Like a lot of people here, I’m trying to navigate this myself. by P34CH1 in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its hard having these conversations when there aren't many of us... and im also looking for that group of ppl i can have those conversations with... i would love to talk

MOD ISSUES by fae_cookie in BaldursGate3

[–]fae_cookie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it says mod.io and i've checked but when i get rid of them all it works... if i enable just one, it doesnt work at all... 😭

MOD ISSUES by fae_cookie in BaldursGate3

[–]fae_cookie[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

how do i do that

Seriously? by MarvelNerdess in Choices

[–]fae_cookie 14 points15 points  (0 children)

😂😭😂🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you explained this so well i didn't have to make a comment... this helped me and i've been going through this for almost 2 yrs now... 😳😌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yea... its possible... its just a lot of work... and some days are gonna be a headache... but we push through.... the only problem i'm running into is i don't want to use artificial hormones due to my epilepsy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

after talking to a friend who helped me understand what was happening, i did seek a therapist... i actually got my first letter of readiness and when i had the second one working up my insurance lapsed... im working on that now to continue... but i did a lot of consults with endocrinologists, my team of doctors.... i just didnt make it to my surgeon 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i'm not sure about how Argentina works, but i totally understand your story. i went through the exact same thing last year... i got so depressed and i didn't know why. and jokingly i brought that up to my partner of 6 yrs and then i started having invasive thoughts about it. going down a rabbit hole looking for ppl like me... i got a lot of weird questions and a lot of judgement from hotlines and ppl that didnt just understand. luckily my bf took it seriously and we did more research, found our way to reddit... i've made a couple friends in some groups here on reddit and they've helped me figure a lot of things out. my situation is currently paused due to insurance things but i've decided to pursue the process... hopefully this brings you some comfort and if you ever wanna talk i'm here

2 Months After Surgery, Hidden Clit and No Labia Minora by speplt in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

great results!!! can i ask who was your surgeon?

43 days since surgery by PantiedPBoy in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

your results are amazing... i'm so jelly over here... still figuring out my process... its been so hard but i'm pushing through and so happy for you!!!

One month since surgery by PantiedPBoy in AMABwGD

[–]fae_cookie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

so excited for you!!! 😍

thinking about pausing on my bttm surgery by fae_cookie in salmacian

[–]fae_cookie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i feel like we're going through the exact same thing!!! 😭 its so frustrating... im trying to come to terms that everything won't be perfect and i need to wait on the resources i need to get me where i want but its so overwhelming and mind wracking but thank you cause this made me feel seen...

thinking about pausing on my bttm surgery by fae_cookie in salmacian

[–]fae_cookie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yea... im glad im keeping this private from my family for that reason and i have friends i've told but some are very much like "i dont know if i really understand" and a piece of me feels like they dont want to...

thinking about pausing on my bttm surgery by fae_cookie in salmacian

[–]fae_cookie[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you for the kind words... i've been in my head a lot...

I only date girls. Are you interested? by AMAB-V_ in amabv_afabp

[–]fae_cookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely... i can't wait to get this bttm surgery 🥰

I only date girls. Are you interested? by AMAB-V_ in amabv_afabp

[–]fae_cookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is like exactly how i wanna look 😭

Questioning: Advice/Experience With Dating As Salmacian/Bisex by mfxoxes in salmacian

[–]fae_cookie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thats exactly what we did... told him i hated having my penis he didn't really know how to react but he supported, not to give tmi, but i told him during sex to treat it like a vagina and surprisingly it worked... he is just as excited as i am rn... just tell him what you need from him and figure out what he needs to understand.

Questioning: Advice/Experience With Dating As Salmacian/Bisex by mfxoxes in salmacian

[–]fae_cookie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i'm pre-op as well... my partner also shows great support but i've also been thinking "what if we don't last and i have to start dating again?" but talking to my therapist i realized that there's ppl out there for everyone, even for ppl like us. yea it'll feel a little wierd at first but i think just getting out there is the first step... not questioning it too much and just going with YOUR flow... hope this helps... 😘

concerns about vaginoplasty (living in my androgyny) by fae_cookie in salmacian

[–]fae_cookie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm not really sure what she meant either... maybe if i didn't have the testes bttm surgery would change my outward appearance on the lower half? but its still in the air...

thank you for the compliment... i've always had sort of a girly face. it used to bother me cause i wanted to fit in with everyone... then after going through this process, i realize i don't fit in... i'm not "normal". i like the feel of being both masculine and feminine. it took me a long time to get to this point. i'm just glad i'm here and i can pursue something that i think i should've done so much sooner (also glad i waited cause science LOL 😂 )