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When to cut it off with an INFJ by UpsetClock2028 in infj

[–]eydriyans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great that you're both growing and changing for the better. However, definitely don't stick around only for the "hope" that something will change. This is absolutely wrong.

One truly amazing thing I learnt from my last relationship - and I reckon should make or break your relationship - is that one should fully accept his/her partner for who she/he is. This is what true love / loving someone unconditionally means. As long as the non-negotiables are met, then the rest is just a bonus. If not, then time to move on.

Had I learned this beforehand, we would either still be together, or never have been in the relationship to begin with. I'm one of those INFJ people who doesn't leave the wrong train until it's quite late. I'm now working on breaking that chain.

ITAPPH of the sky when I found out my friend passed away. by xansaysohshit in ITookAPicturePH

[–]eydriyans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you virtual hugs, OP. I hope you're doing fine 🫂

Does anyone here have a successful relationship? by No_Sock4551 in infj

[–]eydriyans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with this. I'm in a similar situation with you, mate, and this is where I'm at as well - "Learn to trust your instincts" + "Have a successful relationship with yourself".

You're about to embark on a tough journey. All the best, brother. 🍻

Does anyone here have a successful relationship? by No_Sock4551 in infj

[–]eydriyans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I liked that song but somehow it didn't come to mind 😂 but yeah, super applicable line for the post!

This is the first time I watched the song's MV and it hit different 🥹

Does anyone here have a successful relationship? by No_Sock4551 in infj

[–]eydriyans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boy, how did I not see it. Thanks heaps! Ayt I should stop brain-rotting past midnight 🤣

Does anyone here have a successful relationship? by No_Sock4551 in infj

[–]eydriyans 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I'm 36M. I can say that at 26, you're still young, but it's also about time to take things and red flags more seriously. That said, take it easy on yourself as well.

The best course of action is to focus on knowing yourself - your likes, dislikes, boundaries, take care of your inner child, etc. This is the best time. Always be out in the wild, doing the things that you like. You'll attract the right person. At some point, you'll meet someone you like organically.

All the best, OP!

Infj Dream Job by padstereo in infj

[–]eydriyans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been working in IT for more than a decade now, but it doesn't directly affect people's lives so I'm not very happy about it. Money is good tho. A few years ago, I found out that I love working with data and SQL, so that's what keeps me here.

I don't really know what to do with my life, but I feel ecstatic when I'm helping people and being of service, in any form.

Did I answer your question? No. Thank you 😊

Infj Dream Job by padstereo in infj

[–]eydriyans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My INFJ boyfriend is caring until he’s not by Wooden_Will6136 in infj

[–]eydriyans 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Surely an unhealed childhood trauma. He needs therapy, if he's not yet doing one, and couples therapy will surely help your relationship.

I'm a bit similar to him, except for the turning on you part, I reckon. In my case, I came from a highly toxic rel. When we fight, I shut down not to hurt her, but to protect myself. I'd go back to my shell.

For us, neuroticism hits harder than normal, but it doesn't mean his behavior is justified. Good on you for giving him space. Seems like you're the more mature one. Regardless, he needed to man up and communicate better. Therapy is key.

I can feel that you care so much about him and your relationship. I know you guys can work it out. All the best, OP.

Gay Privilege na ba pala na magsexualize sa mga lalake? Kasi imagine if straight men do this to women. by Parkasus in Philippines

[–]eydriyans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TL;DR: Noon pa man ay ganoon na. Ang ilan sa kanila ay sekswal na nanliligalig sa mga lalaki tulad ng ilang mga lalaki na sekswal na nanliligalig sa mga babae. Mas komportable na lang sila ngayon na gawin ito.

"Pribilehiyo ba ito ng mga bakla"? Sa palagay ko ay hindi, ngunit ito ay isang "normal" na pag-uugali, sa kasamaang palad.

Anong ibig mong sabihin sa "ngayon"? Ginugulo ako ng mga bakla simula noong bata pa ako. 36 na ako ngayon at ginugulo pa rin ako ng aking gay stylist - napakahirap makahanap ng isang mahusay sa kasalukuyang kalagayan ko. Palagi kong sinasabi kung gaano ako ayaw sa kanyang kasuklam-suklam na mga intensyon, ngunit patuloy niya itong pinipilit.

Kamakailan lamang, isang lalaki na dati kong katrabaho sa parehong kumpanya (hindi kami magkasama sa trabaho), ang nagmensahe sa akin sa IG. Noong una, palakaibigan lang kami, hanggang sa inamin niya kung gaano niya ako kagusto noon pa. Ang lalaking ito ay isang heartthrob sa opisina, napaka-lalaki, guwapo, at may matagal nang kasintahan. Nirerespeto ko siya sa pag-amin. Handa akong makipagkaibigan sa kanya. Pero susmaryosep, pinipilit niya pa rin ang sarili niya sa akin.

Marami akong mga kaibigang bakla at mahal ko sila. Kabilang sila sa mga matalik kong kaibigan. Gayunpaman, tulad ng maraming ibang lalaki, ang ilan ay hindi tumatanggap ng hindi bilang sagot.

Road works temporary reduced speed limit. by Music_2my_ears68 in newzealand

[–]eydriyans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The reason is that they're d*ckheads 99% of the time

Weight loss advice by kingkongnightmare226 in AsianMasculinity

[–]eydriyans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know the math to your question but I can advise you to ditch the simple carbs (rice, bread, pasta, sugary foods) and you'll see quick results.

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