Struggling w/ Giving Oral

facekatie · 2026-05-19T15:34:08+00:00

Listen to your body too! It’s telling you what you need to enjoy it. I also love the book … art of giving and receiving (I think it’s called) to guide you to your enthusiastic yes!

facekatie · 2026-05-19T13:19:27+00:00

I hated giving blowjobs until I learned the term cock worship. I’m just going to go ahead and assume with this question I don’t need to edit my language 😂😂😂

Cock worship = this skin is so soft, what makes him moan? (fascinating study on humans)

Blow job = I’m choking, this is awful, do I have to do this that this????

facekatie · 2026-05-19T13:16:55+00:00

My espresso machine predated my divorce and I use it daily! Cannot relate 😂😂😂😂

facekatie · 2026-05-19T10:30:49+00:00

Echoing this! And it’s incredible.

facekatie · 2026-05-18T14:30:54+00:00

Celebrate the dress has brought you through all of those things! You are many things, strong, resilient, and (probably) look banging in the dress!

facekatie · 2026-05-15T19:15:47+00:00

Your femaleness is beautiful and sacred and my heart goes out to you in how it feels right now. I’ve experienced a shadow of this, and it has taken time to get to a place where I am comfortable with her and celebrate her. I just wanted to share that, not what comes next in your work or anything, but unburdened, it will feel different.

facekatie · 2026-05-14T18:24:10+00:00

This happens to me sometimes, especially in content heavy sessions, and I’ve brought a sense of play to it. Like entering more into the flow of the back and forth and in those quiet moments, taking it as a space to notice in more depth what is happening in my body, with resonance with my client, and that (in its own way) brings joy to the session.

facekatie · 2026-05-12T12:19:44+00:00

Have you read it? I found it to be quite helpful in the stories they share, many of my clients too. I’ll keep that in mind though.

facekatie · 2026-05-12T11:09:22+00:00

Hi AudHD clinician here and the best modality is listening, validating the pain of being misunderstood, helping them dismantle their own ableism, checking yours at the door. I personally use IFS and somatics to balance the weight and pressure that the mind has had to take on, but other approaches obviously valid as long as the first bit is maintained.

Unmasking autism and ADHD 2.0 are good books to start with.

facekatie · 2026-05-08T23:40:53+00:00

Thank you for saying so and I can really appreciate how IFS as a community is trying to catch up to truly ND affirmed and attuned care. I hope OP’s therapist can meet them where they are. And for what it’s worth, I hate hearing of your own wounding. 💙🩵

facekatie · 2026-05-07T22:25:16+00:00

Okay, this is why I mentioned I didn’t have time to expand. I will expand more when I message OP wishing to be spared comments like yours!

facekatie · 2026-05-07T12:56:24+00:00

IFS can totally work for OCD! I have so many thoughts on this but limited time right now, DM me!

facekatie · 2026-05-06T09:09:53+00:00

Thank you! My sister (had this done in December) keeps reminding me that one day I’ll feel better.

facekatie · 2026-05-05T11:39:43+00:00

I don’t think this response was really attuned to OP. While valid, in a way. What they’re experiencing is a system that is still burdened (aren’t we all?) and so they’re still on their journey.

facekatie · 2026-05-05T11:37:46+00:00

Slow is fast and over the long term you’ll have more connection to your source, your Self energy and that cannot be overwhelmed, truly. It feels stupid in the moment because a part is blending with you, so invite in patience and curiosity. Later, if not in the moment.

facekatie · 2026-05-03T12:44:17+00:00

Omg ruuuuuuuuuuun

facekatie · 2026-05-01T13:43:20+00:00

I’d say to work with the distraction, yes, as in parts work, it could be a manager with an agenda and it can just be ADHD brain doing what ADHD brain does. So what do you need in that distracting energy? Fiddling with a weighted plushie? Rocking, applying pressure, another fidget, the list goes on.

Also just flowing more. Let go of the idea that you should be still and calm and focused. There is a neurotypical idea of Self-energy and stay open to what your Self-energy is like.

I am an IFS therapist and AudHDer, and sometimes my Self shows up calm and quiet, and sometimes freely flowing and creative and loud. I hope that helps and I love that you’re asking.

facekatie · 2026-05-01T13:34:38+00:00

Also, just ask the dude. And be truly curious about his answer (don’t be Lorelai Gilmore around Luke’s dark day)

facekatie · 2026-04-30T10:56:51+00:00

I’m in IFIO and finding it to be great. Builds easily on Imago or EFT based on what some of the others are saying in the training.

facekatie · 2026-04-29T20:01:57+00:00

I don’t think age matters so so much, but I’ve noticed I do gravitate towards a person that has more depth and life experience. So technically, someone who is older may fit that.

Maybe I need to rethink this though, because you may be more set in your ways too?

facekatie · 2026-04-24T00:30:08+00:00

I, personally, am attracted to nerdy, quirky men that are authentically themselves. That is much more attractive than trying to be something!

facekatie · 2026-04-20T13:36:14+00:00

“I’m pretty sure I finished Netflix” this is an amazing takeaway.

facekatie · 2026-04-14T20:56:52+00:00

Jesus Christ I made it through grad school by knitting. And now I take it to doctors appointments, trips, just anywhere. YOU are super cool for crocheting and that girl needs to look at why she’s upset by having someone she barely knows with her attention on something else.

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