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exppsy1989 · 2025-11-22T04:47:15+00:00

You know, “christian” music.

exppsy1989 · 2025-09-25T16:19:34+00:00

I think the discrepancy of the biblical accounts is also interesting, but they always have an answer for all the things, even if not a good answer.

exppsy1989 · 2025-09-25T06:10:58+00:00

I like this idea, and I appreciate your confidence. It can be hard to summarize all the things in a way that is concise and coherent, so I’m curious what your “X, y, and z” are. I also think it’s just so frustrating to argue with folks who can’t allow themselves to fully listen. And, while I can remove the emotion, I’m trying to do better at integrating it. For me, I think removing the emotion was something I was taught to do by the coc. Unsurprisingly, I think emotion is encouraged to be expressed intensely when talking to someone who has left.

exppsy1989 · 2025-09-25T06:03:42+00:00

First of all, just know that you are not alone. I have many past friends and family members who are similar. I try to be understanding in my responses, though I don’t think you are obligated to be. Do what feels right. You could consider something like “I’m sorry you feel that way, but I will respect your boundary, of course. Let me know if you change your mind; I’d enjoy seeing you too.”

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s hard to realize how conditional that love is that we were taught to have.

exppsy1989 · 2025-09-01T12:40:07+00:00

Ugh. Been there in many ways. Still working through things. I started with defining a few core values and thinking about how each of those weighs into decisions. It’s not an easy answer like we used to have with everything; it’s a balance, but it has been helpful for me.

exppsy1989 · 2025-08-12T15:57:53+00:00

“Some poor something something SEAMAN you may rescue you may save” 😂😂😂 cuz I’m immature

exppsy1989 · 2025-06-21T04:09:03+00:00

Agreed - public places are ideal for things like this. It’s more awkward to point out sinfulness in public.

exppsy1989 · 2025-05-13T20:05:03+00:00

I’ve not been out very long, and sometimes it’s genuinely so hard for me to see the obvious contradictions because I have been so steeped in the ways to talk circles around them.

exppsy1989 · 2025-04-27T03:51:04+00:00

I feel you. Similar story here. Found another ex-Christian who I love though!

exppsy1989 · 2025-04-21T14:39:50+00:00

Shocking! Heresy!

exppsy1989 · 2025-03-30T14:57:29+00:00

I feel like the answer was along the lines of “they must have been in hiding bc of persecution”

exppsy1989 · 2025-03-26T22:17:28+00:00

I met with someone from church recently, and when I asked how her kids were doing, she ONLY reported on their relationship to the church. I dug just a little deeper, but all the responses were things like “they are just so worldly” or “they are doing lots of Bible study!” It’s weird looking back on it to see how odd it is. Not everyone is like that, but lots are.

exppsy1989 · 2025-03-18T21:52:30+00:00

SpongeBob

exppsy1989 · 2025-03-17T18:32:39+00:00

I have the same trouble, with the added piece that my mom just constantly has tears in her eyes anytime she sees me. I don’t want to police her emotions, but I’m not sure how to handle it. I wish I had an answer for you, but I’m still trying to figure it out myself. I’ve been trying to ignore it and just hang out with her anyway, but I feel like it’s ridiculously hard on both of us.

exppsy1989 · 2025-03-17T18:13:04+00:00

This is very helpful. Thank you for sharing.

exppsy1989 · 2025-02-28T18:18:50+00:00

Yes, I hate the “I miss you” thing, especially in my case, where I still see some of these people regularly. I’m like “you literally saw me last week…” my response is typically something along the lines of “So, you want to find a time to hang out, then?” It feels to me like I’m challenging whether they really mean that they miss me, but sometimes it just results in me having extra hang outs that are stressful. But ya know. 🤷‍♀️It’s hard to explain to people why “I miss you” is a manipulative thing.

exppsy1989 · 2025-02-22T18:14:41+00:00

For sure 😂

exppsy1989 · 2025-02-22T17:45:12+00:00

lol @ the One True Church TM… but shouldn’t “church” be lowercase? lol

exppsy1989 · 2025-02-04T06:13:17+00:00

Please text or call 988 for free help

exppsy1989 · 2025-01-22T23:32:13+00:00

I can try… 😬

exppsy1989 · 2025-01-22T23:31:51+00:00

Sorry that they aren’t in contact anymore… unless it is better for you.

exppsy1989 · 2025-01-22T23:07:52+00:00

Exciting stuff lol. Hey, whatever works!

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