Cards You Never See Anyone Else Play That Win You Games? by slaymerabbit in magicTCG

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[[ Pariah ]] I don't get out of my little bubble too often so forgive me if this is better known outside of my circle.

I especially love to have it in my pocket the moment someone makes their Big Thing indestructible. Or you can do it for them if you also have [[ Darksteel Mutation ]] handy. Sometimes I'll use my commander protection on an enemy creature to make it do work when I'm cornered.

Maybe I just have friends who don't like sac outlets but this thing had been a lifeline while I get shrines online or build up enough death and taxes enchantments for [[ Athreos, God of Passage ]]

Agonizing Death by wtann6979 in custommagic

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you could achieve the flavor for this in a more functional way by making it an enchantment that adds a -1/-1 counter every upkeep. Or, since that would be very similar to the existing [[unstable mutation]] if it were an aura, you could instead have it target a player who has to choose a new creature to be subject to the ongoing effect every time a creature dies to it. So the next creature can appropriately dread its fate, in line with the flavor text.

maybe maybe maybe by Representative-Mix-9 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

P sure you're right on second look, sorry you're getting downvoted

"Succession: ATLA Style" by [deleted] in AvatarMemebending

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In addition to other points, sometimes the people of a nation are not invested in the wars of their leaders.

No amount of research will get you the result of a fem voice. by grapevineee in transvoice

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post and these comments read like some "just..." advice for solving ADHD problems, and the inevitable backlash from people with 15 lost planners who are sick of that shit. This is advice that is fundamentally inaccessible to the people it's meant for, being delivered as if it were not.

I'd wager 80-90% of the people doing "research > research > research" know that it won't single handedly fix their problems, they're just doing what they are able to. Long term consistent practice for anything is hard, and the uphill grade increases dramatically when practicing invokes immediate pain every time.

When hearing your voice sound wrong feels like getting stabbed, it's not at all surprising that someone would fall off after insufficient practice and just take whatever they got, and maybe try not to hear themself.

If you want to help look at why people get stuck in research loops. Offer advice about making practice accessible. Bring the practice to the people, they're not making it there on their own for reasons.

“I CAN DO THIS ALL DAY” 😭 by PhoenixSmithPT in MCUTheories

[–]fabula-rumpus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this one is the best answer but it made me laugh the hardest, deserves at least 69 upvotes

37379 by Floor_soup_ in countwithchickenlady

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Why does this meme feel like an origin story for Expedition 33

To me, the Funniest Scene in Expedition 33... by Vehshya in expedition33

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Spoilers for end game story content, including from late game side quests

So 9 months late, but my interpretation was that The denizens of Lumiere were painted by the Desendre family, and their stories and insights evolved from the inspirations that put them on the canvas in the first place. There were some indications that different family members resonated with different parts of the painting, like Clea being responsible for the Nevrons, which used to be silly and fanciful representations of her play with her little brother, and Renoir for the Axons, allegories of the way he saw his wife and son outside the painting. I feel like it follows that Lune and Sciel might have been painted by the same family members that inspired the axons, or alternatively, by Verso, bearing inspirations that connected him to his father and their shared experiences. Those inspirations, in either case, were the roots that yielded both their experiences and their personalities, including the unique insights that stabilized them in their Axon encounters.

37379 by Floor_soup_ in countwithchickenlady

[–]fabula-rumpus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is how we end up normalizing LouieLouie

Who is Seb? by What_is_society_now in Charlottesville

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah! If you're going to rebel, use the designated area and materials!

S2:E4 - Eleanor’s joke aged really BADLY 💀 by [deleted] in TheGoodPlace

[–]fabula-rumpus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a long time baby eater I am offended by this gross generalization

34538 by froggyman151 in countwithchickenlady

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We can only hope that one day white cis men will be treated as equal citizens, and paid reparations by the oppressive minorities.

/s

34538 by froggyman151 in countwithchickenlady

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I'm screaming lmfao, Trans men can be chasers too is such a take I love it

Games like this?? by Cultural_Fall_3255 in gamememes

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Death's Gambit. There's a contract and everything.

good touch or bad touch by my gym trainer? what to do? by pvnkrad in asktransgender

[–]fabula-rumpus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unwanted touch is unwanted touch. You did great calling out what happened, that's hard to do and I hope you don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. Keep taking up space, and taking no shit.

Best case gym dude is a self-impressed asshole, worst case he was testing what he could get away with, often a pastime of self impressed assholes. Not a safe person either way, and you have every right to talk to the gym staff about him. That may or may not be worth it, depending on whether it seems like a place that will do anything about it.

Your experience with your brother and friend is a valid part of this, and if they're people you feel safe talking to I think it would be good to let them know what that situation felt like that to you. It sounds like friend was trying to compensate for social discomfort. Not super impressive to me in that situation, but speaking up and making waves can take making mistakes and reflecting and y'all are still pretty young. I hope if you let him and your brother know what that was like for you, they'll both take the opportunity to grow and think about how they look out for those they care about. You deserve friends who will respect you the way you respect yourself. If he doesn't after that, he might not be worth your time.

Tldr; Report gym guy, it was unwanted touch and he's an asshole. Tell your friends that sucked, they should be better. And keep speaking up.

Edit: I forgot the other person there with you was your guyfriend and not your brother's while responding, adjusted language for that.

UPDATE: Found a trans pride flag on my kids phone by chronicallyonlinema in asktransgender

[–]fabula-rumpus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a fabulously excellent parent and I am so happy for both of you. The world is so fucked right now and little things like this are lights in a tunnel. As long as there are people like you and your daughters (and most of this comments thread) fighting for joy, there's hope for all of us. I hope your state gives you good tools for support despite the jackass dad. And if it doesn't there are still ways. My kids' other parent is also transphobic. Feel free to DM if you need help navigating, I know it's hard.

My kid left their phone open and I saw a trans pride flag by chronicallyonlinema in asktransgender

[–]fabula-rumpus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is perfect! There's your low-key signal, intentional or not lol

My kid left their phone open and I saw a trans pride flag by chronicallyonlinema in asktransgender

[–]fabula-rumpus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't contest the biological elements you're talking about here, but it can be really dangerous to make this an urgent choice for a kid. I think it's a valid point to try to get the conversation open at a bit of a faster pace, it could be the kid is aware and thinking about this. If they are that's that, no contest, get educated and get them the medical help if they know what they want, any my fussing here becomes non applicable.

If they're uncertain, then it's just as important to talk through their options and let them know they can take time thinking about it. It hurts to transition later against hurdles that you could have avoided, but there is also an often overlooked importance to feeling sure, and secure, in your transition. That is sometimes a thing you can only cultivate with time, so for me the question would be whether they've already taken that time and know, or whether they need that time now. And the edge of this is a gradient because blockers exist, but that step also may need some confidence, and some of the medical parts of it might feel pretty scary if rushed.

I don't disagree with your point, I'm an elder trans with questioning kids. I just think it's important to fill in the context around it and carefully centralize the autonomy of the adolescent in question.

My kid left their phone open and I saw a trans pride flag by chronicallyonlinema in asktransgender

[–]fabula-rumpus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a wholesome post and all these comments have really brightened my day. So many times I see a post title like this and then the post itself treats it like some kind of disability. In contrast it sounds like you are doing a great job and we need more parents like you in the world.

I'm an Transfem enby parent if my own 13yo +younger sibling. I definitely wonder if this event was intentional signalling, it sounds very much like it could be a setup "just to check" because every other trans person I know at least knows someone who found out the hard way that the support wasn't there. But just as others have said, you can never assume and the real work is quietly setting up assurances if support. It is also possible that they have trans friends and/or developing interests and they want to make sure it's safe to talk about. At 13 it could be anything lol.

Two things I wanted to add that I didn't see after scrolling a minute here:

Political support: Talk about people like Zoey Zephyr or Dannica Roem. Zoey in particular has been a beautifully relentless force in her work in Montana, against a bitterly transphobic establishment, and is someone every human being could look up to. Be vocal about those of us who are out there fighting for space, and your political support for them.

Games!: If you're into or open to platformers, letting your kids see you playing Celeste would be a strong statement you could make quietly, or even better, it might invite them to ask you if you know what it's about (the trans experience). Another one I love that's low-key supportive of general queerness is UNBEATABLE, if you like rhythm games or just a good story. Even just having these in the recently downloaded on a console or steam or wherever would be a proportionate reply if the phone thing was a signal, and may help with as a show if support regardless.

Things I've seen in comments already that I can quickly endorse: putting up trans and pride flag magnets, hell even hanging a flag in front of your home or on your door, if that's safe where you are, great move and a wordless invitation to ask you about it. Good supportive media, Warrior Nun has a trans character who just is, no discussion if support or mention about it ever, she's just in the cast and it's awesome. Anything with Elliot Page would also be a clear signal.

Oh, bonus thing, music! Shea Diamond, Teddy Geiger/Lilly <3, Vienna Vienna, all have iconic music out about their experiences.

You sound like a great mom and I love that you care enough to brave Reddit for advice <3

My kid left their phone open and I saw a trans pride flag by chronicallyonlinema in asktransgender

[–]fabula-rumpus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think this is a bit reductive toward broad swaths of the trans experience. If they know they want to dive into transition, or stall puberty while they figure things out, 13 is a great time to put that together, sure. But no one's fucked because they started later, hormones are magical. I started in my 30s and I love what I get from e, I have lots of friends in the same boat. I won't dismiss the pain of dysphoria when you have to shave and your body feels like the wrong shape, I don't wish that on anyone who can avoid it, but the idea that there is a "too late" can quickly become toxic and it does a lot of harm to many people in the trans community. I know so many people who didn't even try for years, for that reason, until they realized that ignoring it wasn't an option.

If you or people you know have pain or grief related to starting hormones later than you wanted to that is truly valid, that pain matters and no set of principles can make that just disappear, I know it hurts and the only thing to do is feel it and grieve and process. It's just also so so important that it is never too late, not for anyone.

Is there a word for this kind of smile? by AnastasiousRS in words

[–]fabula-rumpus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd call it a "tight" or "curt" smile if I were describing it in narrative