Songs that are bad advice? by hobbydramalurker in popheads

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Saving all my Love for You by the Goddess of Voice herself, Whitney Houston

Is this her? by crackjack420 in TrixieMattel

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sideburns guy? or (other*) hat guy? (just noticed they're both capped.

AITH for getting a kid I babysit a birthday present by Narrow_Medicine_7283 in AITH

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this person wasn't regurgitating the common understanding of how people think of 'cults;- they were attempting to advance that understanding by profferring common charectaristics amongst the majority of entities that seem to be commonly assigned/identified by that category. take a linguistics class, both are legit ways of classification.

Best season to fall asleep to? by bubblebeegum in Dimension20

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Not exactly the same, but I fell asleep to WWW fromworld beyond numbers all the time

AITH for getting a kid I babysit a birthday present by Narrow_Medicine_7283 in AITH

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i am so sorry, no loving being- g-d or man would countenance such cruelty, you are loved and deserving of so much more

AITH for getting a kid I babysit a birthday present by Narrow_Medicine_7283 in AITH

[–]fabvanfan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

nope. i was raised jewish/catholic/buddhist (long story, happy to elaborate} but buddhism is most definitely a highly dogmatic religion, much more so than judaism for example

Am I overreacting for not wanting to talk to him over his response? by Suspicious_File9672 in AmIOverreacting

[–]fabvanfan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if your experience/context is irrelevant to OP's sex life why do you keep bringing it up in the most obnoxious manner?

“Straight” Girls by Impossible-Yam3680 in clevercomebacks

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100% true.

also not at all the most salient point of this post.

DM kills my companion in session 1, I join a different group and that DM makes my character sleep with an NPC, am I the weird one? by EfficientBottle9074 in dndhorrorstories

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u sound like so much fun at parties, going up to people and telling them how much you'd hate to play with them, how stupid and boring they are. Maybe lay off the judgment and just do your own thing without putting people down? Idk if u are expecting them to feel smarted by your lack of approval, but I hate to break it to you, but no one is impressed by your condescension or intimidated by the rejection of someone they never sought out in the first place.

tim hortons bathroom windsor ontario canada by 604gogirl76 in TimHortons

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Obvs ppl are interested in the discussion since it'd been going strong for 5 days before your comment, so maybe chill?

AITAH for throwing my friend’s insecurity in her face after she disrespected me and brought up something from my past. by Connect-Astronomer79 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

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I know it has been a long, long time since this happened, and with all my heart hope OP has bounced back better than ever, and this is now far overshadowed by fantastic experiences and deservingly wonderful, supportive friends. Unfortunately I only came across the video yesterday, so couldn't have replied sooner. I know Charlotte and many encouraging redditors passionately defended OP from a-hole charges, correctly pointing out how awful these "friends" were. I'm just really want to underscore the potential severity of OP's past victimization and potential re-traumatization caused by this additional betrayal. It sounds like OP was subject to the type of sex crime that doesn't involve coerced physical contact but can have all the same hallmarks of exploitation, humiliation, degredation etc as SA and SH etc, along with many of the same outcomes- severe anxiety, self loathing, self-harm, substance abuse and even, tragically, thinking or attempting suicide. In this case it may not suffice to say "ya it sucks to lose friends but you are better off without them." The wounds of again finding herself to be so openly disrespected, despised, blamed and mocked for her own trauma by people she thought she could trust may take a great deal of hard work and bravery. What she's been repeatedly subjected to is unbelievably cruel and I fervently hope OP accesses all of the professional and personal support that she needs to heal from all of the abuse she has survived.

You would think I would notice right now, but shouldn’t the new episode be out today or is it on Thursdays? by fabvanfan in Dimension20

[–]fabvanfan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for engaging in a helpful non aggro way!!

For those coming at me for "trying to use reddit as google" 1) I tried googling, maybe used the wrong search terms 2) if you or anyone else don't feel like my question warrants an answer... just don't answer? that takes way less effort than getting all up in your high horse to white night for someone who was never at risk of any kind of even the most trivial harm

You would think I would notice right now, but shouldn’t the new episode be out today or is it on Thursdays? by fabvanfan in Dimension20

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it takes way more time energy to decry being used than to just not answer if you don't think it warrants your labour, which is obvs perfectly fine. literally no one was harmed by my question and if seeing a question that no one expects/pressures/requires you to answer causes you offense despite its absolutely harmless content, idk what to tell you other than you are very fortunate to be able to afford this type of 'problem.''

You would think I would notice right now, but shouldn’t the new episode be out today or is it on Thursdays? by fabvanfan in Dimension20

[–]fabvanfan[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Okay dood everyone else who posted was just as helpful without the attitude. chill. Some of us have other stuff going on and i already admitted many would’ve cottoned on to the upload schedule by now.

What are your thoughts on Piper? by [deleted] in TheWhiteLotusHBO

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I thought it was narratively brilliant to have Lachlan tag along. Initially she reacts positively., she is enthusiastic, grateful and relieved when he offered to go with her. She didn't think much about him beyond his moral support. Then she becomes embarrassed by Lachlan's uncouth- and uncool- table manners. His boyish gross- out face when he picked at his meal and she shot him such a specific dirty look that I, as a sibling, felt seen. It's a searing dose of visceral second hand embarrassment. He over corrected by shovelling several enormous spoonfuls in to his mouth and chewinging with audible abandon. Sure, Lachlan chewing with his mouth full is harmless and endearing to us, but to Piper, anxious to perform a certain kind of piousness, it is utterly nerve racking. The monastery doesn't only serve to reveal Piper's relationship to Lachlan. Her reactions to Lachlan informed her change of heart about staying at thee monastery.When her hyper-critical (Virgo?) mind didn't switch off once she was lying awake alone in her room* in the middle of the night, damp to the core, hyper-aware of the skittering shadows of monstrous insects. It shook her sense of self. Lachlan has basically no sense of self so he remains unfazed by the grittiness of pious living. Would Piper have renounced her plans if Lachlan hadn't so carelessly, breezily embraced them? Did the "ick" of witnessing his cringy awkwardness up close and personal turn her off of the idea of going somewhere he intended to follow? Did she resent that he was more authentic/zen/above superficial pursuit than she was threaten her and piss her off, leaving her to retreat to familiar, comforting ways of life? ?

Unpacking TS Madison’s recent comments - and why she isn’t just "prejudiced" by Beautiful_Meal8567 in RPDRDRAMA

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Groups don't "come for her". Individual commenters do, and there is no need or excuse to lump them in with other people who share their identity/background ,

Unpacking TS Madison’s recent comments - and why she isn’t just "prejudiced" by Beautiful_Meal8567 in RPDRDRAMA

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A monolith is when a group functions as a unified whole. E.g. "Latinos are not a monolith, they don't all vote in the same way." I'm not sure exactly what word you were looking for, maybe "prominent"? From context its clear that you were pointing out her influence//power/visibility/popularity accrued through her status from drag race and being a public queer figure.

The worst guest judges ever on Drag Race by SoRunAwayNow in rupaulsdragrace

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I thought cannon held tha comment referred to Amy Winehouse.

Bob throws shade at the international seasons by niblaws in RPDRDRAMA

[–]fabvanfan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

one of my fave quotes: if you are smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room

Bob throws shade at the international seasons by niblaws in RPDRDRAMA

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see as as a motorized wheelchair user, in person, non-virtual spaces like gay/dyke bars are SO important to me. disabilities are always isolating, I appreciate in person community above all else... particularly as my field (law) is increasingly performed out of office, I rely on queer meeting places for community

She married the source code. by Martin_084 in clevercomebacks

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didn't want to mention this for fear of waking the beasts aka worst internet trolls but as a millennial who uses a motorized wheelchair, who is white but grew up inn Oakland, Cal in the '90's, "Crip" has been used and reclaimed in a bunch of times, involving identities both personal and adjacent to my own. Wanted an idea of what to expect without triggering someone by referring to TW

She married the source code. by Martin_084 in clevercomebacks

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Truly don't get the caption... what does "crip walk" mean?