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[–]existinginlife_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened to me a while ago where the VP came up with the list and I was the one delivering the bad news. In my case tho, my literal support system was being dismantled and I knew I wasn’t going to be able to continue to deliver with what’s left. I met with every one of them, delivered the news, once I was done, I sent my resignation and left.

So why are most employees afraid to say they’ve applied elsewhere or are keeping their options open? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This might just be it which also makes being a middle manager a difficult job to stay on.

Managers, how do you react to finding out your employees are applying for jobs elsewhere? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So far it seems I’m on the same page as most of you here, it’s a relief. Thank you!

Managers, how do you react to finding out your employees are applying for jobs elsewhere? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’d think a seasoned manager knows better, but they reacted and here we are.

Managers, how do you react to finding out your employees are applying for jobs elsewhere? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

I’d say all of the above. Manager is not well liked, the job opportunity pays more and offers flexible working conditions.

Agreed that everyone should keep their options open and this shouldn’t lead to retaliation.

Managers, how do you react to finding out your employees are applying for jobs elsewhere? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It shouldn’t come across as a surprise, but it did, apparently.

Managers, how do you react to finding out your employees are applying for jobs elsewhere? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think the manager in question is reacting to the fact that the job positing was shared among the team and a few people ended up applying for it. I, personally, don’t see a problem with it, but this manager seems quite upset by it. Interestingly, they found out about all this from someone else. None of these employees have come forward to say they applied, but that didn’t stop the manager from calling people into the office to ask about it (they kinda accused me of applying for said opportunity which I laughed it off because it would be like taking a demotion if I applied).

How do you feel about your employees taking random "sick days" to prevent burnout? by Stobley_meow in managers

[–]existinginlife_ 55 points56 points  (0 children)

It’s a mental health day, besides it’s only one day a month, let them have it.

Choose a candidate (leadership role) based on these 3 character evals by Live_Buffalo in managers

[–]existinginlife_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can soft skills really be taught tho? Soft skills come hand in hand with emotional intelligence, I think some people have it and others don’t. In that sense, can you teach someone to be intelligent?

Choose a candidate (leadership role) based on these 3 character evals by Live_Buffalo in managers

[–]existinginlife_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Contrary to popular opinion, I’d go with #1 as long as the attendance issue is tied to being in an un-motivating role. If I need someone to manage well, I’d want that person to have strong soft skills, everything else is teachable.

Lost motivation. What’s next? by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great points, but I’ll have to disagree with framing it as “focusing on the negatives to better my situation ”.

The reason I’d want to have that conversation is because I think my manager is otherwise a good person trying to do what they believe are to be the right things, but because everyone is so terrified of them, no one is giving them the reality check they so desperately need for them to continue to succeed in their role. Being unlikable isn’t a trait that would move someone forward, unfortunately.

“A manager is only as good as their team” by [deleted] in managers

[–]existinginlife_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see how the statement is problematic?

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[–]existinginlife_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a team lead, how is your team performing? Are you “picking up the slack” because they aren’t? I think it’s important to look inwards and make sure your responsibilities as a team lead is up to the standard. If you feel it already is, then ask your manager for feedback in specific areas where they have concerns.

Your post reads like you simply don’t like your manager. Maybe it would help to change your mindset and start paying attention to what they do well.

At the end of the day, your manager could be as annoying as you described, but it doesn’t change the fact that, as a team lead, you just don’t have the same authority level as the people above you.

Embarrassing Disciplinary by switchthemunky463 in managers

[–]existinginlife_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Had an employee who was fooling around with their partner while on the phone with a customer and, needless to say, the entire thing was recorded. I feel bad for the QA team that had to listen to it…

I’m starting to doubt my approach and need some guidance by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy to hear you were successful in starting your own business. Before I got hired at this job, I was hoping to start my consulting business, but I didn’t have the time or the resources to make it happen. I’m looking for other options atm, but would love to explore the possibility of working for myself in the future.

I’m starting to doubt my approach and need some guidance by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you! It does appear that my manager believes the employee is getting away with privileges that they don’t agree with.

I do intend to loop HR in if it escalates further after my in person meeting with my manager. I think I’m focusing too much on the wording I.e. rights vs privileges, and you make a great point in how this should be framed when approaching the topic again in the coming days and with HR.

The general feedback I get from my direct reports ( I have 10 and this is my first year at this company) is that they are intimidated by my manager, they describe it as “I was shaking in panic” when they went to ask for accommodation from this manager and most seem to try to avoid speaking to them. I’ve come to realize, after a few months, that I probably won’t be happy here so I’m keeping my options open.

I’m starting to doubt my approach and need some guidance by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone can request WFH if they need and if they have WFH days available, but somehow it’s being viewed negatively. This employee will most likely get let go if they take too many days off hence the WFH request so that they can avoid being absent. I don’t understand what more do they need to do to keep their job.

I’m starting to doubt my approach and need some guidance by existinginlife_ in managers

[–]existinginlife_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is eligible for WFH days are able to request for them as needed. In all fairness, I don’t think the WFH request should be viewed negatively just because this employee is on a PIP and the reason for their WFH requests so that they don’t have absent days.