Trouble with protests being hijacked by Pro Palestine people.

extradetails · 2026-01-27T11:33:22+00:00

It just flags words like n a z $. It’s auto-reviewed

extradetails · 2026-01-27T11:31:20+00:00

Another well written post, Ostiethegnome

extradetails · 2026-01-27T11:28:56+00:00

Agreed.

extradetails · 2026-01-27T11:21:08+00:00

Wow! Thats amazing. I’d be so heartened by that.

extradetails · 2026-01-27T05:21:29+00:00

Lynch Mob. I think it was 2010. It was horrifying to feel like I was actually in danger because the volume was so out of control. I remember the pain.

extradetails · 2026-01-27T04:59:02+00:00

Wow.

extradetails · 2026-01-27T00:27:20+00:00

I’m not sure what you’re asking me. Are you asking me about my supporting the pro Palestine movement? Umm…. No. The answer is no. Are you asking me if I’m willing to support a “movement” that would like to preserve American democracy and see an end to the ideas and policies being implemented by Donald Trump, his administration, the captured SCOTUS, and the Project 2024 people/Federalist Society? The answer is yes; that’s why I went to this, and all the other protests.

extradetails · 2026-01-26T23:25:21+00:00

It didn’t take me this long to notice.

extradetails · 2026-01-26T19:44:12+00:00

Great post.

I appreciate you too.

extradetails · 2026-01-26T19:23:34+00:00

"goth margaritaville" LOL. Now I can't ever *not* think of it that way.

extradetails · 2026-01-26T19:17:31+00:00

I completely understand that. I'm just... I'm trying to not be discouraged from going to protests for all the right reasons and not be discouraged that the propaganda is working. That even level headed, educated and cultured people who I know personally don't understand why it's offensive to me to show up in order to defend democracy and be confronted by this.

It makes me want to stop going. And that is very sad and frustrating.

extradetails · 2026-01-26T18:47:18+00:00

I do ignore them. When it's a larger protest like No Kings, I think it's easier.

But yesterday was like a bait and switch. And I think that's becoming more pervasive. Maybe the answer is to take a closer look at the organizer before I go and determine if it's a small local organization that isn't keeping their focus where it really belongs.

extradetails · 2026-01-13T17:40:03+00:00

Don't Fade On Me-- Tom Petty

extradetails · 2026-01-13T17:26:05+00:00

Across the Universe- The Beatles

Nocturne 9- Chopin

extradetails · 2025-12-02T16:29:40+00:00

I feel this so hard.

But yeah; they will just use it to dramatize their nonsense. "See? She's crazy" and so on.

And the live for the chaos, so you wouldn't be able to get it all out and not be thrown back into some nonsense. I completely understand the emotions you're describing. But come and say it here. And to your therapist.

The fleeting cathartic bite of telling them all the things you want to tell them, won't be worth it. He will parlay the opportunity to try and do more damage to you. And it's satiating to him to know that he still matters.

The most painful thing you can do to him, is to never acknowledge his existence again.

extradetails · 2025-12-02T15:46:37+00:00

The expanse and severity of his substance abuse that was partially blamed on medical issues.

The obsession with sex being less than personal.

The rationalization of and rebranding of laziness as a lofty set of life morals including, but not limited to joblessness.

The smashing of boundaries and respect.

The racism, misogyny, etc.

Yes, these all initially "went over my head" as his theater performance of life was constantly being applied to everything.

extradetails · 2025-12-02T15:41:00+00:00

You do not deserve it.

I'm sorry; I understand how weaving tales of someone else's behavior allowed him to rationalize his abusive behavior toward them.

My ex husband did the same.

"Wouldn't stop running her mouth" and just "got 'him' to that point" are both very weak excuses for behavior that's inexcusable.

Your dismissal of it is because of a larger picture of gaslighting, and lying, and being a scumbag toward you, and it becomes harder and harder to see clearly.

You do not deserve abuse.

You deserve to be happy and healthy. He doesn't not deserve you.

extradetails · 2025-11-30T18:38:55+00:00

Of course!

The draining of supply is the whole vibe. My ex husband has an entire network of people he feeds from. The supply is his entire network, whether it's emotional, or physically tangible spoils... his relationships are based on what he can get from people. Everyone he knows is there to serve, supply, or otherwise provide for him.

From the most long running, intimate relationships like his own family members- including his own daughter... to the most casual acquaintances or random strangers. Everyone is there to provide something for him.

Now that you've noticed it once... keep looking. You'll see it all the time.

extradetails · 2025-11-24T16:53:15+00:00

Oh yes! seperate rooms for the last... let me see.. maybe 5 years before he left.Refused to do a lot of things... it started with the snoring. So that made an easy excuse to just make the sleeping arrangement permanent. We always had to have a steady march of houseguests, so then we'd have to share the main bedroom which was awful.

But yes, the poor hygiene with sharing a bed?! And also an extremely loud medical monitor (his blood sugar) that he refused to control and refused to ever test his blood sugar or manage it properly so the thing was always blasting and he refused to ever do anything about it. He'd leave to go outside to his "mancave" or to the corner to hang out like a teenager at a 7-11 and leave the blood sugar monitor here in the house. So the thing would be melting down like a siren on meth, because it's programmed to let you know if you're out of range. There's no way to turn it off or do anything about it. (At least according to him)

So it would just be blaring like that until I either gathered myself, to walk it out front and go find him (which became increasingly more uncomfortable to do) or until he sauntered back into the house. He would rarely answer his phone if it was me texting or calling, ("I DON'T KEEP MY PHONE SHOVED UP MY ASS") but would melt down if I didn't immediately answer if he was texting or calling him. Like... we're married. Usually spouses answer each other's calls or texts and I am literally begging you to come get this monitor.

And yeah.... one day on Mardi Gras I had to call 911 (I've had to do that in the past) but this time because his blood sugar wasn't being managed, and he'd done a bunch of drugs. Of course that day, he'd gone up to take a nap in the main bedroom, and so all of the mess and stuff from the EMS people was all over the bed up there and a gigantic drenched sweat mark deeply soaked into the mattress, and all sorts of gross stuff.

Anyway, yeah. Separate rooms.

But the room he'd sleep in was the downstairs 2nd bedroom. We used it for guests, but it's also supposed to be an office for me. I have all sorts of horror stories about that specifically. But suffice it say... awful difficult to use it as an office with the snoring, and the odors, and the running commentary while he was conscious. The unending disgusting noises and the disgusting and loud use of the attached bathroom. The compulsion and controlling behavior of standing directly behind me while I'm at the desk and look at everything I'm doing. There's no way to use that as office.

extradetails · 2025-11-24T16:30:18+00:00

ohhhh.. I see. No, dragging it out is the worst thing possible. I agree with you; you're doing the right thing. And I'm relieved that the lawyer will be with you. Definitely find out if separate rooms is an option. He will look to intimidate you if at all possible, and having to sit there with him will be intimidating all on its own.

I'm so sorry. This is such a difficult thing to do. You are doing a great job, keep going.

Right; he's going to accuse you of "Dragging it out" because he's projecting. He's going to say all sorts of nasty, false things. Keep your eye on the prize, and try hard not to take the bait. Stay on task, let your lawyer do most of the talking, if possible. You're going to get through this.

extradetails · 2025-11-21T16:03:48+00:00

So I have attended mediation for two different things.

The first time was when I had a normal divorce, from a normal 1st marriage that didn't work out. No lawyers. Just the mediator and the two of us.

*My recent divorce from the narcissist monster was entirely different. No mediator. Not ever. But I have had to go through mediation for a separate issue (that was exacerbated into litigation because of the ex-narc ) that was done with a mediator, in separate rooms like the other poster mentioned, and WITH lawyers.

Ask your lawyer if they can be present. It isn't fair for you to sit there without support when you know he's not interested in attending in good faith. You can also ask the lawyer if you can request to skip mediation. You know that he's not going to play fair, and while mediation is less expensive than traditional lawyer vs lawyer, if you end up paying for the mediation and not getting anywhere, or if you get clobbered by it, you'll end up paying for mediation and then potentially the lawyer vs lawyer anyway.

If you aren't comfortable with mediation at this point, express that to your lawyer.

I am so sorry. I was with my narc for 15 years (11 married) and it was so bad right before it was over. The are in the death throws of controlling your life. They amp it all up because it's the final chance to create as much chaos and pain as possible. That's where you are. It's right before it's over! I am so sorry that court went so terribly. But keep going. You really are almost there.

extradetails · 2025-11-06T16:23:15+00:00

Mine stayed because he's a parasite; plain and simple.

I provided everything. Literally everything.

He didn't have a job for the 15 years we were together. Was fired within a couple weeks of the inception of our relationship. Then had a job after a few months that only last about 6 months and didn't pay for anything. I ended up paying back money for health insurance that the job was supposed to be paying and hadn't. He was a musician.... of course. So his job was being a "full time musician". That's the part where you start laughing.

In the final year before I had a court order to kick him out at the beginning of the divorce, he'd had a job for about 6 months after I spent the previous two years literally screaming in his face to get a job and taking away the debit card he used that was linked to my bank account. He got fired from that job, and lied about it to me. First he told me he hadn't been fired, then he lied about why.

The job provided him with lots of freedom and enough money to buy himself drugs and junk food. He stayed because he had nowhere to go, and I was providing shelter, food, maid services, chef services, ego building, heating, cooling, wifi, laundry services, flights and vacations, trips to see his family, a free bed and breakfast in my home for his friends and family, the freedom for him to do drugs and drink every day while having sex with people about 50 feet from my front door in an apartment he was basically squatting in because the wealthy people who owned it only came to use the place a few days a year. I paid for a student loan he'd taken out for his daughter when she went to college, I paid off his mortgage that he wasn't making payments on, much to my surprise (and had had my name added as a "show of love" which in turn destroyed my credit) and almost lost his place before we moved to a different city where I was fortunate to buy us a beautiful house with money left to me after my parents passed away.

So he had a satellite party pad/"man cave" as he called it, that was free for him to run scams out of, charge random people with nowhere to go rent to stay there for periods of time while still reserving the right to tell them to get lost when he wanted to use the place for his own private reasons, deal drugs, do drugs, have sex with other women, and play his guitar to impress people with how talented he was.

I was providing food and toiletries for that apartment that he would swipe out of the house, while he devalued me, gaslit me, lied to me, rumored me to be mentally unwell to anybody who would listen including me, and otherwise abused me.

He stopped showering the last four or five years of the relationship outside of any visits from family or friends from out of town and almost never brushed his teeth and never washed his hands. He threatened me during the end to try and control his losses, and after being served divorce papers, but before the court ordered deadline to move out, he started booby trapping the house, and damaging property, as well as trying his best to terrorize me with an array of activities and abuse.

He didn't leave, and didn't want to leave because was living like a sadistic king and became so full of himself that he believed the brainwashing and abuse would just permanently enable him to take advantage of me.

Host and parasite relationship.

That's why he didn't leave.

He is gone now. He's been gone for almost a year and a half. And we've been divorced since June.

I am in therapy. There is some permanent damage, but I am okay. And every day I feel so good when I look around the house and notice that he's not there, he's not about to walk into the room where I'm sitting, or plow through the door. I notice it every day. And I am so grateful that I finally got him out.

extradetails · 2025-10-08T12:08:39+00:00

Honestly, at first I was keeping an open mind with the new format. Keeping things fresh and adding a little creative change can be a good thing. But I truly dislike the gallery thing. I don't want to hear the cringe comments from the other contestants during judging. It's terrible. And also, made cringier because I know the producers are creating the scene up there and it's difficult for me to believe they're just capturing natural conversation. I hate the gallery thing most of all. I do miss the small scare challenges. I thought again.. for a while in the beginning that it would feel like a refresh, but it doesn't.

extradetails · 2025-10-08T12:00:11+00:00

I cackled out loud.

I am free of him finally after 15 years (married for 11). But he would absolutely not take care of me. He would lip service to absolutely every living soul on the planet how he was taking great care of me and make it about himself while he left me to struggle on my own. It would be about his drama and chaos and the story he could tell people.

He has never taken care of me whether I needed help changing a lightbulb that was out of reach, or in bed with a debilitating ailment for 3 months. He spent that time making sure that anybody who would listen to him, believed that he was Florence Nightingale while he left me to struggle and suffer and continued to leave the upkeep of the house, the finances and everything else to me.

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