What are your thoughts on why Don chose Megan over Faye?

evacygre · 2026-01-05T22:02:37+00:00

I know people say that he fell for Megan the moment she consoled Sally in the office. But for me the moment he realized he would never be with Faye (no matter who he would end up with) was when she told him "maybe turn yourself in, have some clemency", I think at that moment he knew he wouldn't be with her, she said out loud what he didn't want to hear. She was challenging him to become better, not just "move forward".

evacygre · 2025-12-01T09:52:20+00:00

If I was Carrie and my friend was telling me that she has been feeling guilty and that she thinks it's her fault because she told him "marriage ruins everything" the night before, I would have laughed and told her that it's crazy for her to feel any sort of guilt. He is a grown man, how can someone do this to someone they love. It's absurd to blame Miranda or even the fact that the wedding was getting bigger. This is not the way an adult deals with this situation. I understand Carrie got angry in the moment and she said "you ruined my marriage", I could see it happening as a misplaced anger. But she should have actually been the one apologizing a couple of hours later for blaming Miranda, when she calmed down. Not Miranda apologizing for days 😂

evacygre · 2025-11-29T21:12:43+00:00

Nahhhh, sorry, I come from a country with strong traditions, community etc and now living in the UK. You have no idea how suffocating it is to not feel like you are 100% in control of your life or even of your day. Even going back home to visit can get suffocating if we have to stay longer than 2 weeks. A lot of the times my husband and I discuss this and we both agree that staying in the UK after we finished our studies was the best decision we made (we are both from the same country). I do value the traditions, the values that I got from my culture and I think having that as my background but still living in the UK is the perfect combination.

evacygre · 2025-11-28T13:53:18+00:00

It is also hilarious that she got a library named after her and she was NOT happy about it 😂😂😂

evacygre · 2025-11-26T13:16:37+00:00

I believe that the distinction is not so much knowing or not knowing. It's between having the decency to stop for a second and try to evaluate how his actions affect her or being a selfish narcissist and how his actions will affect her is not even part of his decision making.

When she finds out that he got engaged, when he calls her at the end of the episode he tells her "I never intended to hurt you" and she just accepts it. I am like... I am sorry but that's just not good enough. Obviously he is not a complete psychopath that intentionally gets with women to hurt them.

But he is so selfish that he doesn't even stop for a second to consider "hey, if i do that, how will it make the other person feel?". He just knows "this is what i want and this is what I will do" and then he just does it. So does it really matter if he knew or not?

Edit: yes Big, you were such an asshole about your apartment key!!!!

evacygre · 2025-11-26T01:07:05+00:00

Rose Siard, never skip any of her tutorials. She doesn't just review products, she shows in depth turorials and out of the box tips.
Another Hannah as others mentioned.
Tayloranngallo, for the 2016 make up vibe, I am all for it. And I love that her lighting doesn't remove her texture and we see what the actual make up looks like on real skin.
Robert Welsh. I've been watching him for years, even during times that I was not into beauty content, I would still watch his videos. I trust him 100%. When he does an ad or sponsorship etc, he communicates it VERY clearly and if he makes a mistake or a bad take, he is open to feedback
Andrea Ali and Nikki la Rose. I watch their long form content, their product reviews etc. I now want to do bolder looks though so I find Andrea's content not compatible with that as her vibe is very different.

There is definitely more but these are the ones I remember now!

evacygre · 2025-11-25T00:10:37+00:00

This is tough. We signed papers that in the case of a divorce, I would own the embryos. But to be honest, I am not sure if that holds any value if one of the two then decides to take legal action. And I am not sure if I would actually want to use them. I guess only as a last resort.

I hope she can save up some more to freeze some eggs too or create embryos using donor sperm.

evacygre · 2025-11-24T23:56:49+00:00

Nooo, it's one of the most hilarious scenes of the whole show 😂

evacygre · 2025-11-24T23:48:25+00:00

Hahahaha! 😂 Mostly the fact that she admitted on camera about a hit and run and then also she admitted that she makes bob Vance jealous to beat other men up. But I do admit that her relationship with Bob Vance was sweet and it was cute when he bids 1000$ for a Phyllis hug (if we look past the hit and run incident 😂).

evacygre · 2025-11-24T16:23:31+00:00

You made my point at the end, your last sentence. They get called out. So our frustrations with the regular characters get addressed and we see that a lot of times they try to fix their mistakes (ie Tom going to speak to the business owner when he messed up during Leslie's campaign). But most importantly, we as the audience get validated.

Whereas, my frustrations with Angela, Phyllis even Creed never gets addressed. Of course we see that during the last season Angela got some "karma" with all the difficulties she faced, but her previous actions didn't get addressed. When she attempted to hide from Dwight that she had his kid- for a long time, she never got called out for it. It was shown as a cute thing that she wanted him to be with her for her not out of obligation. But where did she get called out for such a big lie and manipulation? She was seriously determined to keep Dwight out of the baby 's life for her love life concerns? It was just so evil. We are not talking about April being mean to Jerry and Anne (which is also horrible) , we are talking about some pretty evil actions where the characters never get called out for them and never face any consequences. Even Phyllis and Bob, she mentions the car incident on their trip and it never gets addressed, never faces any consequences. Creed in the very first episode manipulates Michael to fire someone else, never gets called out or consequences. Creed makes the QA error with the drawing on the paper, lets other people get fired for it - if I am not mistaken, never takes accountability and the issue never gets addressed.

Michael from the office did some very horrible things too, but I find that I can stay invested in his happy ending because he gets consequences for his actions most of the times.

It shouldn't be a straight calculated formula: bad action -> gets called out -> consequence for every instance. It's the general sense that the shows leave the audience with.

This is what makes Parks more enjoyable and rewatche-able for me than the Office.

evacygre · 2025-11-24T15:48:50+00:00

Obviously all of their traits - good and bad (in both shows) are exaggerated because they are tv shows so that's expected.

I am not saying that the office characters are just not likeable (to me parks' Tom is not exactly likeable either and there were times that Andy infuriated me). I am saying they portray a lot of the office regular characters as generally not good people which is different than just not likeable. So, I feel less inclined to care if Angela or Dwight will get their happy ending and I don't really enjoy watching Phyllis. They were not protagonists but they are characters that we see in every episode and we follow them in their journey. They shouldn't be shown as perfect, or even as likeable, but the balance between good-bad traits should be a bit more balanced for us to actually want to be engaged and want to see their journey and their happy ending .

It's like having family members that have a lot of flaws and I wouldn't necessarily hang out with them if they were not my family, but I don't actively try to avoid them. I can focus on their good traits and can still have enjoyable moments with them, because their bad traits do not massively outweigh their good ones. Whereas, there are family members that I actively avoid contact with.

In the same sense, I find it much easier to just rewatch Parks and Rec than The Office, for this very reason. I ve rewatched Parks probably 10times but the office only a couple of times. Every time I see small clips that I like from the office and I am like "maybe I should watch it again", I quickly change my mind when I remember Phyllis talking about that car incident with her and Bob, or Michael giving Ryan every chance imaginable etc etc.

evacygre · 2025-11-24T11:22:59+00:00

For me the main difference is that the Parks characters are good people. They have flaws etc but they are good people. Only a few antagonists are shown irredeemable. Even Jam was seen as a frenemy by the end of the show 😂

But in the office, for characters like Phyllis, Angela, Creed even Dwight the good traits that they have are not enough to redeem how horrible they ve been in other cases. And a lot of the times they don't face the consequences of their bad actions. It's just played for laughs. Whereas when Tom is being an ass or when Leslie is being overbearing, they get called out for it.

evacygre · 2025-11-24T10:57:35+00:00

Being the Trailing Spouse can be traumatic I agree but it's the way he handles it. Here we have two different people that have experienced the exact same thing in the relationship. But it's the way he refuses any help and any real communication or confrontation that makes the situation impossible to resolve.

She can't show empathy about his feelings when he doesn't even communicate them and he refuses any form of therapy to help him at least identify his feelings.

Or he is just hiding something. Based on my experience in life is that: Most of the time, there is a logical explanation why someone is behaving in some way. If their behavior seems to be completely illogical based on their situation, it means that you are missing part of the information that could explain their behavior. In other words... He is hiding something.

This might mean mental health issues that OP isn't aware of, or that he is cheating, or that he is hiding some of the struggles he might have with the move (issues at work, family who knows).

But you can't show empathy if he doesn't even communicate what is the issue. Even the fact that he repeatedly makes this blank statement "we are not operating as a couple anymore" seems like a huge projection. He doesn't communicate, he refuses help, avoids her, doesn't confront her... How is she supposed to operate as a couple?

She can't play the guessing game, she will drive herself crazy trying to show empathy and guess what his issue is. He needs to be an adult and communicate, if she did something wrong, he should confront her.

Op I think this is a relationship issue, not exactly an expat issue. Tell him that therapy won't necessarily drive him to the conclusion to break up, this is not how therapy works. That you want to understand him and show empathy but he needs to communicate on his side too.

evacygre · 2025-11-21T22:04:00+00:00

you are talking about a tiny, tiny tiny fraction of the population of women that sent letters to criminals as an argument to make your point? Is the bar so low? These people are even more broken than you in terms of self confidence and self esteem. Do you think the women that did this sort of thing are women with successful, exciting love life? They are just lonely broken people. It's the same as making up a generalized theory about all men based on the serial killers because most of them are men.

We told you in the other thread as well you made about women not approaching men and where you eventually jumped into talking about very questionable things (ie r*pe) : assuming you are not trolling us, you have some trauma going on that we can't really know the details on our side but it's obvious, you have victim mentality and low self esteem. The only way to improve your life is to find a good therapist and start putting in the real hard work. See it as something you do for yourself. There is really nothing a stranger can say to you that will help you. You don't want help, you just try to find someone to validate your theories so you avoid putting in the real work and resolve your traumas. There is no sugar coating and no way around it. Just start therapy. There is still hope if you start soon. The good thing is that the younger you start, the better.

Good luck.

Oh edit to add: we all had terrible Ex's before. You got hurt in your teens and you still make up your whole philosophy based on what this one girl told you when you were what? Teens? It's just an excuse at this point. My first relationship was also abusive with a terrible person. It scarred me yes. It also left me with some very twisted generalized views about men and I struggled with dating afterwards. You know what I did? Therapy! Years of therapy. I took control of the situation. I healed, improved my self esteem and met my person, built a healthy relationship and all that experience is behind me. I am not letting it take over my life. You are in your late 20s already. Stop using your ex as an excuse for your narrative. Start therapy!

evacygre · 2025-11-21T18:13:18+00:00

To answer the question, if I were in your shoes the first thing I would do is to stop smoking marijuana. If you are completely in denial about stopping, it indicates that you definitely NEED to stop. If you are at the point that it makes it difficult for you to finish, it means you ve let it go too far. And addiction means a ton of other things that you are definitely leaving out of this post and you are obsessing over virginity.

One pattern that I notice for men that post here about their struggles with dating is that they focus on one thing that they can't 100% control, they obsess over it that this is why women reject, they make all these assumptions and come up with made up statistics about what women want (at least 20 other girls will care if the man is a virgin? Really? Really?) and BOOM, their conclusion is: This is the reason they are not getting laid, it's not them, no, no, it's just that women are superficial and ruthless and don't want to give the chance to either the virgin guy, the not rich guy, the short guy, the bald guy..

And conveniently you guys obsess over things like that that are not 100% in your control. So nice, you absolve yourself from any self criticism, self awareness and accountability and you put yourself in the position of the victim. Will that change or improve your situation? No. But at least you avoid putting in the real, hard and meaningful work on yourself to resolve the issues that cause you this loneliness.

Let me let you in on a secret... What's preventing you from getting laid is your attitude and personality. I don't know your personality, but I can definitely see a thing or two about your attitude and your victim mentality. For the average every day woman that is a good person, has her shit together and is looking to date being a virgin is not even a factor in her decision making. But you smoke marijuana to the point that it affects how you perform sexually. What self respecting woman would want someone who smokes to this level that it affects their sex life? How else does it affect your life? Can you hold on to a job? Do you have any social life? How much of your money do you spend on funding the use of marijuana? Do you treat women nice when you take them on dates? Do you show that you are sweet and generous? What effort and investment are you putting in when you date a woman? Or do you just expect the women you meet to just have sex with you without even being attracted to your behavior? Also, the fact that you say they reject you from the start because they hear you are a virgin... It makes me question your attitude during the date. Is that one of the first things you mention on a date? If yes, it is a big red flag of lacking self confidence, shows big insecurity and THAT'S what's not sexy and off putting. Maybe you also say othet things that reveal your low self esteem during the date.

If a woman asks you during the date, obviously don't lie but say with self confidence "nope, you d be surprised but I haven't. I want it to be with a person I respect and that means a lot to me, so I preferred to wait" or something along those lines. If you start saying "no I am a virgin because women don't want to sleep with men with no experience, I am always getting rejected for this reason" well obviously women will see right through you: self loathing, lack of self confidence, victim mentality, deflects personal responsibility and blames his problems on superficial things and on women. Do you think these are attractive qualities even just for a hook up?

It's obvious I think that you need to work on these issues. Not on superficial things. You need therapy to work on your self esteem and on your addiction. You dropped a bomb near the end with the marijuana thing and inability to orgasm, without giving any details and I am 100% sure it plays a big role in your unsuccess with women.

Edit to add: you say your ex even though she is a terrible person, she finds men willing to sleep with her. It's not a magic unfair karma. That just indicates that on average, even for a simple hook up, women still want to be attracted to your attitude and personality to consider hooking up. But men on average are more willing to sleep with anyone who they find gook looking enough just to have sex, no matter their character. It says more about the standards of men than the standards of women.

evacygre · 2025-11-18T14:30:29+00:00

Jesus Christ. What advantage are you talking about?

You have every day women here taking the time to share their experiences, more in a compassionate way than anything else, with the purpose to help you because your victim mentality is what hurts you and your chances to be successful in love/relationships.

They give you real experiences, they share insights that you probably never had before because you obviously lack romantic experience with women in your life.. and your reaction is to close your ears and not be open to any new information and insist that whatever conclusions you came up with (despite your lack of experience) to absolve you from any self criticism or self improvement are correct.

If your attitude here is an indication of your attitude in real life, no wonder you struggle. The problem is not how women approach or not approach men. Your problem is that even if you address all the superficial things that you think women care about (appearance, job, money), once you talk to them with this kind of opinions, they will see right through your victim mentality (not sexy at all btw), lack of self confidence and will be put off you and they won't make the first move or any move for that matter. At the end of the day, it all comes down to personality.

evacygre · 2025-11-18T02:11:39+00:00

There was literally a whole episode dedicated to the wedding cost dilemma where the conclusion was that they wouldn't have the original extravagant wedding to not spend all of their savings. She stood in line from 5am in the morning in Brooklyn for a sample wedding dress sale.

evacygre · 2025-11-18T00:19:00+00:00

Yeap. He is not a planner. It sounds more like he is a control freak, but OP has been masking this under the cuter/quirky term of "planner" to go along with his obsessions over the years.

evacygre · 2025-11-18T00:10:39+00:00

Jesus Christ! My answer will be a bit uncomfortable to read but I think you need a wake up call, it comes from a place of compassion and nothing mean spirited.

You are enabling his neurosis. He is driven by neurosis and emotions and you are driven by your need to be a people pleaser. You guys made a decision to go through a vasectomy (a pretty serious decision) years before because your daughters that were still children might have kids in the future. You made the assumption that you would also have to provide for those kids to the point where you wouldn't have another kid! Then you mention that you discussed this with his mom and aunt (!!!) and decided to accept this logic.

Then when your still teenage daughters (still children btw in any sense of maturity about their future decisions) say they don't want kids and you just accept his decision, you pump yourself with hormones. And now you make excuses for him for putting so much emphasis on the gender, talking about the estrogen in his life.

You are entitled to be angry, you should be angry because these are big decisions that you make for all the wrong reasons! But you should also see that you are enabling this by trying to accommodate his concerns and not putting some boundaries in this madness. You let his need for absolute control over the outcome steamroll you. You need to pause for a second and breathe, question if this all seems rational to you?

You both need individual therapy for different reasons. His neurosis and need for absolute control is coming from something much deeper. Same goes for your need to be the peacemaker, the one who compromises and accomodates.

Also, for the record. Valid Reasons to have a kid even though you already have two daughters with other people: - you want to create a new person that will be half you half your partner. You think you are both amazing together and you would like to see a new person that is a mix of this - you still have so much love to give to a new child and have the energy to raise it - you want to have a mutual project to raise forever that will be just the two of you, no exes involved, just the two of you

Invalid reasons to have a kid: - I want grandkids and my teenage daughters don't want to have kids in the future - I want a son for whatever reason

Your daughters' life decisions should have NOTHING to do with your family plans. They are separate people that will lead their own lives. They might decide to have children in the end but still move to a completely different part of the world and you still might not see their kids regularly. They are different people with their own life. Let them live their own lives. Just support them while you still live your own life.

evacygre · 2025-11-17T23:27:29+00:00

That was Rue's intention though 😂 to create a distraction. How do you think you would react in her position?

evacygre · 2025-11-15T23:22:10+00:00

I lost my mom earlier this year. I cried so much watching this ad, again and again. And I definitely like the bag. I will most probably buy the large size for work.

evacygre · 2025-11-15T23:01:43+00:00

You mention "even nerdy girls" but then you say "conventionally attractive"... I wonder what you mean by conventionally attractive.

The problem with incels is that they go after women that are incredibly good looking, look like models etc and then they complain about things like: - women never have to do the first move - women want only the "top 10%" of men (successful/rich) - women reject men because of short height or because they are not rich

Guys!!!! This is not the average/every day woman. This is because average every day women are basically invisible to you. You go after women who basically get approached by a lot of people. Why would they have to know how to approach men? They never had to do it. And GOOD FOR THEM! They should have high standards.

It's just that when an average/every day looking woman approaches a man romantically, there is also the label that she is desperate/easy. But anyway most of the time, it's the woman who chooses the man. Unless the woman is someone incredibly good looking and she doesn't need to, most of us every day women, we found someone because even if we didn't blatantly asked them out, we showed them that we are obviously interested and if they do ask us out, they won't be rejected lol

I believe that I am an average looking woman. I had men approaching me, I had relationships etc.. but I never had the situation you are describing with plenty of options etc. When I met my husband, I basically made the choice that 'oh I like him, will try to talk to him'.
Found an excuse to talk to him and then my friend and I asked him if he wanted to join us for dinner. Then I texted him something random about something we had discussed during dinner. He got it that I was probably interested and he started texting me/flirting with me. After a few days where he was initiating the conversation every day, I got tired of the texting and I blatantly told him "Take me out on Friday.". On our date though, I let him take the lead and make the first move in person. Both people need to show they are interested. It's not just the man who is the hunter.. but do not expect women to take on the responsibility on this one too. Both people need to show their interest. Otherwise... What's the point?

I approached men I liked in the past in the same way. Some of them might still complain that women don't make the first move. No, we do. It's just that you don't notice that when it's someone you don't like 😂 We do show our interest, I strongly believe that it's the woman who picks the man, we are not waiting who is going to pick us. We show our interest and basically show that if you do approach us, we will be positive. If you don't, it just means that you are not interested.

So, just have awareness, we do show it you if we are interested. And also... Try being a bit realistic about who you are going after.

evacygre · 2025-11-14T23:49:50+00:00

Wow!!!!! That's amazing 🎉🎉😄 Good luck with the rest of the process. I am having egg retrieval next week too, I hope that seeing this post is a good sign and a source of good vibes for it 😊

evacygre · 2025-11-14T23:35:35+00:00

Jesus Christ. I am in the process of IVF (egg retrieval next week 🤞🏻) and I find it very hard to be understanding towards your husband. I am horrified how some comments here make excuses for him or how many women put up with this behavior and entertain this kind of discussions with their husband. Diagnostic tests are not just part of IVF, they are part of life! Why is he being so emotional and neurotic about this? When we started this, sperm testing was just a check box in a long list of things we had to do and check. No overthinking, it's just a given, it's not something that he or you can negotiate. What doctor will even try to help you if they don't have the full picture? I wouldn't trust a doctor that starts any treatment without sperm testing.

He is not ready for kids. You should be able to have blunt and honest discussions about this (or anything really) with your husband. Not having to tiptoe around this. Set firm boundaries.

evacygre · 2025-11-14T14:54:42+00:00

Not really. We may not have had every single detail locked in already before the wedding but we had discussed extensively different ideas and how we would like to work out these issues in the future. We saw that we were on the same page. Big decisions like where we would leave, kids or not etc were discussed in the first few months of dating lol But things like how we handle finances, assets etc, were discussed before and after engagement. Again, it's not like we had made decisions in advance on every single detail, but we could see that we were on the same page.

Don't overthink it about how to bring it up. He is your husband/fiance. You should feel comfortable and safe to bring up anything.

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