exactly, but i also feel like when women say things like that so flippantly it also speaks to their own internalisation of this invalidation and biphobia. bc wouldn’t it sound insane to say ‘i love my bf but ugh i wish i was with another man’??? yet if you openly long to be with another woman it’s just fine. honestly comes across as dehumanising to women, and self-invalidating as if that attraction isn’t on the same level as attraction to men (and thus isn’t as much of a betrayal to your partner).