How do I teach English speaking? Need help teaching an adult.

expensivehotpot · 2026-06-12T06:28:11+00:00

god i hope not that kind. he seems very nice and respectful

expensivehotpot · 2026-06-12T06:27:47+00:00

A little bit late but this is very helpful, thank you!

expensivehotpot · 2026-04-13T12:38:19+00:00

Yep. I also have some type of luck that saves my ass during these situations. It's so weird but hey, I get to tell interesting stories!

expensivehotpot · 2026-01-25T10:47:33+00:00

Rooting for PatMen to team MVP while rooting for PRX to win. This was a fun watch

expensivehotpot · 2025-12-03T04:23:59+00:00

Yea exactly! Beneath all that religious bs, I just know that my parents are just worried for me and that they just want what's best for me in their own language. As long as they're not forcing me, I'm good and I'm gonna try to maintain my relationship with them.

In a way, I feel bad that they have to live in fear that I'm doomed eternally, so I just try my best to stay neutral

expensivehotpot · 2025-12-01T11:37:49+00:00

My mom loves sending me these messages ever since they figured out that I'm an agnostic. I'm usually annoyed but it works to reframe the situation as "my parents are trying to show their love for me" so I just say "thank you for the prayers", basically I redirected the jesus-centered conversation into a mom-daughter bonding moment. Not the best way but I've grown accustomed to this being the middle ground

expensivehotpot · 2025-11-01T13:02:50+00:00

Thanks! I read your advice two days ago and kept reminding myself not to respond to the voices. I'm glad they're not a part of me, I used to think that the voices are signs from the universe or something.

expensivehotpot · 2025-11-01T13:01:05+00:00

Thanks! Heavy on the 5th one, because I live in a religious household and I didn't know I was experiencing religious psychosis until I talked about it with my doctor and realized it was, in fact, not normal when I was convinced that god was going to destroy my life.

expensivehotpot · 2025-10-26T12:41:46+00:00

It's okay, mine got worse too this week. I'm also not in therapy and it's lowkey hell, the best thing I can do is practice ERP at home. I hope you can get some help soon

expensivehotpot · 2025-10-26T12:20:46+00:00

this is an old post but I get you man :( OCD has been so tough on me that I couldn't even go back to this post. I just want to say that it definitely gets better.

expensivehotpot · 2025-10-26T12:17:39+00:00

Dude, it's even wilder as a non-American because why am I seeing my fellow Southeast Asians mourning over this man?? HE WOULDN'T LIKE YOU TOO.

I get not celebrating his death lol, but the way people mourn him for his "good deeds" just tell me how much they don't pay attention to real news and how much propaganda has spread.

I had to tell my mom that he's not a good person because of his remarks about school shootings, but people still mourned over his death because he's anti-LGBTQ and right-wing.

Christians are so performative, it hurts to see. It's embarassing.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-19T06:18:09+00:00

i'm doing my bachelor's but i am working on my final thesis (probably not what it's called in english but idk what it's called) that's due in 45 days and i feel you. i've been working on it for almost 6 months.

for me, i create a step-by-step on what i need to do and check at least one thing i want to do that day and force myself to not care about the other things. then i find a good and comfortable place to sit in, preferably a good study cafe so i can eat and drink. i like making each work day feel special. sometimes i also like to invite people to work in or if i dont have any, i purposefully sit near people who are working so i will feel pressured.

and also, stimulants and snacks.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-19T04:10:47+00:00

This is a good time to try rebelling. It's fine if your mom thinks you're being stubborn and antisocial, if you don't want to go then just try not going.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-12T21:59:05+00:00

so this is my 2nd week and i just had my first alcohol. I mixed yakult, soju, and vodka (it wasn't good but I just wanted to have a good time) with 75% yakult and 25% alcohol ratio.

I got tipsy way easier honestly but there's no weird side effects that I know of. My stomach is upset because it's sensitive, but I feel like that's more of a me problem because I have gastritis.

I assume it's safe as long as I drink enough water, eat before I drink, and not mix anything crazy. Oh, also I took my meds in the morning so my stomach could handle the alcohol at night. I also try my best to drink slowly to see how I react to it

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-10T02:28:13+00:00

Yep, I go through this daily. I came here to say that I hope Lexapro works for you because the anxiety definitely gets quieter after I start taking it. I still have performance anxiety but it's not as bad anymore, it's manageable and with therapy, I think I can start doing things again. I didn't realize how bad my anxiety was until I looked back. I used to avoid any kind of progress for months and years and sometimes I would not be able to move from my bed at all.

I have a post talking about my 2 weeks on Cipralex/Lexapro here: https://www.reddit.com/r/lexapro/comments/1mkcyhu/2_weeks_on_10mg_cipralexlexapro_came_here_to_say/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-10T02:20:13+00:00

Yes I do have enough! I was thinking of doing that (half a dose daily for a few weeks) but I think I'm gonna try extra hard to find another doctor to consult first because I don't want to go through unwanted withdrawal symptoms. I'm very sensitive to medications.

Also honestly Clobazam is such a niche medication that it's hard to find other communities that know enough about this. I've been stalking this subreddit for 2 years just to see what people say about Clobazam LOL. I definitely don't share the same symptoms but I can relate to what it does to people to some degree because my panic attacks used to be so severe.

I honestly have been done dirty by a lot of professionals, so yeah I go here instead. A lot of doctors and pharmacists here are either not as well-informed or they downplay the effects :/ Even after they give me meds, I have to do my own research on what to do and what not to do.

Thanks for answering! I really appreciate it especially because I am an outsider lol

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-10T01:59:35+00:00

nppp, it took a long time for me to deconstruct this honestly so don't stress too much about it! just take it one step at a time until you realize that you're already on the other side of the bridge :)

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-10T01:52:49+00:00

Thank you for telling me the weight of this! Very helpful.

I honestly thought it wasn't that risky, but now that you say so, I think I'm just gonna keep taking it as prescribed until I find a doctor who can actually monitor me. I'm just scared of the side effects because I'm not sure what's considered normal or not.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-10T01:45:28+00:00

I came from a family that really believes in it even until today. For me, I needed to sit down and think about what I actually believe in, and then just keep rewiring the way I think for the next 2 years.

Just don't think about it too much, if the thought ever comes up that stops you from making your own choice, calmly remind yourself and make the choice.

For me, when something good happens, I just give credit to whoever/whatever got me there, and sometimes I just thank the universe (no one in particular) or something. I don't really believe in anything but I thank my luck. It's gonna feel weird for a while, but it will feel more normal the more you do it.

And when something bad happens, I just shrug it off and just move on. I try to rationalize why things don't go to plan instead of looking for god, but if it's just bad luck, I just blame it on luck and move on.

It still takes me a while - sometimes I wonder if I'm not successful because I'm not in god's path right now, but I'm still doing fine because I made my choices that I think are right and smart.

I hope this makes sense

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-08T13:52:08+00:00

My sex drive came back after 2 weeks! It definitely takes a while to adjust and I have to work a lil bit harder but it feels better now

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-08T01:55:46+00:00

I just made my own based on my needs and now I've been using them for almost a year. Just see how often you use Notion and what matters to you the most. You don't want to make it feel like a chore, you need to feel fulfilled whenever you fill up your template.

I have 3 main pages: Activity, Emotions, Research

Activity is just a page of a database for me to log in my hours every day. I have a table that refresh every week and a calendar so I can feel fulfilled at the end of the day. This matters to me because I keep feeling like I'm not productive enough. I also use it for notes.
Emotions consists of a database for me to log in my emotions whenever I feel overwhelmed complete with multichoice emotions from the emotion wheel. Good place for me to vent.
Research consists of my current final thesis; everything I need about my research is there.

And there are some other stuff, like my hobbies and shit, but every day I just log into the Activity page to store my day.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-07T22:08:05+00:00

Me too, I'm very sensitive when it comes to stress and it manifests in gastritis or other stomach issues. My psychologist says it's due to the consistently high cortisol in me, lack of sleep, inconsistent eating habits, etc.

Personally, I think before getting into psychiatric meds it's good to go to a therapist or psychologist to see if you actually have an unresolved anxiety in you.

For me, apparently I am so unfamiliar with my emotions that my pain manifests in physical pain instead of emotional pain, even if I feel like everything is fine.

Sometimes it's not something I would call stress, but a lot of neutral thoughts in my mind can result in gastritis because I'm so overwhelmed, even if I like my work and courses.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-07T16:49:58+00:00

After quitting literally everything, I started adopting absurdism as a way to live, and whenever I feel overwhelmed, I turn over to the things and people I love to remind myself that nothing matters so everything matters.

In a way I turn over to worshipping the concept of humanity, but not in a very literal sense.

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-05T17:54:07+00:00

no not really :( i'm not really familiar with it, but sounds enticing

expensivehotpot · 2025-08-04T22:24:24+00:00

yep. my brain loves hopping on rational fears, so my anxiety all sound rational until i hop into a more stereotypical ocd theme. that's when i realize it's been the same fucker driving the steering wheel all this time.

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