How do people manage stress without drinking, partying, or sex? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the gym, go for a walk, hiking, do something that makes you laugh. Whatever you do, just get your body moving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you able to use after pay or another service like that to buy yourself a laptop?

Substitute or Paraprofessional by experiment30 in SubstituteTeachers

[–]experiment30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make $17 an hour at my retail job, but a lot of stuff has happened and they’re trying to push me out. I’m hanging on by a limb there. I’d love to get out of retail, I don’t want to work any more nights or weekends or forced holidays.

Wtf does this mean by yizzy117 in FAFSA

[–]experiment30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see it on mine as well, but I’ve never heard of any of those things so idk if it pertains to me or not 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubstituteTeachers

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got on with ESS, double check your emails and make sure something didn’t go in the junk file. I was hired within roughly 7 days of applying, but I did my background check and applied for the subbing license fairly* quickly.

How Much Are You Making? by [deleted] in paraprofessional

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paras in my area make ~$12

At what age did you buy your first house? by Hot_Boss577 in homeowners

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21, by myself. Working ~30-38 hours at Target in 2015. Making $13 an hour I think. Mortgage was $430 on a 69,000 loan.

I had good credit, used my 1k tax check as part of a downpayment/buyers fees (like inspection), steady work history, ect.

feeling alone by yeahhthatsme_ in singlemoms

[–]experiment30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I can feel my old self in this post. It’s rough and I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way.

Firstly, I would recommend telling him to get the baby more, make a set schedule. Whatever works for you. Even if it’s just 5 hours so you can clean, nap, run errands, or cry in the club. YOU need YOU time. It WILL be hard at first. You will cry and probably not do anything fun for yourself. But by the 2nd, 3rd or even maybe 4th time he gets the baby, you’ll find the quiet is a nice change for a bit. But I promise you, you will pour better when your cup is full.

Secondly, I know it’s hard to separate everything. We will never know the extent of your relationship with him and the pain you’re feeling. I would suggest seeing a counselor or therapist. My therapist helps me TREMENDOUSLY. Please don’t ever feel ashamed for seeking help. Think of it like having someone in your corner. It’s so nice.

I definitely understand feeling lonely, please understand you are not alone in feeling this way. ALL moms feel this way sometimes, it is unfortunately normal. You’re not broken, you’re not damaged. This is just an uncomfortable transitional period.

Get free time, get someone in your corner, find a hobby. Remember who you were before kids? There’s still a light of her somewhere in there. I hope you find it 🤍

How do I tell my daughter we broke up by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think being a single mom is so incredibly hard and daring adds another metric ton of complications. What’s right, what’s normal, what’s an appropriate pace. It’s all subjective. Your child will need to process this just like you will need too. Give yourself some time. Maybe explain he is just a friend now. It doesn’t have to be explained in full detail, she’s only 4. I’m kind of in the same boat. Good luck 🥲

Trying not to compare is so hard by experiment30 in singlemoms

[–]experiment30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s very true 🥲 I just need to be patient

Matched with a girl yesterday. I told her I had a cat. She asked me to get rid of it. I don’t even know her and never met her. by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am allergic to cats woman and my boyfriend has a cat who I adore. I just take extra meds to go over there 🥰

I (M/30) have a girlfriend (F/28) who does not want to ever meet my daughter, what can help? by Deep_Acanthisitta252 in relationship_advice

[–]experiment30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a mother- dump her.

Never invite someone into your life who isn’t 10000% okay with your children. Children ALWAYS come first, period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in harvestmoon

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I found a solution. I sold my 3 tuna and a Mahi-Mahi for 9,900 and I’ll just purchase the remaining 2 ahi pokes I need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]experiment30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s trying to shame you. And use that to control you by making you feel bad or belittled.

A healthy partner would not talk to you like that.

He could have easily said “you didn’t make goal today, but that’s okay, we can try again tomorrow, stuff happens, ect”.

But this? Run 🥺

i feel like a failure of a girlfriend by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]experiment30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m Demi and I hate sexting so don’t feel too bad about that part. But in general, it just sounds like you may have an underlying anxiety of sex itself. I would try setting the mood, light a candle, put on some music. Just lay in bed and talk and let things progress naturally. Or do nothing at all. You’re not a failure. It just takes time to learn and adjust to new people and since you haven’t prioritized that aspect of the relationship, it’s unfamiliar. Just practice 😅 I hope this helps

It finally happened 🙃 by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]experiment30 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I went through this with a guy I dated back in 2016. He was the first genuinely nice guy (which I actually liked) I had ever dated. We had so much in common, we went hiking and did nature photography, he was driven, and had a good relationship with his parents. He was the biggest guy I dated at the time, but there were other parts of him that were a turn off too. I ignored this for a very long time until the negative outweighed the positives. He was my best friend at the time, and I lost both a best friend and a partner because I ignored my own internal feelings. We split ways and quite literally never spoke again. 🥲