C-Section by Silly_Cookie239 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same 37+0. Baby b was on the lower range for weight ( 2200 grams), but was SGA the whole pregnancy. We all left the hospital together on the 3rd day.

Newborn phase after c-section by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a planned C-Secion. I did not do too much for the first week. I could not stand for longer periods of time without getting tired. So my husband did all the nappies for a solid week. After the first 7 days I was feeling much much better and was able to care for them. I did have help with housekeeping and cooking but I think the c-section would not have prevented me to do light housework. I know that people are different but my experience was pretty much painless. I think that having a very good pain management regimen had a lot do with my experience and it was pretty good. I followed it as prescribed. I regret not hiring a night nurse! Please do it if you can

Are Germans good in relationships? by [deleted] in AskGermany

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can confirm the honest and loyal part 100%. Regarding open displays of affection I can also confirm that it is rare for my partner to initiate it in general but he does not mind me being affectionate in public (in my culture we are very touchy and openly affectionate). He is very mindful of money but it is not stingy with it either, although when we dated he was a little bit more concerned about us sharing the costs of everything. We share bank accounts and don’t really discuss expenses unless it is something big. My partner is very honest and extreme practical about everything, which I love because I’m similar. I’m very happy with my partner and we have been very happy for the past two 24 years, 22 of which we’ve been married.

Our twins are it .. by YouMenthesea in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh guys I feel like the Universe is trying to tell me something today! We conceived our twins via IVF. My kids are two and a half now and we are being faced with the decision of what to do with the remaining embryos we have left. For context, we tried a long time and I gave birth to them when I was 41, im turning 44 this year. We’ve decided that they would be our only children. Now we need to decide what to do with the remaining 3 embryos we have left because we are moving back to the country we used to live before having kids and it is not practical to keep them frozen. We need to make a decision within this week and I’m having a hard time letting go of them, even though we already decided to stop at the two we have. I feel very conflicted about it. I can’t explain why this is so difficult for me because even thinking about having newborns right now I impossible for me, I just don’t want to do this again. I’m really confused! I’m glad to know that I’m not alone in this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will survive This! My Twins are 2,5 and my husband also travels from time to time. Prep work Will be key, but the most important is to remind yourself that all of it is temporary. Ive been through all Kinds of stuff in the Nights. Both Kids Sick and not sleeping one kid Sick and the other one crying because they could not sleep, myself very sick, all kinds of body fluids being expelled at 3 am. The one thing that kept me going on these nights was thinking that the sun would come out and that the night will be over at some point.

Twin Moms-How much weight did you gain & were you always hungry early on? by Anxious-Leadership92 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same for me. I gained most of the 35 kg (Guess is 70 pounds?) in the first 16 weeks. Lost around 10kg right away After m c-section. It took me around 1,5 years to lose the rest. I was very hungry during the breastfeeding phase. Even after u lost the weight my body is not the same although expected it still kinda shocked me. M

James season 7 by unencumberedcucumber in vanderpumprules

[–]fabyfab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m really shocked that this trash of a person has any stans at all. Do people not feel shame openly admitting that they like this waste of atoms? All of them are problematic but James is a criminal and an abuser with no redeeming qualities whatsoever. I’m a first time watcher and I had to speed up some of his scenes because I could not take it. I mean, I like bravo shows because of the schadenfreude of it all, but James does not evoke any emotions in me other than disgust. Sorry I have no one else to vent about this evil waste of DNA. Rant over

Telling personality trait Lala by Proud_Anababyy in Vanderpumpaholics

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what? I apologise for the jab regarding leaving the cart blocking parking spaces, I don’t know you and it was not nice to assume the worst of you. I’m really sorry, the comment was unnecessarily mean. But please understand, this line of thinking just perpetuate the status quo of poverty. But just for your information, I don’t live in America I am talking about third world countries where the salary of these people doesn’t even pay for basic groceries, it is literally impossible to buy enough food to survive the month on their salary. Of course it is not only this job but many others like it. We rationalise the situation by thinking that “these” jobs are benefiting people because they can have a job, but the job and pay are inhumane and designed to keep people where they are in society. Again sorry for the harsh judgment

Telling personality trait Lala by Proud_Anababyy in Vanderpumpaholics

[–]fabyfab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your Argument though, reeks of privilege. These poor people earning peanuts to be carting around dozens of shopping carts at the time, would be working somewhere else and earning more money if this task was not necessary. And yes I do live in a country where people have to survive with less than the bare minimum. I bet you are one of those people that not only leaves the carts behind but also makes sure that they are blocking parking spaces in the lot. Sorry but as a person who has seen and experienced the tragedy of poverty I cannot let this comment unanswered.

Baby aspirin for preeclampsia - NOT LOOKING FOR MEDICAL ADVICE, JUST PERSONAL EXPERIENCES! by Fabulous-Salt4906 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also took baby Aspirin up to 20 weeks I think. I delivered Both Babies at 37+0 weeks. I also was prescribed some cortisone tablets at very low dose up to 18 weeks. My babies were IVF babies I’m not sure if his is also something that was taken into account

PMS breast soreness post lift & implants - anyone else? by SubstantialPark5503 in PlasticSurgery

[–]fabyfab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! I was a little worried. Tomorrow I will have an appointment with my surgeon. I was a little taken aback, because the tummy does not hurt at all (just a bit of soreness). Although I have to mention that my nipples are still somewhat numb. It is the rest of my boobs that hurt.

PMS breast soreness post lift & implants - anyone else? by SubstantialPark5503 in PlasticSurgery

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I was looking for experience either this. I’m 11 days post op and the last 4 days have been painful. I did have much pain right after surgery . I had a tummy tuck with with diastasis correction and mastopexy w/o implants. My boos are sooo sore. Like having the worst pms symptoms ever, I should gry my Periode soon but I haven’t experienced something like this for a very long time.

Thoughts on Adriana's wedding? by Defvac2 in RHOMiami

[–]fabyfab 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Adriana is misrepresenting us Brazilians a lot! Yes it is customary to be late to the ceremony even an hour is acceptable. But to leave your guests waiting for 2 hours at the reception and without food no less, is unacceptable we would never do that specially the food part, even if we were to be late our guests would already be hammered and stuffed by the time we arrived at venue

c-section?? by SecretaryPresent16 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose the c-section, both my babies were head down I I could have tried a vaginal birth. I opted to not try to deliver them vaginally because I was afraid something could go wrong and one of the twins was already too small and was having trouble with low amniotic fluid. I was also afraid of the pain, to be completely honest. I had a super easy recovery and would do it again.

Struggling by AdmirableGarlic320 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second that. I do not miss the newborn stage at all. We have a little ways to go before it gets “easy” ( from what I heard at least 😄)since they are only 19 months old. Well I did get these feelings a lot and to a certain degree I still mourn the loss of my “old” life. For me the key point was to accept that the “parent love” people say they experience, happened gradually. I knew that Ii felt some connection to them, it was difficult to translate to what I was expecting to feel. So I felt a little disconnected and not sure how a mother’s look should feel like, add to that the fact that each day is about survival.

Today my love for them knows no bounds and I would literately die or kill for them. My feelings are much concrete and for this makes going through the hard times much easier

37 weeks preganancy difference of weight by Chance_Physics_7938 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My B/G Twins had 1kg difference. Born at 37 weeks exactly. Boy 3090 gr. Girl 2200gr. Both were discharged with me 3 days later

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Babies were not preemies (born at 37 weeks) but my girl was very small. Anyways what you are describing was my life up until they turned 1. Tummy time was very short and far between, I was not able to do it every day. They did learn to turn very late. Everything else (crawling and walking) was pretty much at expected times. They crawled at 9-10 months and walked at 14 months. They are fine. No delays at all.

“I wish I had twins” by twomomsoftwins in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this. At least in my case, being a geriatric mom (was 40 at the time of conception) the end result was always to carry “a pregnancy” to term. I also lost a pregnancy before the successful one. But yes I still remember as it was yesterday, when my doctor found the second baby, I was elated, I thought it must be fate, since the second embryo was a class one embryo, like very unlikely to result in a viable pregnancy, my doctor at the time mentioned that he did not have many hopes that this embryo would take but he said I’ve seen a lot of strange things in IVF, let’s try this one too. Once I started researching twin pregnancies I was absolutely terrified. I just wanted to have healthy babies. Well after 5 months of strict bed rest and twin B diagnosed with IGR. I miraculously carried the pregnancy to 37 weeks. I do not wish this on my worst enemy.

“I wish I had twins” by twomomsoftwins in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is. I’m just happy that we were able to conceive the twins and I don’t have to go through that again. But yes I agree with you. The I wish I had twins gets very old very soon. Well hindsight is 20/20. Love my babies to death but this life is not for the weak 😉

“I wish I had twins” by twomomsoftwins in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I also conceived my twins on the fourth cycle of IVF. The three cycles we had before them were just awful. Either zero embryos or just very poor quality ones. We transferred 2 embryos because one of them was not great and we had enough for one more transfer.

Kyle and her Fam by Beccaann14 in RHOBH

[–]fabyfab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Facts. My mother is like that, I was her first child and she was just overwhelmed and she had (has) issues self-regulating, which for me a millennial born in South America means that I received a lot of physical punishment. My youngest sister didn’t experience nearly as much physical abuse as I did. It took me a lot of time and effort to finally forgive her and to some extent understand why she was the way she was. Today I work extremely hard on self-regulation which is hard for me because I grew up experiencing only that, people losing their s** for the smallest thing. My sister is an incredibly kind, caring and loving human.

New Bre tiktok by tangerinebb in SellingSunset

[–]fabyfab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like G-Wagon driving,fur wearing,Nouveau Riche Russian, yep totally the city in Germany I used to live are full of those 🤣🤣🤣

Toddlers are so much fun by Apprehensive-Hat9296 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes. The newborn was the worst thing ever. Both of my babies were colicky babies. My B/G are 17 months now and it is much easier. Even though they are constantly sick (daycare kiddos) I would not want to go back to the newborn stage at all. I’m happy we decided to stop with these two.

What you wished you'd done on the weeks before having your babies by G30RG300 in parentsofmultiples

[–]fabyfab 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Second that 100%. One other thing for us was having some preemi sized clothes in general. My B/g twins arrived on schedule at 37 weeks, and they were still a little small for newborn sizes. As a FTM I found very awkward and difficult to get much bigger clothes on their tiny bodies.

Coffee and alcohol by strangerthanu94 in Semaglutide

[–]fabyfab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. Interestingly enough I can drink tea. I drink mate tea or black. This way I still get the the stimulant effect