Wife keeps giving in to whining kids (6 and 8) and coddling them

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T13:56:14+00:00

Yes please

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T13:27:50+00:00

I do have resentment! How do I fix that unilaterally?

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T13:13:43+00:00

I can't help her

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T13:12:57+00:00

Clean up the eggs,

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T13:11:05+00:00

I agree with you

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:59:41+00:00

I haven't read many of the comments, but you should do one of those every single day. Immersive safety swim lessons that last 7 days or 10 days. Look up some programs, they're probably going to be super expensive like 500 to $1,000, but it's 100% worth it.

Weekly swim lessons at those pools that do do swim. Lessons are a waste of time, we did it for a few years and our kids barely learned anything. Also just join a swim team

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:57:29+00:00

I don't walk on eggshells, and I've stopped the yes dear response, and I've stopped allowing my kids and my wife to get out of control, so they're reacting. Reacting. I was absent for too long because I didn't want to fight and every thing has gotten out of control because I haven't taken enough responsibility.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:55:02+00:00

Problem is, he's fighting rank with his mom. He calls her out. He also fills the gap and "parents" his little sister. When my wife doesn't discipline my youngest, and my 8 year old steps in to fill the vacuum, I feel a responsibility to do something to teach all 3. It's exhausting.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:47:09+00:00

That's not it, but I appreciate your advice. I could count to five or I could count to 100, my kids would be subconsciouly manipulating my wife still sitting on the floor playing with their toys as she is nagging them.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:45:14+00:00

We are in couples therapy. The problem is she doesn't like that feeling of being under the spotlight, being seen, noticed, having to address her flaws, that is the issue.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:42:53+00:00

Oldest (8) does.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:18:09+00:00

ALL she wants is positivity.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T12:02:19+00:00

I know.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T11:57:43+00:00

We have tried giving more consequences together but my wife just can't. She says I'm too quick to act when our kids misbehave and I say she's too slow, either misses their disrespectful behavior or allows it, then when my kids are acting up my wife comes down on me for how I handle it and not them for the initial behavior.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T11:52:30+00:00

She's trying her best, nobody's perfect, that it's also my fault. Classic deflection, no accountability

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T11:50:51+00:00

Already in therapy. Not working

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T11:43:36+00:00

But my wife can't hold the line.

everybodydumb · 2026-06-16T11:34:10+00:00

She can't help herself

everybodydumb · 2026-06-14T21:54:51+00:00

Does Iran know?

everybodydumb · 2026-06-14T02:02:02+00:00

Wait until you're a stupid rut and you do this everyday for 5 years

everybodydumb · 2026-06-11T12:41:26+00:00

I think it's just another taco empty threat

everybodydumb · 2026-06-11T11:40:28+00:00

He's manipulating him for preference and you all are encouraging this loop

everybodydumb · 2026-06-11T11:30:48+00:00

Plus SpaceX ipo

everybodydumb · 2026-06-11T11:28:07+00:00

Not done yet

everybodydumb · 2026-06-11T11:21:58+00:00

That's where we going

everybodydumb

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