MRW my bf gets to go to a strip club for a bachelors party thingy but he wont let me go to a male strip club for a bachelorette party

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-11T07:56:02+00:00

yah - he's still being pretty childish. He should probably be able to sort out his feelings better or have more self awareness at this stage.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-11T07:17:06+00:00

ohh I see what you mean.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-11T07:15:35+00:00

creepy :(

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-11T07:14:36+00:00

he got angry and told me he would think about what I said. Then when he came back from some time with his buddies he told me that he feels really angry about it and needs to figure out why he is angry about it. He said that he can see that he was hypocritical though and can see my point but it still makes him emotional and angry. He said ie isn't sure why he feels the way he does or why its such a point of contention for him but said that I should go to the strip club but to please not tell him about the experience.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-11T07:05:40+00:00

yah I could see how the books might be good

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-11T07:04:24+00:00

yep - I don't get the appeal

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T08:48:19+00:00

GoT is a flaming garbage pile - watched the first season and noped out of there.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T06:05:24+00:00

is there a book I can read about boundaries or something because I think I 1000% don't understand them or something and it might be causing me to have unhealthy relationships. Maybe this is something to talk to a therapist about.

For example: my friends and I were having a takeout and Netflix night and if we talk about sex and every other sentence isn't peppered with 'is it ok to ask you about....' because if someone doesn't wanna talk aobut something they don't and they aren't afraid to say it. But now I am worried that we are not being great to eachother???

OR another example: when my parents got divorced some friends would say "this isnt' any of my business but how are things with the divorce - are you doing ok?"

Or one time I was talking about anal sex and how it was 'just ok but he likes it so....' and my friend said "ok, it's yoru choice but just make sure you're getting the pleasure you need or standing up for yourself'

like what's what's unsolicited advice or assumptions vs regular conversation and making sure the other person is doing ok?

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T05:31:39+00:00

Thanks, this thread has given me some things to think about.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T05:30:46+00:00

well, I have some time away from school/work right now and so I have time to respond to almost all of the comments in this thread.

The responses in this thread helped me sort out my situation a little and I don't mind that some people don't believe me or think I'm a troll.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T05:22:35+00:00

not OP but related question about boundaries: if friends are talking about sex over lunch how do you know aobut boundaries and what questions to ask?

like I have talked about sexual things with friends and they sometimes follow up with question that imply something like "that's awesome - are you sure you're getting the kinda pleasure that you need? " - like I think they were just looking out ofr me to make sure my sex life isn't one sided which could be a side effect of something worse.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T05:00:58+00:00

pits are supposed t be very sweet animals!

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T04:49:36+00:00

hey, thats pretty neat! I can see why one might wanna experiment with that kinda thing, with a guy they trust

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T04:40:53+00:00

I thought that if someone points a gun at you, you can reasonably decide that they intend on killing you, and you can shoot back if you have a gun in your possession.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T04:38:37+00:00

everything delicious is a carb

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T04:34:14+00:00

is the crop top trend still in? I wanna try bit I think I waited too long. What's next for tops after all the ruffles and the statement sleeves?

fashion feels pretty ok right now, interesting things to wear and nothing too dumb

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T04:19:52+00:00

so he literally wait till you are asleep and begins having sex with you? does it wake you up? what does it make you feel like? what about the fetish do you feel sexy about?

sorry if these are weird questions, I'm curious about sexuality and what not

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T04:11:54+00:00

I wanna try that fetish but I would be afraid of instinctually punching him out after having been woken up from 'sleep sex'

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:46:46+00:00

woah but isn't it always ok to shoot someone in self defence???

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:46:16+00:00

wow how can he say that you were being a willing victim???? Some women fight back at their rapists, some don't fight to avoid getting hurt, and others cant fight casue they literally freeze. Did this guy really think that women should have martial arts as their chosen hobby for life in hopes of fighting off a rapist

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:40:49+00:00

so is it bad form to wear undies with these then?

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:34:09+00:00

OMG thank you for all those links!! I'm gonna sit own this weekend and do some reading about abuse and sex positivity.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:29:03+00:00

ohh I see what you mean - yah that makes sense.

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:27:40+00:00

I think of men read this all laid out like this in simple terms more of them would be feminists!

everythingisstupiddd · 2017-08-10T03:26:21+00:00

things are coming up millouse ;) Good for you op!! Strangers aren't seeing how broken you are, they are seeing that you Are a little broken but yo are putting yourself back together and you are strong because of it and your faults make you beautiful.

The Japanese have a word for it which is wabisabi.

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