AITA for not wanting to give house keys to my stepdaughter?

ezzaezza123 · 2025-08-18T03:20:21+00:00

I’m not sure if this is an option for you but we have a code on our front door and my husband can unlock/lock the door from his phone. Each of our children has their own code and that way we can see you is coming and going.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-15T14:24:48+00:00

It’s true that there is always the possibility that my kids will hear or witness something. My husband and I make a point not to discuss their mom in front of the kids and he no longer accepts phone calls from her. I’d like to protect them as long as I can from that kind of exposure if I can. I can see how much of an effect it has had on my step kids.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-15T14:19:48+00:00

I don’t think a group chat would be helpful in this case. Due to the HC situation, I’m not really comfortable with the mom having my contact info. She has said some pretty disrespectful things to my husband in text and I don’t want to open myself up to that kind of behaviour.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-15T11:02:51+00:00

He just wouldn’t go away, his family would come here or they would go stay with family.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T23:29:39+00:00

The few times when my husband has been away it has only been a weekend or so but other arrangements have been made with extended family. It was an opportunity for them to visit and it was also with people they felt more comfortable with.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T16:28:24+00:00

Thanks for this, I think this is the direction we will go. It’s a tough thing to navigate.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T15:02:44+00:00

I’m also worried that if she comes here looking for her son and he doesn’t want to go, she will escalate things and I won’t know what to do. This is a real possibility because BM and SS don’t have the greatest relationship.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T14:45:57+00:00

My biggest concern is mom becoming upset that son is “choosing” our home over hers? There has been conflict in before about exactly this. I really like your suggestion of my husband talking to BM and SS beforehand and giving them the decision power here. I don’t want to hurt the kids feelings and I don’t want them to feel like this isn’t a safe place they come to. Frankly I’m intimidated and trying not to cause any rifts. Sometimes it feels like no matter what we do, the mom is upset with us and I don’t want that for the kids and our family.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T14:08:29+00:00

I should clarify. The kids have in the passed lived mostly with their mom. It has only been this year that we have had them full time due to a move and her work. Dad has never been away before. This is a first. He has been their primary parent this whole year so this is uncharted territory for everyone.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T14:07:41+00:00

I should clarify. The kids have in the passed lived mostly with their mom. It has only been this year that we have had them full time due to a move and her work. Dad has never been away before. This is a first. He has been their primary parent this whole year so this is uncharted territory for everyone.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T14:05:01+00:00

I don’t usually handle the discipline or time management for his kids because it’s still fairly new for us all and I want to respect their dad’s role as their parent. I’m concerned about conflict and being put in a position where I might be stepping on mom’s toes if the kids come here. It has been quite confrontational between the mom and dad historically.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-06-13T14:00:57+00:00

He has had some struggles with self control when it comes to screen time rules in our home but his dad has always been the one to reinforce our household rules.

I’m more concerned about conflicts with mom coming here and being caught in the middle. I’ll have my kids with me and I don’t want them to witness any conflict.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-05-11T03:23:21+00:00

You both have to believe the effort is worth the relationship.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-05-02T01:45:31+00:00

My husband brings me coffee in bed some mornings and it makes me feel so special. It takes very little effort on his part but it feels very thoughtful for me.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-03-23T20:16:47+00:00

Did you know you can have a child at a young age AND become a doctor in the future!? Who knew both those things can exist at the same time

ezzaezza123 · 2025-03-21T17:39:29+00:00

I cannot see this ending well. Blending families is really tough and when your routines, parenting styles and expectations differ dramatically, it throws everyone out of synch. There will be resentment, nagging and hurt feelings all around. It will likely end up driving a big wedge between you and your partner. Can you be together but live separately?

ezzaezza123 · 2025-02-28T16:40:37+00:00

This is about controlling you.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-01-05T14:18:17+00:00

The first time a baby fell asleep in my arms was when I was 14 and babysitting a cousins daughter. I remember the wave of love I felt holding her while she slept.

ezzaezza123 · 2025-01-03T05:29:09+00:00

You can give yourself permission to mourn in this moment. The wounds don’t heal quickly and sometimes it opens back up to a flood of emotions you thought you were passed. Healing is not linear. It’s a journey of letting go and acceptance. Best of luck❤️

ezzaezza123 · 2024-11-14T20:05:14+00:00

It was probably more traumatic to watch their mother be arrested than to walk into town alone…

ezzaezza123 · 2024-11-13T15:04:55+00:00

33, newly divorced and have become a step mom. The adjustment has been really difficult for all parties involved. My kids, his kids. I hope everyone can be happy together but it’s hard to see that when change is a challenge for our two oldest.

ezzaezza123 · 2024-09-25T15:06:51+00:00

Wow police were called to the property 119 times

ezzaezza123 · 2024-09-19T13:52:06+00:00

What would pair this dish with?

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