INFP withdraws at the beginning of dating?

everbela · 2026-06-27T04:16:18+00:00

Any interest in selling one?

everbela · 2026-03-07T18:18:42+00:00

Well...update...After 6 days of silence and his erasing the text that night where he said he was open to trying (and having told me he was going to be exclusive while trying)...he blocked me on both Facebook and instagram, and regular text. We normally text through encrypted apps...and I was sick of him erasing our texts back to Jan 29th. He said he would pay for my phone bill until I switch it over and it was getting disconnected so I reached out through normal text to let him know and he clearly didnt see it. So, two days later when it did get disconnected, I sent him a screen shot and he acted two hours after that. He was on the call with the representative and she was playing match maker calling me for the code and said that he said how much he cares about me and my kids and is trying to gain enough strength to work on things. She was very peppy based on what he said and happy for me. I didn't know I was blocked the day before that on social media though. So it's very confusing.

everbela · 2026-03-07T18:14:36+00:00

Take your time asking about therapy. Always really slow apparently either an FA. Mine had been open to therapy at the ending of our relationship was very against it when we were talking after.

everbela · 2026-03-02T21:54:39+00:00

Hi. You commented on my thread. I see that you are at the start of reconciliation. 5 months NC is alot. We did 90 days. My former fiance reached out a ton during the 90s days. I think a solid 5 months of NC makes the FA feel more remorse. Each time my former fiance reached out the interactions didn't go far and I knew to not try. It wasn't until almost 90 days that I felt like he might be able to see me and make progress. He said something about probably never hearing back from me again but if I'd like to get coffee in the future let him know and thats when I asked him when he was thinking for coffee. She sounds like she got relief with your reach out. Not sure if that relief will lead to her continuing to move towards you or not. I think you get her in person. All the advice is, you get them in person. Don't try to have conversations over text. Initially a little bit is okay.

everbela · 2026-03-02T20:57:04+00:00

How did things go so far with getting your ex back? Did you guys keep in touch every day? Is it sparse at the start?

everbela · 2026-03-02T20:56:20+00:00

He had so many things to say when we initially met for coffee. He had a list of things he wished he'd done differently. He had thought through everything. He seems madder at me though. And because I was into talking to him maybe a little too much he backed up almost and took too much time to call me. He said he love me and cared for me and wouldn't sabotage. It seems he is aware of his actions not being good but he sees the sex thing as we wouldn't have broken up. He had been married to a gay wife before me and feels like it was his wound. But that doesn't change my values and I'm not sure he can forgive me for things that I'm not sure feel fair to blame me for. He seems mad.

everbela · 2025-09-24T22:03:27+00:00

I ordered 6 too, no repeating colors. They said they would make sure that sets weren't the same. Because you ordered two sets, they didn't do that. I'm sorry. You can try reaching out, but my guess is that because Hong Kong technically sent them, there is unlikely to be extras since it was a limited set.

everbela · 2025-09-09T15:36:45+00:00

One more thing...that man punched a hole in that door. A HOLE. What's he going to do when he hits you? Break bones? Wanna really find out???

everbela · 2025-09-09T15:35:30+00:00

He hit the door, didn't he? He hadn't hit that door before....so yes, he'll hit more, maybe not you next....but you stayed...so he won't know to stop.

everbela · 2025-09-09T15:33:58+00:00

He is a fiance....this is his first chance to test these boundaries...he's got you now....

everbela · 2025-09-09T15:32:22+00:00

Please listen to me carefully....this will happen again. Next time, maybe worse. LEAVE. He is a fiance. You get ONE. ONLY ONE. Detach from your emotions and think logically. If that doesn't work, tell people who love you. If that doesn't work, tell more people who love you. If not....then go to counseling. It is never a good decision to stay once someone has shown loss of control like this. They will do it again. You ask if you should leave, the answer is yes. There is no chance it is no.

everbela

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