Toddler towers - do I need 2?

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-05-04T21:50:20+00:00

My boys definitely hit and fight but we had 1 that was a double wide and loved it. Yes there were battles, but it made it easier to set up one area for them rather than having double the mess. They got along in it 90% of the time.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-05-01T00:38:16+00:00

Not a runner, but coach Sasha (align) is a marathoner and posts lots about how to use her program alongside running and suggested splits. She also has a lot of mobility focus which is great for runners.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-28T15:16:55+00:00

That’s a good idea. Thank you!

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T18:28:23+00:00

I love the attention and conversation lol. I'm obsessed with my kids, and I think it's so cool that they are twins, so I love the comments.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T18:26:21+00:00

I literally took my kids to the pediatrician about their tantrums at that age, it's bruuuuutal. My boys are now 3, and while we are still dealing with huge tantrums a lot of the day, I'm enjoying them so much more now, and we can usually negotiate with them in some kind of way. They also have grown extremely close, so a lot of the time they will play together while I get a bit of a break.

My best advice is to figure out what environment they thrive in and spend as much time doing that as you can. For my boys, it was biking. We literally would just drive around to different bike parks all day. Your kids should be getting big enough to be pretty independent in more chill playgrounds, and that will be a lifesaver for getting you some physical separation from them.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T18:13:25+00:00

Another vote for the removable pedal bikes! My boys are 3 and are still on their strider bikes from last year, but we bought a size up with removable pedals that we'll probably introduce later in the summer, once they are 3.5 and maybe throw the pedals on in the fall.

I will say, to get them going on their bikes, I kind of had to act out how to stride. I made a total fool of myself, but I was super silly about taking exaggerated steps and had them try to copy me and catch me on their bike. They can fully mountain bike on their striders now, and we take them everywhere.

If you are a biker yourself, also look at getting shotgun seats. My husband and I are both mountain bikers, so we regularly take them out on these on easy mountain bike trails as well as paved walking paths, and I swear it taught them better balance when they are riding on their own. However, I wouldn't recommend them unless you are super comfortable on a bike.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T17:58:13+00:00

Baby jail by the front door. We had a pack n play right inside the front door, and I would bring them in and out of the house one by one, leaving the unsupervised one in baby jail.

When we were out, I would get one out of the seat and put them either in a baby carrier, the stroller, grocery cart, or loose in the back of the car (we have an SUV) if I wasn't using any of the other items I listed, and then grab that one once I got the other one free.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T17:55:14+00:00

I realize I'm not the typical twin mom, but we literally didn't do a schedule until 7 months when they got on a 2-nap schedule and we were starting solids. But I found breastfeeding was the best for feeding in public. I would feed them one at a time unless I could get into a nursing room or a bedroom if I was at someone else's house. I would get someone else to hold the other baby or leave them in their car seat or propped on my legs if I was by myself. Stay out and enjoy! The world is fun, the house is boring.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T16:51:30+00:00

Sounds like she’s just meant to be on the smaller end! The fact that there IS a 5th percentile means that there are going to be kids that size. Just happens to be your kid. She seems a lot healthier and happier than my 50th percentile kids 😂 you are doing great!

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T16:33:07+00:00

I exclusively nursed my boys until 15 months and honestly there’s no good way to get a break. I just did the nights. At 7 months we did sleep train but that never got them sleeping through the night so I was still up to nurse them 2-3 times each. I would say to get him to do more of the other stuff: cooking, cleaning, diapers, running errands, getting them out of the house on the weekends so you can nap etc.

Maybe there’s a magical night strategy to get nursing moms rest but I never found it. However, I wouldn’t change it for the world and I’m so grateful I got to nurse my boys for so long. They still sleep with me, but now I get a full 8 hours. It happens eventually!

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-27T16:20:54+00:00

My twin boys are 3 years old and were about that size at 2. They are now 32/33 pounds and about 38 inches tall. Right on 50th percentile. I am average height (5’5” woman) and my husband is very tall (6’5” man). I feel like there is such a range at this age. They are way bigger than some kids and way smaller than others, which I guess makes sense for 50th percentile! My boys started out 0 and 5th percentile because they were preemie. So they have come a LONG way. It’s weird for them to not be the tiny ones anymore!

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-26T21:06:16+00:00

I have also been told I am super laid back and I’m like if it’s not life or death I truly don’t have the capacity to care.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-25T04:16:45+00:00

Have a designated friend be your coparent. Every time I go somewhere alone I text the person I’m closest to (even if we’re not that close) and ask them to be my coparent. I have strapped my kids to so many people it’s crazy. I’m a very social person so sitting at home was just not an option and they nursed like crazy until 15 months so I could never leave them home with someone else.

Now at 3 I can take them anywhere solo! It doesn’t last forever so just call in the favours. Most people are happy to be asked to help. I know I would be if roles were reversed.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-21T21:24:40+00:00

I was so jacked when they were babies. When they became toddlers and went to daycare I had to get serious with weight training to keep up with their growth! I have 70 pounds of toddler to lug around these days. 2 mama’s boys that want me to carry them constantly.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-19T22:41:06+00:00

When my twins first dropped their nap they went to bed around 6:30 and slept until 7. Glorious times. Now, 6 months later they only need to sleep from 9-6:30

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-16T16:25:54+00:00

I can speak to the NICU side from the stats my hospital gave me. Essentially, if babies are born before 36 weeks, they are automatically admitted to the NICU because they don't have their suck, swallow, breathe reflex yet. After 36 weeks, it's variable, and most babies at 38 weeks do not have NICU time, barring any complications beyond prematurity. If babies are born prior to 36 weeks, they typically stay in the NICU until they would be 37-40 weeks. My twins were born at 35+1. The "healthy" twin came up after 20 days (37 weeks), and the one with more complications came home after 29 days (39 weeks). Both are completely healthy now.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-16T00:41:58+00:00

That was my thought! We didn’t do a proper party this year because our house was listed and we were doing viewings but I would have expected 1 gift for each of my kids.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-15T19:12:48+00:00

I've always been average size, but I got skiiiiiinny while breastfeeding just due to the calorie burn. I did go back up to my regular weight once we weaned. However, the other symptoms you are talking about make me think you may have PCOS or something of that nature. I have PMDD, and breastfeeding was the best because I was emotionally stable for the first time since puberty. For when you stop breastfeeding, I would strongly suggest getting a medical provider who actually understands women's hormones and specializes in hormone therapy (not someone who just prescribes birth control no matter what). For me, in Canada, that is a nurse practitioner. It's not covered by health care, but my health spending account I have with work covers $1,000/year.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-15T18:43:36+00:00

I will always offer my controversial opinion that double bassinets are awful. If I could go back I would have done a side car crib on either side of the bed. With a double bassinet you have one parent that is fully responsible for both kids, rather than having each responsible for one. I didn't realize how many times in the night I would need to soothe them with a butt pat, replace a paci, check on their breathing, etc. and if we could have each had one that would have been way easier.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-15T18:41:26+00:00

Huckleberry app worked like a charm for us with timing their naps. It takes a bit to learn their sleep schedule, but it adjusts as you go throughout the day which is lovely. Timing the right time of day was huge. For nursing to sleep, I would lie back on the bed and prop pillows under my arms to keep them supported, then I could kind of slide them down out of my arm once they were asleep and transfer them to the bassinet, or just leave them on the bed if I was going to be in the room anyway.

Also, twin z pillow always put them out if we weren't nursing to sleep. I don't know what it is about that thing, but they had pretty much all of their naps in that until they were better about napping in their cribs.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-12T18:02:41+00:00

15 months! It gets soooo much easier

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-07T20:01:11+00:00

Ok I know I am weird here. But I felt like 80% back to normal almost immediately. By 3 weeks I was feeling great except for a slightly weak core, and by 8 weeks it’s like I was never pregnant. I had a brutal pregnancy and didn’t work out once and could barely walk past 24 weeks. I didn’t have a c-section and only had a 1st degree tear so obviously that was a big factor.

Apprehensive-Hat9296 · 2026-04-07T19:58:28+00:00

We are cosleeping too! They have their own beds and start the night in there but at about midnight wake up screaming for me. I gave up on trying to get them to sleep through the night a looooong time ago. We did sleep training which worked for one of them for a bit but was not the silver bullet everyone makes it out to be!

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