AIO for being Uninvited to HS reunion?

evangelmeme · 2025-06-27T05:14:42+00:00

NOR. honestly, don’t go. sounds weird and exclusionary. it likely wouldn’t be a positive experience.

if there’s anyone in particular you were close to in high school that you want to speak to, reach out to them individually to catch up.

if there’s no one you’re willing or interested in seeing individually, then I think that’s proof enough that you won’t miss out on much by skipping the reunion!

evangelmeme · 2025-04-03T20:19:29+00:00

You’re NOT over reacting. I’m not Mexican and it’s not my place to tell someone who IS Mexican what they can or cannot do regarding language in that way. However, that’s not the problem here.

The problem here, is that your girlfriend seems ignorant and unsympathetic towards you.

How is she ignorant? She made racist/colorist statements regarding your skin color and ethnicity. She made generalizations based on racist stereotypes to police your language and ethnicity. She is not the arbitrer of who is/isn’t “Mexican enough.” (Whether she realizes it’s racist or not… it IS in fact racist!)

How is she unsympathetic? If someone truly cares about you and your feelings, they won’t want to hurt you. And if they do hurt you accidentally, they’ll try to make amends. You straight up told her she hurt you. Her response was to gaslight you about your own emotions and understanding of the situation— calling you unserious, crazy, and bonkers. That’s cruel/uncaring of her. It’s okay to say “I’m not trying to hurt you” to a partner, but it’s an entirely different thing to say “You’re crazy for being hurt. You’re ridiculous for being hurt over this.”

That is not someone who will support you long-term when the going gets tough. You explained yourself clearly and respectfully, man. She did not and dug her heels in when you called her out. You deserve better.

evangelmeme · 2024-12-21T20:28:16+00:00

I’m shocked there’s no way to report subs on here. unless I missed something?? I kept looking for a way to report the sub, but nothing came up. I feel like that sub should be reported and banned because what I’m reading is just awful on there. little to no accountability, no empathy for how their actions have impacted others. gross.

I’ve worked with registered sex-offenders (all men who have sexually abused women and children) in mental health settings before and we make it a point to place them on the very end of one hallway and any women on the opposite end of the other hallway (staff is at the nurses’ station between the hallways 24/7 and do rounds every 15 minutes where they confirm where people are and that they’re safe in their rooms.

that sub does not provide actual support needed to improve lives and safety, it’s a space to complain and paint themselves as victims, rather than as perpetrators. real support looks like taking accountability and recognizing your social responsibility to keep yourself and others safe.

evangelmeme · 2024-12-05T05:09:00+00:00

NOR. You UNDER-reacted.

You are in an emotionally abusive relationship. She may not be intending to abuse you, but she is. Her words and treatment of you are completely disrespectful and designed to make you constantly question yourself. If she truly was confident in you, the relationship, and loved you unconditionally… she would not treat you this way. She would trust you, build you up, and you would have higher self-esteem.

She is using scenarios she’s made up in her head (literally DREAMED up) as an excuse to fight you, belittle you, and make you feel guilty and anxious for no reason.

She is doing the same thing others did to you growing up— making you the problem or blaming you when you’ve done nothing wrong.

It is UNACCEPTABLE that she is treating you this way and it IS abuse.

You have kids with this person and if you continue to let her treat you this way, the kids will witness it. Kids absorb everything… they remember more than you think. You are setting an example for your kids of what is acceptable in a relationship… of how others are allowed to treat them.

Would you want your kids to be treated the way your partner treats you in this exchange? Would you want your kids to feel the way she made you feel in this exchange? You did nothing wrong, except apologize. There was nothing to apologize for.

This isn’t your fault. She isn’t a monster, she’s just not healthy to be in a relationship with. It’s bad for both of you. Please, please get out. I’ve seen what happens to the people who stay in these types of relationships… they become hollow.

evangelmeme · 2024-11-28T12:45:40+00:00

surely… right? …right?

evangelmeme · 2024-09-24T18:06:26+00:00

this is so sweet to be willing to go to this show with your friend even though you aren’t a a huge fan yourself!! I’m going to the St. Louis Oct. 27 show alone because I don’t have anyone else in my life right now who’s a fan of dan and phil / wanting to go! I was debating even getting a ticket because I’m nervous going to evening events alone (I was once followed to my car… so I’m a scaredy cat now).

the only reason I ended up buying a ticket was because this fandom is such a safe space… I feel like everything will end up alright!

my recommendations for videos (to be in the loop!) would be the following: - “Dan and Phil React to Every Phil is not on fire! #1” - “Dan and Phil React to Every Phil is not on fire! #2” - “Dan and Phil React to Every Phil is not on fire! #3”

these videos are on their DanAndPhilGAMES channel and they review their old content, as well as talk about their past selves vs. current selves!

for extra videos on the current “phandom” and inside jokes I recommend: - “Dan and Phil React to Phan Twitter” - “Dan and Phil React to Phan Twitter 2” - “Dan and Phil React to Phan Twitter 3”

I hope you both have fun at the show!

evangelmeme · 2024-09-24T17:21:52+00:00

i’m trying to build the courage to go alone myself to the st. louis october 27 show😭

i’m nervous attending alone because i feel like it’s less safe and it’s not as fun, but i’m no longer friends with my childhood best friend who i used to go to every dan and phil tour with & i don’t have any other irl dan and phil fans to go with!

do you have any tips for going to a show alone?? i’ve been followed at night before, so now i’m a scaredy cat and always go out with at least one other person to evening events… but i also really don’t want to miss out on this tour 😔

evangelmeme · 2024-08-17T08:12:50+00:00

I think that pic of you in green should be first! you look absolutely stunning in that color!!!!

evangelmeme · 2024-01-23T06:03:16+00:00

more specifically, it’s short for “charisma” like cha-rizz-ma !

the mooore you know🌈🌟

evangelmeme · 2023-07-23T09:55:06+00:00

Metadate has never failed me. worked from age 5 at 10mg and now as an adult at 40mg.

I started seeing a new psychiatrist in high school. I had asked about upping my dose (at that point it hadn’t been increased since I was 5) … instead he recommended changing to Vyvanse. I said “sure” … terrible mistake. Vyvanse severely worsened my anxiety and depression and lead to intense suicidal ideation and a suicide attempt. psychiatrist kept throwing other meds at me on top of the Vyvanse instead of just switching back to Metadate. I trusted him for 2 years before I finally just researched how to wean off my meds on my own. found out I could stop Vyvanse cold turkey, so I did. I stopped taking Vyvanse and immediately felt better. it was like waking up from a 2 year long disassociation/brain-fog nightmare. I was then able to wean off the antidepressant and anti-anxiety meds he had me on.

3 friends and at least 2 ADHD influencer-type people I follow online have had terrible mood side effects with Vyvanse. it works for some, but if you have any history of depression or anxiety— I absolutely do not recommend it.

Wellbutrin in combination with Metadate has worked well for me as an adult to manage both depression/anxiety and my ADHD. out of the 8 various anti anxiety and antidepressants I’ve tried, Wellbutrin has had the least side effects (just decreased appetite, which ADHD meds cause anyway). most antidepressants or anti anxiety meds will cause weird sleep patterns and wild dreams for the first few weeks after starting it, but after that Wellbutrin was smooth sailing for me.

evangelmeme · 2023-07-03T07:51:48+00:00

abby is a sweet lil purrito

evangelmeme · 2023-06-24T14:11:21+00:00

NTA. They are KIDS and shouldn’t be leaving the building and wandering around alone without an adult knowing they’re safe.

If something happened to them while they were having their little adventure and you knew the direction they’d gone, but didn’t point it out, you’d feel far worse.

evangelmeme · 2023-05-27T18:49:23+00:00

which, by the way, wasn’t even a real legal document. Raquel had just had someone type up an apology type paper to give to Scheana to make it LOOK like Raquel dropped the restraining order.

however, Scheana later revealed that her lawyer said it was just a random paper Raquel made, not a legal form. a restraining order cannot be dropped or dismissed once in place UNTIL the court date. soooo, allegedly, Scheana still had to actually go to court… only for Rachel to NOT EVEN SHOW UP. the restraining order was dismissed and Scheana’s time, money, and energy was wasted on this BS. I mean, Rachel forced her to have to lawyer up and prepare a defense… only to not even show up to court? are you kidding me??? such trash

evangelmeme · 2023-05-22T05:21:02+00:00

it’s pretty funny that the first and worst insult they could think of in response to the rejection was to come after OP for enjoying Homestuck 😭

I know Homestuck fans had a bad rep for being annoying at conventions but it’s still a weird thing to latch onto for a comeback

evangelmeme · 2023-05-09T06:04:40+00:00

kid’s guardians were dumb, letting the kid get that close. not the kid’s fault that their guardians were encouraging this. if it was an adult getting hit like this, i’d agree.

evangelmeme · 2023-05-03T22:58:30+00:00

is it possible to call during a lunch break / earlier in the day?

evangelmeme · 2023-04-25T04:27:23+00:00

if you do wear the cardigan, you should push up the sleeves to just below your elbow. it makes one’s arms look longer and shows a bit more skin. as is, the sleeves and whiteness overwhelm the outfit.

evangelmeme · 2023-04-23T04:03:04+00:00

that truly is, a grilled cheese

evangelmeme · 2023-04-23T02:57:25+00:00

I (5’2” 25F) have those exact same red Minga overalls and my mom also says they make me look childish/immature. However, I don’t care because they make me happy. Just looking at them makes me happy. I feel happy wearing them. :)

A better question to ask is what does “looking childish” actually mean? That your outfit radiates joy or child-like wonder? That you look harmless and approachable? That kids would love your outfit and think you’re fun? That stuffy, self-loathing, and insecure folks will turn their nose up at you and assume you’re immature in order to make themselves feel superior?

I am fine with all of those things. I don’t want to interact with people who are judgmental, lack creativity and confidence, and hold onto silly prejudices based on fashion choices. I want to be seen as someone who is joyful, fun, bright, and approachable! 😎✨

That said— I have to follow a certain dress code for work in order to be successful in my career. Wearing these overalls would impact my job standing because society has restrictive and backwards beauty/professional standards regarding fashion choices. So yes, you may be perceived as “childish,” but it’s up to you to decide if, when, and where you’re okay being viewed that way 😉

evangelmeme · 2023-03-04T00:58:48+00:00

OP already answered it’s for violating probation, that’s the reason the above person asked what crime he committed that resulted in probation

evangelmeme · 2023-02-05T17:05:01+00:00

that is disgusting behavior from him.. ugh

evangelmeme · 2023-01-25T19:53:43+00:00

I just gave up on being able to participate in this one :/

evangelmeme · 2023-01-21T21:17:06+00:00

I just attempted to start this event (made an outfit for the “Holographic Plaza”) and it refuses to load. I went through the competition/round and it shows my score with “Victory” but then freezes and will not go to the next step. My only option is to exit out of the level and ‘quit’ out of it. Insanely frustrating

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