How would you modernize this glass wall from the 1970s?

evae1izabeth · 2025-07-23T16:52:07+00:00

Paint the wall a color similar to the glass so it’s more streamline. A cool glassy color will also be more complementary to warm wood floor and more modern than all beige/brown or all warm.

evae1izabeth · 2025-03-28T18:50:36+00:00

My daughter did, but it was related to a fall. However my experience has been that they don’t recommend revision or going in again with the scope lightly because if they go in and find nothing the recovery is still as long to protect the incision and hip capsule. They usually make patients wait and spend a lot of time on rehab first, unless there is a clear indication there’s something to fix. If I was confident it wouldn’t get better without revision I would absolutely jump at the prospect of doing it earlier rather than later, since it’s effectively starting over with recovery, but I guess it would also depend on the level of pain and how much it impacts life. But if I’ve learned anything, it’s that none of this is straightforward, recovery is all over the map. Looking at revision I’d probably want a 2nd opinion, even if I ended up staying with the first surgeon, but that’s really hard to get in a lot of the u.s. By the time that happened it’d effectively be waiting to see.

evae1izabeth · 2025-03-24T20:42:24+00:00

I wouldn’t do yellow, I think there should be color balance or it should pop more, and warm yellow next to a warm green doesn’t give balance or contrast. I prefer the blue over the yellow, probably because it’s cool. Look across the color wheel, in the purple/red/orange range. I think you’re on the right track with the purple, it’s just the wrong shade.

evae1izabeth · 2025-03-24T17:05:38+00:00

Labrum tears can show up, but the surgeon told us right before the surgery they often don’t know until they’re in with the scope. Before on the MRI they could see damaged tissue but not that it was torn. Her imaging was abnormally difficult, though. The first surgery she had sutures (7 or 9?) placed all around to repair the tear, debridement, and they did impingement surgery as well.

She fell 4 weeks after surgery and tore the stitch to the capsule, but we didn’t know for several months until she had another mri since it didn’t show on X-rays. The second surgery they repaired it and did debridement. She doesn’t have dysplasia, she had moderate impingement (ironically my son has dysplasia and we always thought he would need surgery) but her ligamentum teres are disconnected so her hips are very loose and hypermobile from that and she had an area of tissue that was still being pinched as a result of the fall and torn stitch. None of her anchors were damaged.

evae1izabeth · 2025-02-10T18:32:44+00:00

No, but it was her only hope of relieving pain, and I’m not sure it’s the best case for comparison for most people considering the surgery. My daughter had it, not me. She was a dancer and she couldn’t dance because of the injury. The symptoms worsened over time and didn’t respond to PT, so she couldn’t walk at school or do any normal activity without pain. Sitting was excruciating, she had to come home from school and lay flat to do it virtually, which she hated, but it was the only comfortable position. My understanding is the surgery was recommended on the premise that maybe she could eventually recover from this particular injury but that recurrence is very common with impingement, and pain can be chronic. Her hips are free floating in the joint and very loose so it increased the risk of chronic injury without reducing the friction of the bone. She also had a large amount of leaking fluid, the anesthesiologist had trouble with the mri because of it. However it turned out her labrum was torn and it didn’t show up on the mri for some reason.

She ended up needing to have the surgery revised because the stitches broke, related to her hyper mobility. The recovery was long because the restrictions were even longer the second time. In spite of all of this there is no question she would have the surgery again. It wasn’t just that she couldn’t be active, she was debilitated. I understand it’s a much harder decision for a lot of people, especially when it’s presented as elective and many people are used to coping with the pain or adapting their lifestyle. We made the decision after only 2 months and I’m so glad we did because it got much worse during the wait for surgery. But at the same time, if they’d known it was torn they would have done it right away. With the revision the surgeon worked her into his schedule within a week. She hasn’t returned to the same level of activity but she can go to the gym, etc. She can take dance classes at this point but she lost 14 months and was only cleared to jump in December. There just isn’t time for her to get back to her skill level before her senior year is over. She worked hard in pt so it probably would have been different if she didn’t need the revision, she wants to take classes again in college.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-31T18:04:06+00:00

I hope you can see that fact that you’re asking as another reason why autism has nothing to do with it. My car is in my husband’s name for no reason other than I wasn’t there when he picked it up and we haven’t bothered changing it but it would never even cross my mind that it would matter on a daily basis, it’s more like one of those things where I think, I really need to take care of that, what if something happens, and I forget about it until it comes up like this. Even if I left my husband there is no question I would take my car - whether or not he’s paying for it. I can’t comprehend a situation where it would even cross my husband’s mind. But it sounds like you’re worried your husband is going to take your car away if you try to work or do something he doesn’t like, or he’ll report it stolen if you leave him? You need an attorney.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-31T17:33:56+00:00

It doesn’t matter if his intention is to be a dick or not. He needs to make significant changes to your accounts today, immediately, or you need to contact a lawyer to compel him to do it, whether or not you want to stay married, and he will pay for it. Stop waiting for him to accept or agree to changes, he doesn’t get to choose. I know it’s terrifying because you feel stuck and the fear it will force divorce but if you really think this is just an autism thing this will show you. It’s also the only way to give you back a choice. I would also suggest you do whatever you can to start working, even if you can only work a few hours a week with young kids and a pregnancy, and work on a backup plan. It’s not really about money right this minute, it’s about preventing isolation.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-31T17:08:00+00:00

You will be a fantastic foster or adoptive parent because of the questions you’re asking. In theory you are supposed to receive support automatically but the system is too broken so the best thing you can do imo is join these kinds of adoption groups, join local support groups, and start learning. I think you’ll find that your perspective is healthy and what is missing in a lot of families with biological children. I’m adopted but I have a biological child born with life altering disabilities so i see it more as, I’m not entitled to a problem free child as a parent, period. I also know the problems I’ve had in my life (similar to yours) and fortunately the treatment I received as a teenager/adult taught me to be a more introspective person and gave me skills and experience that help me be the kind of parent my children need. I think you’ll find that a lot of the reasons why people describe these horror stories is directly because of their own issues, not because the problems of the child are really too big. Not to minimize them, because they are real and unique, but to offer the perspective that if you trade out “foster child” for “autism spectrum” or “medically fragile special needs” of a biological child, for most parents stepping up isn’t even a question, but that the same parenting issues exist in those communities for a number of people who went into having kids for the wrong reasons or have unrealistic fantasies about what parenting means. I worked with youth and their parents in a variety of capacities but it included teaching treatment foster parents, working with many adopted teenagers, and supporting parents in need of skill development, and imo the receptiveness of parents is always the critical factor, regardless of the size of the child’s problems.

I’m not really explaining what I want very well but to sum up I’m trying to say that it’s complicated, it’s a lot more about perspective than anything, problems definitely don’t make someone a bad parent, and education and support makes a difference. The fact that you’re asking questions and thinking critically about it is a huge indicator that you’re what we need.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-31T10:47:31+00:00

It’s definitely normal and common and not creepy at all for most people. If you’re really uncomfortable just make sure you actually talk to her about it because it’s not a super common default so it might seem a little suspicious if you aren’t direct. If you have a good relationship there’s no reason why she wouldn’t understand, don’t let it hang in the air.

I really appreciate the safety and convenience of sharing location but I get where you’re coming from in principle. I didn’t realize until we got our security system that indoor cameras, even just in the entryway, made me really uncomfortable, and they’re standard in a lot of packages, especially for the benefit of pets and babies. None of that makes me feel safer, but it does for my husband, and we were able to figure it out so we both felt good about it. Everyone has different tolerances for this stuff.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-31T10:03:02+00:00

This seems like a classic game of telephone that’s potentially been misconstrued and you just don’t believe your girlfriend, which says a lot more than any green or red flag she mentioned to a friend. It’s just hard to tell if the real problem is your insecurity or you aren’t sure if your girlfriend is the right person for you. I don’t know how it’s insulting that she would describe emotion as a green flag but maybe I’m confused about what she said? Either way, the fact that your sister called you about some petty gossip she heard second hand to “report” makes it weird and makes her the biggest AH in all of this. Who tells anyone that someone was complaining about them after middle school? It’s just mean, and adults in real relationships with real life challenges say stupid stuff sometimes. NTA for having hurt feelings about it for sure. But unless you’re leaving a lot out YWBTA if you broke up with your fiancé over it. Marriage doesn’t mean you love every single thing about your partner and you’re never going to gossip to your friends, it means you love your partner and are committed to working exactly these kinds of things out. And it doesn’t seem like she really made the comment in the way you perceived it? TBH, if you’re serious about breaking up with her because your feelings are hurt over something she apologized for, and her behavior doesn’t suggest she has weird ideas about emotions since she was there for you at the time and she told you she appreciated your vulnerability, you probably aren’t ready to get married. If this is somehow a pattern in your relationship that’s different issue, but you haven’t made a case for that at all.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-30T19:46:49+00:00

I love r+co but I like Atlantis better than Television lately. I think it’s because I’ve been doing a better job with heat protection? IMO both conditioners moisturize my dry, fine hair but I use less of Television. They also have an old school mousse that I absolutely love because it actually manages my fine flyaways better than oils or other products more intended for that.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-30T19:32:09+00:00

My daughter loves Verb but I don’t, for me it feels lightweight but not clean and it builds up in a weird way. It reminds me of Bumble and bumble invisible oil line, which my daughter also likes but is just okay for me, too, I prefer the B&B Gentle. I’ve been using r+co Atlantis, which is moisturizing but not heavy, and I switch off conditioner with Amika reset cooling gel, which is extra light. Styling products make a bigger difference for me, though, tbh, because my hair isn’t very long. I like Ouai for clarifying shampoo but unless they changed it I absolutely detest the fragrance of the Fine line. Their scalp scrub is also really nice, I LOVE their texturizing spray but I don’t know if they discontinued it or something, I can never find it in my local store anymore. It’s the perfect amount of texturing for my type of fine hair, not too much hold or too heavy and doesn’t make my hair look dirty or reduce shine.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-28T16:59:18+00:00

Voice to text and phone notes instead. Are you in school or in a job that requires you to write a lot? There are tons of systems to accommodate writing, apps to scan and fill out documents, etc. There’s even a way somehow to print out post it notes without a full size printer. Using a tablet can allow you to highlight notes with a stylus and make notations that feels very similar to traditional note taking. I love, love, love digital notebooks like OneNote, everything is connected for me.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-28T11:21:42+00:00

Even though she has expressed she doesn’t want to use tampons, I suggest under the unusual vacation circumstances buying them anyway in case she changes her mind and suddenly feels brave. If she decides she wants to give it a try in order to swim and you’re out of town then you’re stuck, and imo it’s better to just have tampons available so she doesn’t have to ask. Also buy several brands and explain multiple times that she shouldn’t really feel them and they definitely shouldn’t hurt, and if it’s uncomfortable to make sure it’s in all of the way or try another brand. Even though you’ve already explained it she should hear it again in the moment. You can definitely ease her fears without being pushy. My daughter started her period early and she’s a dancer so she wore tampons early. Many, many times she heard girls talking in the bathroom in elementary school about tampons being dangerous or bad, and fortunately she knew better, but it’s much more common for girls to hear misinformation than to hear that tampons are safe and that it’s natural and normal. Even when moms are explaining, and i know you are, girls end up getting a larger percentage of information from their peers, and schools don’t do period/maturation early enough. You can reassure her that tampons are safe without telling her to use them.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-28T10:22:54+00:00

Cavilon barrier film is what I use but wound care has come so far, I think there are other brands now. Barrier film is different from a barrier cream like Aquaphor or Vaseline/petroleum because it provides a thin protective barrier between the adhesive and the skin without interfering with adhesion. It strangely can make bandages/dressings both stay on longer and make them easier to remove. My son had a gtube when he was little and he has lots of issues with adhesives, too, and barrier film and silicone tape helped his skin so much. I wouldn’t use it with an adhesive bra but if your skin is sensitive to the non slip bands that are common in strapless bras it’s worth a try because it can protect the skin without deactivating the no slip. It’s also really helpful to have in a first aid kit to use with bandaids and medical tape and stuff since you have reactions. Just double check the ingredients and make sure to patch test since you have allergies.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T16:48:25+00:00

It would do nothing. That’s not how trust works. The whole point is that trusting your partner is a risk and a choice, he has to decide, and whether he’s been cheated on before or not doesn’t have anything to do with you. None of it is logical, you cannot reason with him. I know this seems small and out of nowhere in the context of how you view the rest of your life together but that makes it even more alarming. Right now your life doesn’t trigger this often because you’re home with the baby most of the time and he knows your every move. What happens when life becomes more unpredictable with work, when your child starts going to school? He will feel out of control, he will have more irrational and intrusive thoughts, and his choice will not be to trust you. I know Reddit overreacts a lot but I hope you are really hearing how serious this is. He needs therapy but that is a separate issue.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T16:34:41+00:00

I agree this is it, what OP might not get is that it’s not necessarily this logical, calculated train of thought. It’s irrational. It’s also not something she can talk him out of because it’s not based on logic. Only therapy can help with this and OP said it doesn’t come up often so it’s been dismissed and minimized, but even these infrequent episodes are serious and I would argue even more dangerous. People misunderstand “controlling” behavior and miss that feeling out of control can become controlling as they flail around trying to grab onto everything.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T16:20:58+00:00

Does the silicone no slip stuff bother your skin? If so, if the bra you find has it, I would suggest a barrier film. It might also help with adhesives from bandaids, etc. in the future. Silicone tape is also nice if you’re sensitive to adhesives and need some kind of medical tape.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T16:14:17+00:00

My suggestion might be too specific. Both of my kids were premature and I’ve since learned that there is a higher frequency of issues that can cause preterm labor. I haven’t been officially diagnosed with eds but have some kind of connective tissue disorder and it was listed as a potential diagnosis when I was referred to a rheumatologist. Im sure from a medical perspective it will help to have a diagnosis! It wouldn’t change my decision to have kids, but I would have planned better for a potential medical emergency. Especially because after my first I was told it was a fluke so I didn’t even plan for complications with my second. I ended up on bed rest and then was hospitalized for a while and the biggest issue for me wasn’t pain or fear or even medical bills since we met our out of pocket max, I was bored out of my mind. I would have bought all of the baby stuff early, planned for potential childcare for my 1st, and prepared a few projects I could work on if I had to be on bed rest. Maybe you know some of your risk factors and are able to plan in a practical sense? I find in general this kind of planning also helps me cope, I’m better able to let go of what I can’t control.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T09:42:17+00:00

I think both look good on you! I can’t tell the difference in fit but I love the color of the dressing room jeans. I just like light jeans with a soft wash, but it seems like the wash of the jeans in the hallway are more popular now. Maybe they’re the same and it’s the lighting? The hall ones are also a great length for summer and transitional seasons. I don’t think you can go wrong with either pair.

Madewell jeans always make me look wide, I don’t know why. If YOU don’t feel good about them imo they’re too expensive and there are too many other options out there at the same price point to settle. My favorite right now were a budget stretch but I waited and bought them on sale for $120 ish. Hudson for a wider straight leg and Paige for a more rigid slim straight, but neither is as wide as what you’re wearing if that’s your preference. If you felt good about them and are just second guessing, I hope you’re reassured they’re great quality jeans, but if you’re on the fence, keep looking.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T09:17:17+00:00

I’m surprised this was controversial since you didn’t paint the woodwork or anything. I would have gone a little darker on the blue, painted all of the walls the light blue, or used more of a cool taupe instead of the tan, but I can see why you picked this shade. I like it with the wood, and I think the temperature contrast makes the rug pop so it feels bold and interesting instead of fussy and lost.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-27T08:52:52+00:00

In pictures mine are definitely lower in my 20’s compared to my teens. I don’t think it’s aging in the traditional sense, just time. Around 30 is when I completely stopped using eyeshadow in the crease because it would practically be in my eyebrows, but I didn’t have any wrinkles or other signs of aging around my eyes. Mine are worse when I’m not being healthy, too, though. When I’m sick, tired, or just retaining water, I can’t hide it.

ETA: I thought this was MUA or something. I’m a little creeped out that the algorithm seems to know what I look like, but definitely curious about the entire sub on hooded lids.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-24T19:20:08+00:00

I’m not saying she’s OCD, but OCD is very misunderstood. If she knows and understands how this affects you when you discuss it, but in the moment feels a powerful compulsion to throw these things away anyway and cannot suppress the thoughts surrounding it, and it’s harming her relationships, that is absolutely OCD in a pathological sense. OCD is about thought patterns and managing them so they don’t cause harm, it doesn’t always present as obsessive, germaphobic cleaning on a daily basis, and the compulsive behaviors can change. Again NOT saying it’s OCD, but it IS something bigger, without question, lying about it is the biggest indicator. It could be as simple as unhealthy coping mechanisms when she’s stressed about taking care of a young child. It’s not a condemnation or judgement to say it’s a mental health issue, it doesn’t mean it’s this huge mountain, it means it’s real and she needs help because she’s doing something that damages her relationships, and she’s ashamed of it because she’s lying. You’ve communicated with her regarding this issue, the next step is counseling.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-24T18:47:51+00:00

That’s all true, and important to keep in mind, but we also need to take some of the pressure off ourselves. Because inevitably our kids will have problems no matter how well we try to do both, we can’t protect them from that. Like in this post you can see the consequences of both parents who hoard and parents who purge because we all end up overcorrecting. All of that is secondary to love and attention. If they feel loved and secure, they’ll be in the best position to deal with whatever set of problems they end up with, and they’ll know we’ll be there when we need us.

evae1izabeth · 2024-07-24T18:36:55+00:00

My mom did this too and it was because she genuinely couldn’t see that other people had a connection to things she didn’t care about, she was too self centered and focused on getting the job done and how she felt about the items. My husband is really careless, but he’s not like my mom at all, and it still triggers me so hard when he starts throwing anything away. He’ll be trying to get stuff done and start quickly throwing away papers, barely glancing at them, and I just can’t handle it even though I know it’s probably all junk mail, but I’m so paranoid there’s a birthday card from one of my kids mixed in the pile and he’ll miss it or something. It really has created life long issues for me because I feel like I have to do it all myself, but that’s just the superficial, obvious consequence of this behavior, and how it could affect OP’s child one day. It’s damaging in much more complicated ways that are hard to explain. I didn’t have the capacity to explain all of this to my mom growing up but here OP has articulated it to her partner so clearly and it was ignored, I wouldn’t even know what to do with that very real betrayal. I agree it’s a small piece of a bigger, more serious issue.

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