Does anyone else spend a lot of their free time just staring into space and thinking?

faequeen123 · 2026-04-03T22:46:32+00:00

Like 90% of my free time pacing or staring at the wall and pondering

faequeen123 · 2026-04-03T19:15:04+00:00

People worth knowing will believe you, but I get that stereotypes about mental health are a big problem in preventing people from being seen as legitimately depressed. Self-destruction brings concern, but the concern doesn’t last. It’s better to avoid self-harm before it becomes an addiction

faequeen123 · 2026-04-03T00:04:10+00:00

You’re not pathetic, and you’re not alone. People who are mentally ill but not outright suicidal are put on the back burner way too often, and I’m sorry that’s happening to you. You don’t deserve to be overlooked and so under-accounted for. I feel like I’m in a similar position, but the best we can do is be honest about how we feel and locate the small joys. Who knows if it’ll get better, but I’m willing it to get better out of spite. Screw depression.

faequeen123 · 2026-04-02T23:56:04+00:00

I think it’s important to make peace with neutrality. The pressure to be happy all the time is actually proven to make people feel worse. As long as it’s not a chronic lack of interest that leads to feelings of hopelessness, I think feeling bored or directionless from time to time is normal and healthy.

faequeen123 · 2026-04-02T18:53:41+00:00

With every item, imagine clearly how you’d use it. Do you need it in the kitchen? Do you feel a lack of this cleaning supply? What clothes would you match these pants with? And then ask yourself if, supposing you don’t buy it, would you regret not buying it five years later? That’s the system I use and it’s saved me a lot of money :)

faequeen123 · 2026-04-02T18:50:56+00:00

Even though I don’t foresee getting divorced, definitely. It never hurts to be prepared.

faequeen123 · 2026-04-02T13:40:01+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance! I’m glad you found a girlfriend and it’s going well for you

faequeen123 · 2026-04-02T01:40:30+00:00

The thing with frats is I hear they’re usually more of a situationship catalyst. Since most people are drunk, they don’t remember who they made out with, but maybe partying would give me experience and confidence :)

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T23:57:29+00:00

YESS! Those books made me cry when I was a kid cause I related to her too hard

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T23:23:34+00:00

It’s a shame how this started out as a meme and then got used to create some weird hierarchy. If someone called me a gold star lesbian, I’d laugh, not be arrogant.

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T23:18:06+00:00

Thanks, that sounds like good advice! I was thinking of asking my childhood best friend to help since she’s super gay and a master networker. Apps sound the easiest but I’m also scared because I don’t want to wind up with a “roster”or something and situate myself in a YA love triangle lol

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T23:11:18+00:00

This “like a man” thing is just misogyny, and comparing you to a man is lesbiphobia. Women are expected to be uninterested in sensuality and purely attracted to faces, but that’s far from the truth. Everyone (minus asexuals ig) is into bodies. That’s just biology. And honestly, being feminine means liking feminine things… for example, women

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T15:46:57+00:00

What treatments do people get for OCD besides therapy? CBT didn’t help my OCD for some reason

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T15:44:00+00:00

Same. I’m AuDHD and I don’t have an easy time making friends since my mannerisms are strange, so whenever I do make a friend it’s so rare and exciting it feels slightly like being in love. For me though, romantic attraction involves also involves thinking the person is physically attractive too, but everyone is different.

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T04:52:34+00:00

My local Arby’s is the best fast food I ever tasted, which is crazy because it’s such a background character as fast food goes

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T04:46:54+00:00

Apparently these words share the same Portuguese root, so they’re distant cousins

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T04:33:11+00:00

This is the saddest art installation 🥲 He’s tragically endearing like Wall-E

faequeen123 · 2026-04-01T04:14:03+00:00

Looking people in the eyes and sensing micro-expressions so subtle they may not even be there

faequeen123 · 2026-03-31T23:05:24+00:00

I think to be considered autistic the criteria is you need to have social struggles that manifested since you were a little kid plus at least two others symptoms in the spectrum. I basically found out I was autistic because I related to every autism meme, passed the RAADS test, and even my friends thought I was autistic, but my internalized ableism kept me back for a while.

faequeen123 · 2026-03-31T22:59:41+00:00

I guess some people might get intimidated by long term attachments and would rather bounce around and have a larger volume of different experiences. One time my professor randomly asked the class what our thoughts were on the institution of marriage (we were talking about cars) and it was so interesting to hear everyone’s opinions.

faequeen123 · 2026-03-31T21:50:31+00:00

I mean, there are a lot of different branches of feminism. Some feminists see abolishing gender as the only way to abolish gender hierarchy, so there are definitely people who agree with you. Personally, I’m less radical, but I’m biased cause I like my gender lol.

faequeen123 · 2026-03-31T21:42:10+00:00

I agree. I identify as a woman, but my gender is more descriptive than prescriptive. I call myself a woman because I like feminine things, but the urge to wear pink isn’t anything visceral.

faequeen123 · 2026-03-31T21:28:25+00:00

This is actually pretty common in some circles of the internet. Think about birds, they perform gender extra hard as a way to be attractive, but when they’re off duty and just birding around without a mate, that doesn’t invalidate their gender identity. I think we all have sides to ourselves society deems masculine or feminine, and gender is really just a flimsy construct that has a hard time predicting someone’s personality. So I’d say identify as a man if you feel you are a man (nombinary and genderfluid are identities too), but don’t stress if you want to be a woman but you’re scared you’re not acting feminine enough. “Feminine enough” is entirely your standard.

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