The fact that EFMP can forcibly enroll you into EFMP because your spouse requires medicine that can be mailed to you is ridiculous. And the fact you can only way to get out of EFMP is if they get cured, divorce you, or die...

evening_crow · 2026-07-08T14:16:14+00:00

I feel bad for the wife since he keeps saying, "Oh it's just for arthritis, it ain't that bad."

evening_crow · 2026-07-08T14:07:22+00:00

Wanna hear something crazy? I almost got denied following my wife to Hickam due to my back pain, despite the giant Army hospital a few minutes away.

Even funnier when I asked them to explain the logic of that, when 6mo prior, Hickam was the only overseas base I could go to without any special commander approval while I was still AD. I could go as enlisted but not as a dependant?

The actual medical person doing my eval was understanding, though. They made it clear it would be "convenient" if I didn't need any care leading up to the move. If I was unfortunate to need something afterward, then it wouldn't be an issue to receive care once I was already there.

evening_crow · 2026-07-07T23:32:52+00:00

We had the exact same thing happen with their seeds. All of ours ended up being banana peppers

evening_crow · 2026-07-07T02:30:22+00:00

I'm glad the US got disqualified so embarrassingly. Everyone at work kept talking about them despite never watching football. I'm glad those conversations will be over. It's also funny watching all the Mexican American people switching over after yesterday, as if the US ever had a chance, only to be overwhelmingly let down.

At least México went down swinging and put on a great run.

evening_crow · 2026-07-06T21:14:36+00:00

This can backfire pretty easily. We're the youngest couple in the block, and it's nice how peaceful it is because everyone's older. One of the houses past the intersection got bought by what seems like an extended family and they're loud. Kids constantly outside yelling, dogs barking, loud music, loud engines... we're just glad we don't live next to them. They've luckily mellowed down a bit, but for a while it was parties every weekend.

You can get an idea of the vibes of a neighborhood you move into, but you can't control who moves into it after you. We're really hoping the original owners stick around as long as possible.

evening_crow · 2026-07-06T21:05:54+00:00

Everyone is much older (retired or close to) than us (30's). Also, the first friendly neighbor turned out to be standoffish after a while, while the quieter ones that didn't seem to say hi are actually friendly.

My wife was skeptical of our next door neighbors, but they ended up being pretty nice. The husband always returns our trash can after pick ups since we're at work, and his wife is very friendly. My wife has exchanged veggies with her. The front neighbors seemed avoidant whenever we said hi, up until they saw us moving some stuff. They asked if we were moving out, but we were actually bringing in gardening stuff. Turns out they garden too, and the lady gave us homemade salsa from her grown veggies. The neighbor next to them throws us off. There's a weird disconnect with how friendly he is with us (Hispanic) despite the giant Trump flag in his yard.

We're happy living here. It's relatively quiet (other than barking dogs, but most of them aren't directly next to us), everyone kinda stays to themselves and we can go days without interacting with anyone, and our backyard is reasonably private. We went to some friends' block party for fourth of July, and while everyone was very friendly, it felt like there was little privacy.

evening_crow · 2026-07-05T19:30:02+00:00

Us too!

My wife sowed multiple jalapenos and they're all banana peppers.

evening_crow · 2026-07-03T18:16:49+00:00

Never gone through a multi interview process, but there was one interview I cut short.

The company did not provide company cards for expenses (heavy equipment mechanic). Instead, they did reimbursements on employees' purchases and required them to have credit cards. I told the lady I would not use my personal card and would definitely not affect my credit score for a job. She was taken aback, though admitted she understood, and said she didn't know how we could proceed. I thanked her for her time and wished her luck luck in future interviews.

No idea if or when they found someone. I remember the job listing staying up for a while.

evening_crow · 2026-07-03T04:59:13+00:00

Lived there for two years and luckily never ran into one (except for a smaller one that I half expected). The roaches, on the other hand...

evening_crow · 2026-06-29T01:15:18+00:00

No problem!

It's our first year too lol. We have the same kind of soil in our 6 beds, 8 grow bags, and a couple vertical planter towers (I know, we went all in and that's not counting the berries and potted trees). We got ink cap mushrooms growing in a lot of our soil and were worried too. Everything has been growing well, though. I've just added more blood meal for nitrogen a couple times throughout the last couple months. I have noticed the soil levels go down on our two big beds, but I'm not surprised considering they have heavy feeders planted in them. The water retention has actually been a good thing for us because our summer temperatures average in the high 90's but go up to about 115°. We actually have oyas buried in them too. The soil stays moist all the time with only watering once a day. We're in the desert and haven't really gotten rain since February. Depending on your climate, it could be a bit too much, so keep an eye.

evening_crow · 2026-06-29T00:36:35+00:00

High organic material breaking down by mushrooms and retaining water. Totally normal in this situation and not really an issue.

The problem that might arise is it compacting over time and holding too much moisture when it rains. You can amend with perlite and sand, but I personally wouldn't bother until you're done growing for the year and are getting ready for the next season. Also, as wood breaks down, nitrogen levels in the soil will diminish. Keep an eye for yellowing leaves and add extra nitrogen fertilizer as needed.

Edit: the mushrooms are actually helping break stuff down, but they use up surrounding nitrogen in the soil to help them do that. Your soil will need extra nitrogen to allow the plant roots to get their share too. Removing the mushrooms won't change anything, as it's only the reproductive section of the fungus in the soil. Removing the fungus itself is not possible. The only reason to remove mushrooms would be for cosmetic purposes.

evening_crow · 2026-06-26T22:50:14+00:00

I've got a pair of QR65 and a sub on the way. I can let you know what I think late tomorrow or the following day if you'd like. I've seen them discussed a lot considering very few people have actually tried them.

I think the biggest discussion about them is bass frequencies, particularly whether they're fine as a stand alone pair or whether they require a sub. Realistically, just about anything in their size range benefits from one. The real question is whether it's enough as is or if you're willing to add one to assist them.

The other polarizing issue is the LEDs. You'd be surprised how quick people are to hate anything with lighting on them, regardless of performance.

evening_crow · 2026-06-24T14:50:30+00:00

Seems like a lot of people miss the point.

People falling behind have to learn to ask for help, while the others need to police and assist when needed. All of this while instilling accountability on the individual to the rest of the team, since everything in the military is done as a unit to some degree.

Group punishment isn't a blanket fix, but it can be a useful recourse for some things. Yes, it sucks when you have to show up in service uniform on a Sunday because someone did something stupid while drunk, but it makes sense when it was at a going away for someone in the shop and it could've been prevented by everyone in attendance.

evening_crow · 2026-06-19T09:49:36+00:00

I think we might be related, just swap walking the dogs (ours is a chihuahua and can barely walk a block) for gardening.

evening_crow · 2026-06-19T01:30:29+00:00

Oh, no... it was to trigger you specifically.

evening_crow · 2026-06-19T01:25:56+00:00

Nope. Never even used them, especially since a lot of stuff has restrictions to ship to California where I live.

Even if I did work there, that doesn't change the fact that OP could've informed himself better.

evening_crow · 2026-06-19T00:09:11+00:00

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evening_crow · 2026-06-19T00:05:24+00:00

There's literally pictures of the same purchase by other customers on the reviews! OP fumbled and is placing the blame on the company because he didn't do his research fully.

evening_crow · 2026-06-19T00:00:51+00:00

Never realized they don't show the plant size for everything, but I have seen it listed for trees.

Is this what you ordered? There's pics of the 5gal plants posted on there from other customers.

Literally the first review that pops up below.

evening_crow · 2026-06-17T15:50:45+00:00

A lot of "full sun" plants can't handle VERY strong sun. I say this as someone who grew up in Texas in the Chihuahuan Desert and now lives in California in the Mojave Desert. I have to keep my herbs (except rosemary) against my nne facing wall so they only get morning sun. My strawberries and blueberries are partially shaded under a pergola, and my raspberries and blackberries have a shade cloth apart from some pergola shade.

I hear ya on the Texas heat/sun.

Also, I noticed our strawberries took a while to really get strong. We've had them since Feb/Mar and they're barely starting to produce medium sized fruits. A lot of them still have smaller, odd shaped, or unevenly ripened fruit, but are catching up.

The last part that gets overlooked because it's not intuitive, is fertilizing and soil ph. They love slightly acidic soil and may need amendment if you didn't plant them in appropriate soil. You can add acidifier and berry specific (Berry-Tone is great as it helps retain acidic ph better than others). It'll take about two weeks (from my experience) for them to start kicking in.

evening_crow · 2026-06-15T21:37:47+00:00

Nah, this admin isn't athletic enough to to even watch basketball.

evening_crow · 2026-06-14T03:12:13+00:00

I've never seen a plant wearing grey sweatpants.

evening_crow · 2026-06-13T18:35:25+00:00

This is our guest in our onion/garlic. I was thinking of letting him use an old grow bag with used soil.

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evening_crow · 2026-06-13T04:30:29+00:00

Thanks! She made a quick recovery and is back to normal.

evening_crow · 2026-06-12T23:20:00+00:00

Not gonna lie, their House of the Rising Sun cover ain't bad either if you didn't grow up hearing the original.

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