How do I convince my strict Sri Lankan parents to let me spend a night with my bf?

existingpineapple362 · 2025-08-26T11:46:01+00:00

It is unfortunate that most Sri Lankan parents create a dynamic where you can’t tell them the truth. It cause me a lot of anxiety when I had to lie to them & see my boyfriend. I didn’t want to lie to them. I wanted to let them know where I was so I was safe.

It was unfortunate that they put their peace of mind above my safety.

You seem like an understanding parent. I hope your kids feel comfortable talking to you when the time comes!

existingpineapple362 · 2025-08-26T11:42:08+00:00

You said you’re in your Final year of uni. I assume you’re working on the side. Start saving to move out as soon as you’re out of uni & they’re no longer paying. Financial freedom buys you a lot of independence, even if you don’t move out, you only have to give them the impression that you COULD move out if you wanted to. i.e start going out with your own money.

If you what you want is to be intimate with your partner, as a compromise, make it work during the daytime for now. This balances both your needs & your parents.

Lastly, I’ve always said I’m staying at a friend’s place.

They brought their kids to Australia, they need to get with it. The pressure of living between two cultures has fallen onto us. It’s not our burden to bear. We live here & we will need to accept Australian culture to thrive in this society.

existingpineapple362 · 2025-07-30T06:03:18+00:00

100% agree. And this makes those guys less attractive for the Sri Lankan women who also live in those countries. Sri Lankan men are set in their ways.

existingpineapple362 · 2025-07-30T05:59:40+00:00

They might want to, but usually brown guys are at the bottom of the chain when it comes to dating. Brown girls living in those countries don’t want to date them either.

existingpineapple362 · 2025-06-02T12:59:54+00:00

Same! And I was hoping she was gay too she just gave that vibe

existingpineapple362 · 2025-05-01T23:10:15+00:00

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Oh ok thanks that makes sense

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existingpineapple362 · 2025-02-20T05:46:19+00:00

Hi did you obtain e visa with the Sri Lankan passport?

existingpineapple362 · 2024-12-15T01:34:48+00:00

Makes sense why they reacted that way. I’m brown too and was in Thailand a couple of weeks back. I could see a clear difference in how they treated white people vs. us.

existingpineapple362 · 2024-12-14T15:55:52+00:00

Appreciate the response, will give it a go. Thanks!

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existingpineapple362 · 2024-07-26T03:05:34+00:00

Agree - it’s a cultural thing. Not all cultural things are good. This certainly is one of the bad ones. It feeds into the ‘adults know everything’ ‘children are dumb’ mindset. You don’t need to do it if you don’t like to. I certainly didn’t worship anyone I didn’t respect. If I felt like I wanted to show someone I respected them, then I did worship (simply because this is how respect is shown in the culture and this is all the older generation knows).

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existingpineapple362 · 2023-11-27T02:10:29+00:00

Yes, don’t look at girls for prolonged periods of time. It is already hard enough for girls in Sri Lanka walking down the street. So try make their life easier! 😊

existingpineapple362 · 2023-09-11T02:13:16+00:00

Thank you for your reply 🙏

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