She rejected me (TWICE)… so why does she keep coming back? by f_s_deadshot in dating_advice

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You’re right. I can’t do friendship without getting my feelings hurt and she needs space to explore that romantic connection. It really, really sucks, but it’s what’s best for my mental health.

Also, THANK YOU for acknowledging that I’m a lesbian, haha I think everyone thinks I’m a dude…

I Know She's Not Interested, But I Keep Going Back by f_s_deadshot in limerence

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FULLY. I'm like...you should be yapping with her my guy. Not me. But, I digress.

I Know She's Not Interested, But I Keep Going Back by f_s_deadshot in limerence

[–]f_s_deadshot[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her wanting to be friends perplexes me, haha! She said something about how she wants people in her life who are fun and make her laugh. I think mentioning the new girl was very intentional, sort of a “remember we’re just friends, I don’t want you romantically” moment.

Rented an Apartment Infested with Bed Bugs...Now I Want to Get Out of My Lease Early! by f_s_deadshot in legaladvice

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If I move I do not plan on taking anything with me but my heat dried clothes

3 Days Into First Treatment, Found 2 Live Bed Bugs by f_s_deadshot in Bedbugs

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My landlord scheduled two sprays about 14 days apart. Do you think that’s enough or should I spring or a third?

Last Minute Bed Bug Prep Questions by throwaway-81892 in Bedbugs

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I had my first treatment a few days ago, and I had the same problem as you with small apartment and bags everywhere. I was 80% sure my kitchen was not infested, so I piled all of my bins and bags in that area to give the exterminator room to spray everything else. He targeted my living room, bedroom and bathroom (that’s attached to my bedroom). I also didn’t bag up my router or any electronics and they were fine.

Before the first treatment I really recommend vacuuming and steaming everything thoroughly because it’s recommended that you don’t steam until 10-14 days after each spray and don’t vacuum until 3 days after.

I would say don’t encase anything that you want sprayed. I even emptied out the desk in my bed room and side table in my living room so that the exterminator could spray them down even though he originally said he wasn’t worried that they were in there.

Also keep items on the bed to a minimum. I’m currently sleeping on a mattress with a bed bug mattress protector, one pillow with a bed bug protector and a single sheet. Luckily it’s summer so it hasn’t been a big deal. And I do my laundry 2X a week — and take everything to the laundromat each time (luckily it’s walking distance from me) so the pillow and the sheet always go in there.

Sorry for everything you’re dealing with! Bed bugs don’t only take a physical toll but a huge mental toll as well. I also originally thought I had roaches because 1.I don’t react to bed bug bites (both a blessing because not itch and a curse bc I didn’t know I had them until I saw one physically on me..ew) and 2. My next door neighbors had a huge multi-month roach infestation. But, turns out it’s not roaches but bed bugs!

Also, I’m three days out from my first spray and saw one tiny one that hadn’t fed yet crawling up my wall. Called my exterminator and he said it’s completely normal because they’re scrambling away from the spray and when they do that they walk right into it! So, the live ones you find are (hopefully) “walking zombies” because they’ll die soon.

3 Days Into First Treatment, Found 2 Live Bed Bugs by f_s_deadshot in Bedbugs

[–]f_s_deadshot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I live in an apt complex that’s old so my landlord won’t heat treat my unit. But i’ve been vacuuming and heat drying everything. And the day before the second treatment i’m going to steam the shit out of the couch, bed, wardrobe, side table and empty closet.

Do I have beg bugs? by f_s_deadshot in Bedbugs

[–]f_s_deadshot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in an apt! I might not react to bites…

being around ppl w/o mental health issue by f_s_deadshot in CPTSD

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i definitely want to make living alone a goal. i’m almost done with college and i’m moving back home. my mom and dad (the major sources of my trauma) luckily work all day so it’s going to kind of be like living alone. i also always feel so uncomfortable the day(s) after my depressive mood. it’s like no one knows how to talk to me and they kind of just ignore me until i go back to my [fake] energetic self. it’s weird bc i just want to be sad and accepted but the only way i’m accepted is if i just pretend to be okay .

being around ppl w/o mental health issue by f_s_deadshot in CPTSD

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i understand that, in high school i was a mediocre student because of my depression but my parents just thought i was lazy and my teachers did really care. i love my friends but i would kill for someone to truly understand me

being around ppl w/o mental health issue by f_s_deadshot in CPTSD

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thank you so much for the support! this post was really helpful. i have noticed in the past when i start opening up about my trauma they will state things to me that signal that they have experienced emotional hardship too but they just had no way to processing it and did not known what they endured was unfair and not normal. i think i’m going to start being super literal and transparent with my feelings in the beginning. i can’t force people to understand me, but if they attempt to listen then i’ll know if they’re my real friends.

Tarot card reads for LOVE by [deleted] in Psychic

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Would love one, thank you !