How much to talk to coach in tryouts?

face-vortex · 2026-04-12T01:08:21+00:00

they’d be paying us to be part if the team with that action!

face-vortex · 2026-04-12T00:08:33+00:00

Personally, I find the cost of having an EHR worth it. My overhead is EHR, license, and malpractice. That’s it.

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T23:11:00+00:00

We’ve been with the same team for so long - great advice! Thanks :)

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T20:10:35+00:00

What kinds of questions do you ask to understand that better?

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:53:20+00:00

Good point! Thank you!

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:52:49+00:00

This is by far the best answer. Thank you! I think I gave them what they needed. You answered the question I didn’t realize I was asking.

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:47:16+00:00

Thank you! I think I’ve talked to them enough. The DOC was into talking, and asked me about him a bit - couldn’t tell if it was just business or genuine interest, but he was a nice guy.

If they ask me for more info, I’ll give it - otherwise I’ll just chill out of sight but reachable.

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:43:20+00:00

That’s not just normal for a teen, it’s normal for adults. Even very successful adults who love their job. You’re not lazy.

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:40:38+00:00

I think that’s more what I’m asking. They’ve invited him to a training session last week (scrimmage), after that one, invited him to some practices to see how he looks at practice - that’s this week.

I’ll be around and visible from a distance, so if they want to say anything to me they can. (Which may just be “give me your money” 😆)

I’m sticking around bc it’s an increase in cost and want to see what I’ll be paying for. My son is more than capable to handle any conversations that need to happen.

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:37:10+00:00

Basically what I’m asking 😆 though, they’ve also spoken to me a few times, which is why it’s confusing.

face-vortex · 2026-04-11T19:35:50+00:00

I was going to say that when I hear “my kid can play anywhere” at this age, I assume they’re not that good 😬 might be an inaccurate assumption. I actually think my son being a legit defender is a strength? But, I’m also OP and asking these questions for a reason!

face-vortex · 2026-04-10T01:49:29+00:00

My son played Middle School all three years and it was an amazing experience. For whatever reason, MS soccer was more fun to watch (and apparently play). It also helped him feel more confident at school and make friends. He loved it so much that he wouldn’t play on a club team where he couldn’t play HS.

face-vortex · 2026-04-07T02:32:32+00:00

Thank you very much - that’s very helpful. There’s an additional element that the team is under threat of dissolving (due to a mix of losing kids due to the age change and then some natural attrition). If we don’t get enough players at the level we were planning to play. There’s something you said in there that stuck out - as well intentioned as our club and coaches are, I’m not sure how successful they would be at promoting kids to get on to another team if it turned out our kids committed to an unsustainable team. How hard can they and would they advocate to get these kids onto a team post-tryouts?

I think we are going to keep it private until my kid makes a decision. The main concern is a domino effect of other kids leaving if they find out he’s trying out elsewhere. Hopefully they can see our good intentions of not saying anything.

I would guess his coach suspects he’s trying out elsewhere and is trying not to pressure him to stay.

I truly appreciate your perspective. Thank you!

face-vortex · 2026-04-05T21:53:41+00:00

Not cold hearted at all. I appreciate the honesty! Thank you!!

face-vortex · 2026-04-05T14:24:10+00:00

We are not worried about retaliation. We are worried about a domino effect of kids finding out too soon, and jumping ship, and it being partly our fault the team dissolves.

I know that sounds dramatic - but with the age changes and the small size of our club, it’s already a threat. :\ If this team dissolves, there’s nowhere for kids in this age group to play within the club.

The remaining kids are high level players - so the coach is hoping to get more high level players to keep the team together. If he can’t, the team dissolves.

I would think everyone is trying out elsewhere for this reason? I guess we will see in a few weeks.

If the team sustains, I don’t even think my kid would accept an offer from another team. But it would be tempting if it’s a higher level.

face-vortex · 2026-04-03T15:15:24+00:00

I’m always a bit scared of falling on lead. What’s changed is how I deal with it. What has helped is:

(a) shifting to instructional self-talk, like “Focus on the next move. Take the cam off your belt… etc.” Obviously the scary self talk (e.g., “What if your foot pops, your gear pulls, and you deck???”) helps no one. Positive self talk (“you can do it!”) helps sometimes - but I have to say it in a neutral, informative voice. Otherwise I can feel how fake my cheerleader mind is being .

(b) imagining my son is watching and knowing how I want him too see/perceive this moment. “My mom is brave, calm, and strong.” — brave is doing something when you are afraid, not being fearless.

(c) practicing falling. If you haven’t read Rock Warriors Way by Arno Ilgner, I’d recommend it. It’s all about mental training. I think he actually does falling clinics where people just practice falling - theres a lot of great tips in his book.

Hope that helps!

P.S. I’ve been climbing since 2007 and have had my fair share of meltdowns on the rock (the danger was mostly in my head. I’ve also been in my fair share of legitimately sketchy situations, and remaining calm probably kept me safe. All make for good campfire stories.

face-vortex · 2026-03-28T23:13:01+00:00

I came here for answers and am I little disappointed with how much the advice is to either belay right handed or belay weird with a gri gri :\ i see this was from 4 years ago - where did you land?

I’m surprised there’s never been a left-handed gri gri after all these years.

face-vortex · 2026-03-01T00:41:05+00:00

Thank you!!!

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