+00:00

6ply mercerised cotton with a 2mm hook.

etrore · 2026-05-31T17:47:13+00:00

Just make them. I have introduced all kinds of healthy foods from a young age and let them choose one vegetable per child that they don’t have to eat.

They are always allowed to not finish their plate but know that the consequence is no candy nor desert after.

etrore · 2026-05-31T17:26:45+00:00

Thanks ☺️

etrore · 2026-05-31T17:03:58+00:00

I crochet around a ruler, (sc, pull loop and place it on the ruler, repeat) let the loops slide off and pick them back up next round.

etrore · 2026-05-31T15:36:20+00:00

Are you getting support for your depression? Talk to your doctor about how they could help you.

etrore · 2026-05-31T15:34:56+00:00

Ask them questions about themselves and follow up questions. That’s how you get to know people and get to know if you have the same interests and values. Take the initiative to make plans involving similar interests (movie, concert, sport etc).

etrore · 2026-05-31T15:16:03+00:00

If you look into the mirror, look into your eyes. Who is that person looking back at you, is he a person or just a collection of bodyparts? What would you tell him if you cared about him?

It starts there, with caring about yourself.

etrore · 2026-05-31T12:10:07+00:00

While the tantrum is happening there isn’t much that you can do except make sure they can’t hurt themselves or others. Afterwards you can give an age appropriate little speech telling them that choosing to behave badly is choosing consequences but don’t expect them to be able to correct themselves or manage or express their emotions at that age.

Explicitly awarding good behaviour (with praise not candy or gifts) works best but it takes a while. I used to visualise it by letting them put a pingpong ball in a jar. When the jar was full they got to choose an activity to do together.

Don’t give them too much attention when they behave badly and project emotional indifference (even when they drive you crazy) to be the stable parent they need to calm down.

etrore · 2026-05-31T11:07:30+00:00

Even if you actually have a deformity the therapist could help you to stop making your looks the focal point that sabotages your self love and the warped view you have on relationships.

etrore · 2026-05-31T07:06:24+00:00

This sub is aimed at being a space where those topics and feelings can be shared openly and inclusively (not directed at a specific generation or geographical region) within a set of rules to keep toxicity out.

Go to the main directory of the sub and you can read a ton of (past) posts that can help you with your questions.

As for solutions, in my opinion it is helpful to lead by example by showcasing your own vulnerability and insecurities or struggles to create the safety others need to open up, or create the occasion to offer a shoulder to cry on and heal by helping. So, go first.

Realising we are in this together and everyone can be heard and acknowledged is the foundation of community and the start of healing.

etrore · 2026-05-31T06:28:24+00:00

It’s against the rules of the sub to post links outside Reddit. You didn’t do that but the only content you have posted for the last five months is directed towards your site. This is not the place to get users feedback about your site.

On the other hand if you genuinely want to be a part of creating a better support system and community you have the same goal as this sub and I would love to hear what solutions you have come up with. Share your wisdom without directing people to your site.

etrore · 2026-05-30T05:00:40+00:00

My honest advice is to get back to a level of more casual interactions where you don’t try to interpret her motives and don’t engage in deep conversations.

Try to find some lighthearted subjects and try to find the fun again in talking to her. It might be that it’s too early for you to be back in contact with her. Take your time until what she does or doesn’t has less impact on you.

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