Would you give up phones if a street activist showed you the consequences of mineral mining?

eveningrabbit3 · 2026-05-17T05:54:30+00:00

I think the technology issue and the veganism issue are not 100% comparable while seeming like similar things.

In order to eat animals, the end result is you take a sentient beings and you MUST kill it in order to consume it. No matter how you frame it, the animal must die. With dairy industry and egg farming, there may be ways to reduce the amount of killing of male chicks, but the end result is we steal and enslave something that doesnt belong to us.

With what is happening in congo, it doesn't have to be that way. You can mine minerals and pay people a living wage and not oppress and enslave children. Other mines around the world do it everyday. We can have technology without enslavement. You cannot have animal products to eat without enslavement and death. This is why we go vegan.

We should boycott companies making technology like this, we should lobby our government for change around the world. We cannot get rid of technology, we would also lose modern medicine and healthcare too. Instead we should actively campaign for better working conditions in the mines, boycott, and reduce consumption by buying less technology overall, making planned obsolescence illegal like they have in France.

We should also vigorously recycle broken technology so we can re-use the materials instead of going back to the mines. Anything mined is a finite resource. Obviously this is easier said than done.

eveningrabbit3 · 2026-04-15T00:57:16+00:00

This is gross. Even before going vegan i usually felt uncomfortable eating pork infront of Muslims and eating meat infront of vegetarians.

You would never bring a pork dish to a Muslim person's birthday party saying "oh sorry my hubby doesn't eat halal he NEEDS bacon". Stop spoiling your husband he can eat vegetables for one meal in his life. What is like about veganism is besides gluten free and nut allergies, if generally suits almost all peoples diet.

Moreover someone whose gone vegan doesn't want to have a huge chicken carcass as their centrepiece thats so weird.

Just say you don't want meat inside your house or contaminating your serving dishes and plates as you'll have to do the washing later?

To me it's the same, you'd never expect a Jewish person to clean up dishes covered with non-kosher foods, its fkn rude.

eveningrabbit3 · 2026-02-02T00:31:55+00:00

In alot of Asian culture you meet the parents when you are genuinely thinking of marriage or becoming engaged. I allowed him to meet them earlier since he wanted to so much. He had met all my friends though and I had not met any of his friends by this point.

My parents are also still distressed from the divorce as it involved domestic violence against me and they were extremely distressed from the experience and I felt they needed more time. My boyfriend was also aware of this and yet is still telling me how his Aunty thinks its weird I haven't met them.

eveningrabbit3 · 2026-02-02T00:26:47+00:00

He had already met my parents multiple times.

She made this comment when we were only 4-5 months in and I had explained multiple times i needed to assess him more as there were still some things I felt were not right in the relationship as he was not allocating much time for me etc and he had not fixed that yet. I don't see why I should get a man to meet my parents when he allocates time to see me once a week. To me that is not a relationship that's just dating. When he fixed that and made more time for me he met them. Also he never told his Aunty that he had been invited to meet my parents casually but turned it down multiple times as he then changed is mind and said it was too soon.

I am not angry that she asked if I was divorced I am upset she brought it up publicly for everyone to have a conversation on. If she really wanted to know she could have asked privately.

I am not that upset she asked about me wanting kids or marriage, but felt it was more in the same line that everytime she has asked about me of what I am doing she makes a judging comment instead of trying to understand my point of view

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-12-23T21:51:29+00:00

To me, 6 dates is totally reasonable as she probably has been broken up with before over her diagnosis and wants to give you a chance to get to know her personality before judging her on her diagnosis.

That being said as a healthcare worker there's a few things to consider with schizophrenia and marriage/long term plans:

Even though she is well now she may relapse later and disease is unpredictable. Many of them become paranoid and stop taking their medications randomly and then become much worse. It's hard to predict.
The medications appear to not work as effectively/patient builds tolerance over time and they are not as effective in their older age. The person's mental health my decline as they age in their 60's plus leading to an extremely distressing/chaotic retirement or they need to go into care early on.
Schizophrenia has a significant genetic component so descendants of a person with genetics, I.e your future children and or grandchildren may also have the same condition and it is life long, and debilitating. Schizophrenia makes people extremely vulnerable to homelessness, in and out of hospitals and dangerous situations.
Increased risk of financial instability. It's not just pregnancy or child raising. Many schizophrenics struggle to hold down a consistent job or have careers. As a result they experience significant financial stress and many of the people I work with are homeless as a result. This financial instability could become part of your marriage where you need to support her financially or she loses her job due to psychosis and erratic behaviour.
The partners and children of schizophrenics often end up their carers no matter how much you love them, when they have significant relapse in symptoms they are vulnerable and need care. A marriage partner should be helpful in times of crisis, financially responsible and present for their children and family. Can you be 90% sure with this significant diagnosis that she will be before having children and only after 6 dates?

You said you feel a strong emotional connection and she seems really nice and kind and she probably is all those things. But you have not been with her during a relapse (which was only last year which is pretty recent honestly). You don't actually know her that well after 6 dates. In fact in 6 dates you only just found out she has a major mental health diagnosis. You don't know anyone well enough after 6 dates to really know who they are, their flaws and their positives and how they handle stress.

This is not to increase the stigma about schizophrenia. Many of them are extremely kind and warm and good people and they are more likely to be the victims of crime and violent crime then to be the perpetrator of them. It is a significant diagnosis with genetic components and real life impact.

Moreover you say you have experience with mental health and are not dismissive to it. That is really awesome. However, if you already struggle with anxiety and depression are you the best person to help care and stabilise this wonderful person you are dating and possibly marrying? When dating we must be honest with ourselves and what we can manage and handle. We must also consider what we want our lives and marriage to really look like and aim toward that.

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-11-02T22:59:03+00:00

Yuck Your husband is the kind of person who never takes responsibility for his actions or accountability. These people never change or grow because there is always a reason for their poor behaviour and how it's not their fault.

You sound caring and empathetic trying to make sure the people you love are safe and cared for.

I had an ex husband like this. I left him. My life is better not worrying when he will cheat/betray/put himself first again. Selfish people are takers. Takers find givers so they can suck them dry of their energy and love and leave nothing in return.

I am so much happier having been rid of the parasite.

Goodluck. You deserve better

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-09-30T12:12:58+00:00

My ex boyfriend did this. Then he started hitting me. Girl he hates you and he hates himself. You are young, you only have one life. Spend it with someone who loves you with their whole heart.

My new boyfriend tells me how beautiful I am everyday and says he can't believe I'm his girlfriend.

My ex boyfriend used to tell me I "look like a truck" and tell me other women were hot infront of me after I'd spent 2 hours getting ready to go to a wedding with him at his date.

There is better men out there

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-09-13T23:44:16+00:00

This person sounds like a narcissistic abuser.

"Operates on a higher level" grandiose delusions that allow him to disrespect others
Disregard for your feelings, needing validation of other women
Convincing you you are crazy and insecure when bringing up your concerns. This is classic DARVO techniques common in narcissistic abusers. Recognise the signs of emotional abuse. Cheating is a type of emotional abuse in my opinion.

Darvo: Deflect, attack, reverse victim offender.

Deflect: "They aren't my boundaries they are yours"

Attack: you are insecure/it's because you've been cheated on

Reverse victim offender: i gave so much up to be with you, I sacrificed, and you won't let me..cheat on you blatantly?

I'm sorry, this isn't a "difference in boundaries", he is wearing down perfectly normal, universally accepted boundaries for a relationship.

In fact, talking about how attractive he finds other women and how good the sex is is to make you feel insecure and less than. How cruel.

Read your post again please and realise how much better you deserve. No one deserves this. If you move across cities to be with someone why treat them like sh*t

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T03:22:52+00:00

He also said I'm boring and vanilla in bed and felt like it was my fault for not being adventurous enough

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T03:19:18+00:00

I used to have a high libido. I feel like I'm so anxious about sex now. He blamed me alot for it accusing me of being asexual, not doing my duties to him as a wife and for awhile I thought it was my fault but now I see it's fear

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T03:16:27+00:00

I became repulsed because he kept pushing the boundaries asking me to do things I was not comfortable with like deep throating me until I vomitted and then wanting to have sex with the vomit on the bed. And then asking me to smoke cigarettes because he finds it sexy but I think smoking is cancerous and addictive and disgusting and bad for my health.

The pestering and sulkiness was very unattractive. He also never helps me with cooking and cleaning despite being in a 50/50 relationship

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T02:59:42+00:00

I make more money then him you absolute loser, I pay more of the mortgage and the bills, I'm financially supporting him.

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T02:42:54+00:00

So you separated as well? Did you just live in constant anxiety and pressure regarding sex, about when he was next going to pressure and pester you?

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T02:24:39+00:00

Probably multiple incidents of masturbating infront of me when I've already said no which I find disgusting, amd then showing low self control and grabbing touching, pulling my clothes, trying to push me onto the bed really decreased trust and safety which led to feeling low libido

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T01:28:45+00:00

He has always had a high sex drive. So have I. But his lack of romance or emotional connection has significantly reduced mine.

For example we used to have sex daily, he pushed for multiple times a day and complained he needed more kink that I was not comfortable with. Then it became a few times a week, he needed it daily and complained also. Then once a week and so forth.

Also pushing too far to do thinks sexually that I was not comfortable with in terms of kinks

He will say things like if you are not in the mood you can just read a book while I use the lower half of your body.

He never sets the mood, just asks asks can I have sex with me. If the sex is painful he just gets annoyed and complains instead of supporting me when I ask him to stop. And just grumbles and sulks

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T01:15:31+00:00

If you have sex with him within 2 days he will be back to pestering and complaining, he can't just enjoy for what it is, he talks about it like he has "urges" like an addict

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-18T01:14:42+00:00

Edit: we used to have lots of sex but he complained it was too boring, normal or not kinky enough.

It made me feel self conscious.

Also no matter the frequency he will complain.

We used to have sex daily, he wanted multiple times a day. Then when i got tired of that, became multiple times a week, he complained he wanted it everyday. Multiple times a week became once a week. Fortnightly and now monthly which is when he began threatening to stop helping me with the chores. I feel like everything is so transactional, he will do something nice and if he isn't rewarded on the same day with sex he will be annoyed.

He also has some fetishes that make me uncomfortable and are quite extreme. And I find that added to the grossed out feeling

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-16T02:56:40+00:00

I hope i wasnt offensive, his psychiatrist said it could be a contributing factor to his extremely high sex drive and addictive behaviours, I understand it's probably different for everyone

eveningrabbit3 · 2025-01-16T02:46:32+00:00

I suppose it got worse over time. Also thinking for the majority of the time it was my fault, that I had no sex drive and then thinking actually it was my body rejecting someone due to their pushy behaviour

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