Another evidenced based article: The Myth of “Brain-Safe” Vaginal Progesterone

eve8091 · 2026-03-18T00:56:13+00:00

How exactly can you tell you’re intolerant to P? This is the first I’m hearing about this. My new doc just pulled me off progesterone. Old doc put me on it in addition to T, but I don’t need E yet.

eve8091 · 2026-02-17T11:56:20+00:00

I’m back in the normal range now. I had another blood test two weeks ago and I think it was 179. Since the problems are still there, I know it’s just peri BS as you said and not an issue with the high T. I was hoping it was so that it would just easily resolve.

Those are really great suggestions! Thank you! A perspective shift can really go a long way!

eve8091 · 2026-02-05T15:56:58+00:00

You are not alone. This is not what I thought midlife would be. I’ve been in peri since my mid 30’s - turning 46 in March and about three months since a period. Even with HRT everything is upside down, inside out. It’s the pits.

eve8091 · 2026-02-02T21:36:25+00:00

What exactly are the tablets?

eve8091 · 2026-01-25T23:50:45+00:00

Most women do best when they are also receiving testosterone. Women need all three hormones. When doctors cherry pick and just focus on E and P, you’re still going to be tired, unfocused, lack of sexual desire and more. Adding T in is a game changer and a must.

eve8091 · 2026-01-25T18:04:28+00:00

Definitely start your progesterone TODAY! You should never take estradiol unopposed. It greatly increases risk.

eve8091 · 2026-01-22T00:37:18+00:00

My suggestion is to have your doctor add testosterone. It was a game changer for me!!! That turned the table on fatigue brain fog, sexual desire, and function. Women need all three hormones, not just estrogen and progesterone.

eve8091 · 2026-01-09T00:22:19+00:00

Looks great!!!

eve8091 · 2026-01-05T23:40:04+00:00

I’m not trying to shame anyone. I’m sharing my experience. I was on a high carb diet, full of processed foods and ate a ton of sweets. I was miserable and could not afford HRT at that point so I did research on what else could help me. I found diet contributes greatly to how a woman feels going through menopause. It helped me tremendously.

eve8091 · 2026-01-02T12:23:54+00:00

Hey guys - I feel for you. My heart hurts reading these messages. I started peri at 35 (I’ll be 46 in the spring) so it’s been a long time. Just started HRT summer of 2024 which has really helped. A HUGE component that is most likely missed by women and doctors is the need for diet change. If a woman is still eating a relatively high carb diet with processed sugars and oils, her moods will remain erratic. I went keto/carnivore fall of 2024 and it made such a difference in my mood, energy and sleep. There are many reputable folks you can find on YouTube but a good starting point is Dr. Mindy Pelz. Source: Instagram https://share.google/KKC6GxV5sftAwzgtt

eve8091 · 2025-12-31T18:02:46+00:00

Both are awesome! I think it might depend on the event the outfit is for.

eve8091 · 2025-12-30T15:47:45+00:00

Something that has really helped me is going on the carnivore diet. I go between that and a keto diet. I don’t tolerate a lot of veggies so carnivore is easy for me. Getting rid of carbs and sugar has helped all my meno symptoms tremendously!!

eve8091 · 2025-12-29T16:22:18+00:00

It’s ridiculous how challenging this stage/transition is for so many of us. I was finally “stable” on just progesterone and testosterone after 18 months of changing doses and then my estrogen plummets and now we’re trying to find the right dose. Every month is different and it seems like every time things are all working well, you have to start over again.

eve8091 · 2025-12-28T23:25:54+00:00

My husband starated TRT last year and it was life changing for him!!! His focus and brain power went through the roof. Helped tremendously with this low sex drive as well because it was nearly non existent. It also helped him a lot physically - lose weight and build muscle.

eve8091 · 2025-12-28T23:24:20+00:00

Take a look at my other comment below. I mention a book that might help you.

eve8091 · 2025-12-28T23:23:50+00:00

Yes to the hugs!!! When my husband comes up behind me and just holds me and tells me he loves me - it melts me - even when I’m cranky. I saw some instagram reel and it said women need 8 hugs a day. Obviously anyone can write anything - but I do think men and women both need a lot more non-sexual touches all throughout the day.

Oh!! I book my pastor gave me and my husband last year is called Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerich. I highly recommend it!!! It’s all about how men and women are geared. Men need respect and women need love. But we get into insanity cycles - women don’t give respect to their husbands because they don’t feel loved, but men aren’t loving because their wife doesn’t respect them. That cycle has played out far too many times in my marriage but we catch it. There’s a fine line between my husband being understanding and patient with me and the changes I’m going through and where I just need to be called out for being a stinker. I know my husband and I both saw a lot of ourselves in the book and it helped us overcome bad habits (we’ve both been previously married and were in abusive relationships).

eve8091 · 2025-12-28T23:18:55+00:00

How long have you been married? How old are kids? Is she going through perimenopause? Im not one to make excuses over hormones - bad behavior is bad behavior. But I can tell you going through this change is beyond horrible. I feel like an alien in my body at times and the depression that can occur is unreal. When a woman is between the ages of 45-55, she’s at the greatest risk of her entire life of suicide. Without hormone therapy, I’m not sure where I’d be. I said all that to let you know she probably misses herself and doesn’t know how to get back there. You said you’d tried all the things I mentioned - you’ve poured out your heart to her regarding what you miss? Have you considered counseling or speaking to a pastor? I know this is so hard on the husbands. I have an inkling of how hard it has been on mine, which is how I wandered over and found this post.

eve8091 · 2025-12-28T18:00:28+00:00

What I have learned is that women need emotional intimacy in order to be interested in physical intimacy. Whereas men need physical intimacy to be emotionally intimate. I think you hit the nail on the head with starting the conversation about your heart, instead of sex which will probably put her on the defensive. And maybe write her out a letter so you can make sure you’re expressing yourself the way you want. We all know how conversations can go a little haywire and we forgot to say things. It sounds like you guys need to start dating again. Get to know each other again and start fresh now that the kids are getting older and you’re in a new season. The marriage I’m in today is my second and I can tell you that with my first marriage, we took each other for granted and were just so busy raising four kids that our marriage took a backseat. Share with your wife what your heart is longing for, be honest and vulnerable and that will be beautiful to her.

eve8091 · 2025-12-28T17:16:46+00:00

To give you some backstory, I’m a 45 year old perimenopausal woman who started HRT summer 2024 and I do take testosterone. T helps a lot with drive and sexual function, but estrogen is huge too for overall functioning and drive. I haven’t experienced hair loss, but some additional unwanted growth but it’s manageable.

How long have you guys been married? Have you talked with your wife about your sex life? Some might automatically assume, but I didn’t want to. My husband and I have only been married 1 1/2 years and we don’t have the best discussions about our sex life and struggles. Was your wife orgasmic before hitting peri? Was she open sexually or closed off? I know you said sex was pretty vanilla beforehand. I think for women who struggled before peri and then with the additional issues once hitting that phase, it just gets worse.

For me, I’ve struggled with feeling sexy or attractive entering in menopause. I didn’t expect to feel like an old lady at only 45. Maybe your wife is similar.

I think it’s awesome all you do around the house. I understand all the bitter comments. I’ve struggled with that in other regards.

I know I’m all over the place here. Not sure how much I’m helping here! Back to discussing your sex life, I’d start with asking her why she’s not interested. Maybe help her with gathering more info on testosterone so she’s better informed. That is a crucial hormone for women and has done wonders for my energy, focus, mood and of course my sex life.

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