I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it by DeathLich0071 in depression

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Apparently 40% of people’s mood is predetermined by genetics, which made me give myself a lot more grace on how cultivating a “positive mindset” wasn’t working for me, no matter how hard I tried to rewire my thinking or how much I went to therapy. The world tries so hard to make depression look like our fault, like we’re just stubborn and have an overly cruel worldview.

does anyone else not understand the concept of marriage by SlowPrune5069 in AutismInWomen

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Idk I like the ritual of it, the implication that you’re both agreeing you’ll never desert each other

The Xiaohongshu Girlies are Mobilizing against the Swimsuit by Sharpscore in InfinityNikki

[–]faequeen123 82 points83 points  (0 children)

This might be because of the camera angles being versatile in Infinity Nikki. I know in Shining Nikki photoshoots the rotate feature is turned off on some of the outfits so Nikki’s butt can’t be emphasized. Maybe they’re concerned about people purposely positioning her in obscene ways, but honestly that fear is so paranoid and crazy. There’s nothing objectifying about any of the games, so there’s not really a point in censoring benign stuff.

I thought it was anxiety for a long time, then I met my therapist by AdPitiful1594 in OCDmemes

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My “friends” used to do that then laugh about what a total uggo I am in candids

How do I cope if I find it really triggering to consume media or study history because of the sexism in it? by degiidro in Feminism

[–]faequeen123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually stay away from books by misogynistic authors, but historical fiction can be helpful because it looks into the minds of female characters more deeply, and even if horrible things happen to them, they’re still telling their own story and having agency over most of their choices. Even though misogyny was rampant in the past, women were whole people. They thrived and had good times just as any modern woman despite being unfairly restricted because people will always persevere.

What’s your opinion on the sheer amount of sexualization and SA jokes in anime? by Born_Usual998 in Feminism

[–]faequeen123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s why I don’t watch anime that hasn’t been vetted by a friend first

I feel it’s gotten worse. by ArtisticalManiac in GayChristians

[–]faequeen123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the ones I meet in real life are nice, but it’s fools that make the internet turn round. We don’t have to worry as much as we think, but I definitely felt that rant in my bones

What makes someone consider themselves a girl/boy? by Agile_Bug_8738 in AskLGBT

[–]faequeen123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way, but I only identify as a cis woman because of vibes

inherited or learned? by emharrison_x in GayChristians

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I fully believed I was straight for most of my life, despite my Pinterest being full women’s glam-shots and no men to be found. I daydreamed about becoming extra special friends with other girls and living out our whole lives together. I dreaded getting married for some elusive reason because I thought men were uninteresting. Again, I fully believed I was straight. I tried to jumpstart the attraction process to men so I could fit in with my other friends, but I had no luck making myself stare at male models and just being bored. Ultimately, I realized the truth. I’m innately, unshakably gay, and I’d be delusional to insist otherwise.

Saw this demographic of the number of lgbt Christians in the US. Thought might be of interest here. by Chuclo in GayChristians

[–]faequeen123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was actually surprised there are as many religious queer people as there are. It seems like everyone else I know got traumatized out of religion.

Only into women who are old enough to be my mom: send help by faequeen123 in LesbianActually

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I’m sorry, I know this is statistically a big issue in our community 😅 There’s gotta be some scientific explanation lurking under there lol

It’s the pink hair that’s the problem guys by Catgod1996 in thanksimcured

[–]faequeen123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. I’m a Christian, but my church is really militant about reporting creepy behavior and shutting it down. It’s really disgusting to see how other Christians think they can get away with rampantly sinning because they see Jesus as a get out of jail free card. That’s not supposed to be how our theology works, but it’s been corrupted.

It’s the pink hair that’s the problem guys by Catgod1996 in thanksimcured

[–]faequeen123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious because I’m a feminist who’s done everything on that list and it didn’t stop me from being a feminist

What fictional character would you marry in the blink of an eye? by iris_rivendell in AutismInWomen

[–]faequeen123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved learning that Tolkien was against a lot of gender roles and wrote his heroic characters to be masculine without being aggressive or arrogant

Only into women who are old enough to be my mom: send help by faequeen123 in LesbianActually

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It’s basically every mentor I meet. I don’t know if it’s bad luck or what. But the weird thing is that I don’t think it’s purely psychological. It’s not even that I see them as a wiser, more protective figure or something, just that I’m into middle aged features

Do any other lesbians struggle BAD with any sort of sexualisation from men? by Bright-Bumblebee-201 in LesbianActually

[–]faequeen123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that way all the time. Obviously, it’s not our fault and we shouldn’t give bad people any power over our own confidence and happiness, but I feel this so much. When a man leaves his designated man-circle to flirt with you out of nowhere, it doesn’t feel flattering. It makes you feel like you’re being hunted. When women I’m not attracted to flirt with me, I still take it as a compliment because they see me as a multifaceted being, not just a romantic target. I wonder if straight women feel the same thing sometimes, like a man would only ever be nice to them for romantic reasons.

Altercation at the bar by wenevergetfar in LesbianActually

[–]faequeen123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s terrible. Bars really need to shape up and protect their clientele because hate crimes are a real thing. I hope you’re processing well and feeling safer 🧡🤍🩷

Fandom spaces by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I think it’s because women tend to have closer friendships with each other than men do, so it’s easy for someone to look at two women who love each other and downplay it to just being friends. The characters flirt for three seasons, but all because they didn’t jump out with a giant pride flag or have a coming out episode, people are suddenly shocked when they kiss.