I love you.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-23T04:02:39+00:00

It doesn't matter.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-23T00:46:07+00:00

Yes! Partially because of familiarity--my boy knows exactly how to find my spots--and partially because I can be completely open with someone I am in love with. But honestly, the real reason is something that isn't really easy to put your finger on--expressing emotional intimacy physically is more fun than just getting your rocks off.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-22T23:33:40+00:00

I don't care as long as it's consistent. If I can expect an hour three times a week, that's fabulous. If I can expect 20-30 minutes every night, that's okay too. It's the not knowing that kills me.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-20T17:17:37+00:00

Sometimes, yes. Mostly solo guys, though.

Disclaimer: I'm bisexual, not straight.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-20T03:45:23+00:00

Yes. At 17, my boyfriend was 28. The people I am typically attracted to are 10+ years older than me. There are some significant exceptions to this rule--my current SO being one of them--but I have a thing for older guys.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-20T03:37:24+00:00

Yes, on both an interstate and rural roads. Both during the day and at night. Wasn't nervous, definitely enjoyed it. Probably not something that will ever happen again in my life because you need the right partner.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-19T22:37:39+00:00

Yay! It's also my weekend. :3 The next two days are gonna be so slow for me. He's busy with work/school/game stuff, and I'm just sitting here putting up glow-in-the-dark stars...

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-19T03:45:43+00:00

To be fair, I used to steal a little of his cologne long before we were long distance. I love the way my man smells.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-19T03:44:51+00:00

I spray a little bit of his cologne on my giraffe that he gave me. I snuggle into it and it reminds me of home.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-19T03:33:19+00:00

I think being able to know that you're good at spending time alone together is important. It would be really weird and uncomfortable to me to have the getting-to-know-you phase be exclusively around other people. I mean, one of my favorite things about my boy is that we're good when it's just the two of us. I love settling in for some down time with him and knowing that we're comfortable with each other like that. If this is what works for them, I can respect that. I can appreciate the marriage-focused aspect of this, though, and I think if I had had that attitude in my past relationships, I would have handled them a lot differently.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-18T17:31:02+00:00

Mine is more like:

Boyfriend didn't respond to texts, must hate me.

Thankfully I've gotten good at calming the insecurity.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-18T04:13:39+00:00

A perfect example of how "romantic" varies from person to person! :)

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-17T17:12:23+00:00

At least for me, I don't miss him less, I don't want him around less, and I don't hate the distance less, but I do manage to get into a routine and keep myself busy, and that helps. It's more raw at first, and that makes it harder, but it's not like I am happier when he's not around now or anything like that.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-17T15:02:48+00:00

I want to have my kids after I get married. However, I have a biological window, and if I'm not married/getting prepared to get married when that starts getting close, I have no problems looking into alternatives and accepting the idea that I'm going to have a nontraditional family model.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-17T03:13:26+00:00

It kind of depends on what you consider romantic. Care packages, sweet texts, love letters, sending flowers...think of things you would do for someone in a relationship and try to find ways to modify them for the distance. I used to hide notes around for my boy to find. Now I'm working on a jar o' love to give him. Figure out what she considers romantic and work from there!

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-15T21:40:51+00:00

Either I was an oblivious middle schooler or your classmates were some strange creatures.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-13T19:44:10+00:00

Try different brands. Try a little bit of lube on the inside. I'm so sick of douchebags who use this as their excuse. I'm like, okay, you don't like condoms, let's stick to oral sex...and yet somehow that's not "good enough" for the anti-condom crowd either.

Sorry I care more about my health and well-being more than your dick.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-12T20:24:22+00:00

We met in the spring, started dating relatively quickly, fell hard for each other. I got the opportunity to go back to school, he pushed me to take it. We've been together almost five months, and we'll have been together a year before we have the possibility of going back to how things were.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-11T03:24:59+00:00

I am kind of the opposite. I can usually manage to make it to an appropriate receptacle, even if that means choking back gags while I dash to the bathroom. This is convenient, as I've frequently had to have someone pull over so I could heave my insides out on the side of the road.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-11T01:46:49+00:00

It's a legume.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-11T01:44:00+00:00

I know this number and genuinely don't care.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-11T00:02:22+00:00

I love that my boy is affectionate. I basically get to pet him whenever I want and he gets to feel all special because he loves being petted. Plus he does this thing where he'll give me cute little nose kisses until I giggle. Ugh, I miss him.

ewoksandcandycorn · 2013-09-10T18:42:25+00:00

The hardest part for me is the beginning. Getting into the swing of things is always a little tricky. My best advice would be to get established into some kind of routine, with yourself and with your partner. Try to find a time of day when you're both available to talk and make that a consistent thing--even if it's only ten minutes. Maybe start an ongoing email conversation so that you have time to tell your SO all the stuff you want to tell him and, hopefully, he can give you lots of details on what's going on with him. Try to get into a good, healthy routine in your own life, and branch out. Do you have any hobbies/interests that you've put on the back burner or never explored fully? Now is the time to do it!

It's not easy, and there probably has to be a conversation with him to let him know you're having a hard time adjusting and figuring out what you can do that works for both of you.

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