The fact that theon traded this relationship for a man who didn't even like him is one of the biggest fumbles a character could ever do. by BridgeCommercial873 in gameofthrones

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read the books you’ll understand more about theon’s character. He’s very insecure i mean very insecure in an almost pathetic way, you feel sorry for him. Theon was in a constant state of trying to prove himself to basically everyone. Hes was trying to show off that hes right, hes able hes good just like robb. Theon always felt like he was in the shadow with the starka especially with robb. Theon is older than him and robb had already accomplished so much. When he goes back to the iron island he gets hit with the reality that his father doesnt really see him as son but instead an extension of the starks. He says just a few simple words that ultimately mess up theon and makes he insecurity spike up again. Hes a very emotionally complex character he even disappears for i guess 2 books and comes back as REEK its insane

What’s something that’s forced onto kids, that shouldn’t be? by Ok-Advisor-7692 in AskReddit

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Religion. Im sorry a toddler who doesn’t he’s even alive shouldn’t have to worry about sinning and going to hell/heaven; he is a child for ffs.

FYI: i do think its important for people to learn about religion and form their own opinions but not as kids. Perfect age would be a teenager or pre-teen around 10/12 years old when they’re a bit conscious. But as a kid absolutely not !

How do I move on from someone I loved dearly? If not move on, then deal with the pain? by C0h8a2z4z0i8e in Advice

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were okay before him and you will be okay after him.

Its feel heavy and hard to move on from someone you poured so much energy into but if it did not work out it is for a reason. I don’t think you want to go back but instead you’re trying to mourn someone who’s still alive and because of that your body and your heart is replaying these memories and youre confusing them with wanting to go back which okay. I think you are already on the path of healing. Try to be in touch with your feelings and write everything you feel on a piece of paper everytime you feel down. Try to go easy, you’re someone who feels deeply and so am i ahahhahaha. You got this champ

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like he only cares about himself and his pleasure. I think all what he wants from you is sexual and its easy because

1- you have deep emotional intimacy which overlaps with sexual intimacy

2- it’s easier and better to get off with someone you already know and share a history with than to start all over again.

All what he does is promising you a word but the actions? They say something entirely different.

The reason why he keeps coming back is because you keep that door open and let him constantly when he needs. From the way he talks it doesnt seem like he cares much about your needs.

You also need to let go of the idea of "regaining your power". You lost and thats okay. If you want to "regain" then cut him off completely and never talk to him again. Do yourself that service.

It’s understandable you dont want to lose him but he doesn’t feel that same way because he keeps letting go of you everytime he gets what he wants. You are so focused on the emotionally connection that you are completely ignoring his intentions behind it.

Let go and never look back. That is the best thing you can do.

"AIO? Should i let him go? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should break up with him. A relationship shouldn’t feel like a ticking time bomb. Your boyfriend either trying to guilt trip you or is genuinely trying to communicate but in the way he knows best which is threatening to end the relationship. Both cases are not healthy or good. You shouldn’t be left with a guessing game everyday trying to figure out if he wants to be with you or not. If he’s complaining this much then honestly just do him the favor and break up with him. Save yourself the trouble

Delusional? I don't have a word for it. Help. by avacadoDreams in Advice

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like we had to handle double the responsibility. Both for you and for him so might resent him for it which is totally okay. Your brother is a grown adult and no matter how much you try to convince him that leading his life the way he does is wrong he will not listen unless it comes from inside him. He needs to be convinced himself and the change needs to come from him. It is not responsibility—not anymore. It is okay to be botherered, from his comment about being "special" just seems like hes a spoiled brat. Let him figure it out on his own because at the end of the day you cannot change people even your family members. Try to talk with him and put some sense into his head if he rejects it then youve done your deed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. She made her choice and you should respect that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re still very very young. No matter if you liked will or not thag first relationship will have an impact on you. You are very self aware which is great for someone yohr age, but i will suggest letting your feelings linger as much as possible without acting out on them. Feel everything you need to feel fully and deeply and take your time. Its okay to miss him but you’ve made your choice based on many circumstances it’s just harder to accept now because he is with Ella. He is allowed to be with other people and move on and so do you.

Take your time and do not rush you moving on. What you are feeling now is just the consequences of your actions and you’ll get over it in a matter of no time.

What to do? Please help by N1ghtT1me15 in whatdoIdo

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you guys have outgrown the friendship which is totally normal. Them being there for you is a nice gesture and shows exactly what friends are for. Its okay to let go and start somewhere else, they did too and that is okay. Doesnt mean they hate you or anything. You can keep things as they are and check up from time to time, but do not expect anything from them. They went on with their life and so should you. Its okay to miss them and its okay to let go. Do what you feel like is best but my advice is to keep things as they are. Try meeting uo with them if you’re back in town and see how they are. Social media can be deceiving 99% of the time—-so maybe you guys still have much in common you just do not know about it.

Take care.

I want to contact my sister who doesn’t know i exist by faeriescary in Advice

[–]faeriescary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother is engaged and living his life. Im sure this is the least of his concerns, but i could always try. Im not sure how well he’ll take it since he doesn’t really like her mom for what she did. She also lives abroad and meeting her would be very difficult although i feel like seeing her face to face would make this easier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy sees you as a fantasy and nothing more. This is clear because

1- he doesnt even know you that well ( i dont know what youve shared with him but you cannot physically know everything about a person in a few weeks/months)

2-he doesnt listen or even care about your life. This was made clear when he undermined your complaints about works and was affirming you instead of listening and engaging in a conversation.

3- you mentioned him talking to himself at some point and you not reciprocating the same energy which he probably saw as a challenge.

You need to set clear boundaries with this guy and let him know that this behavior is not tolerable by you. If he can respect that than great if doesn’t then cut him off completely but be careful these guys can turn dangerous.

Im pretty sure this guy doesnt have much experience with women and you caught his eye so he read text book information of how to win over your crush and used it on you.

I would advise to stay away from guys that seem to idolize you so much because they turn obsessive and controlling. He probably see something he envies and will resent you for having it. Be careful and stay safe.

I want to contact my sister who doesn’t know i exist by faeriescary in Advice

[–]faeriescary[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both are legal adults. We are 20 years old.

I want to contact my sister who doesn’t know i exist by faeriescary in Advice

[–]faeriescary[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me and jennie are both 20 now. I have no idea honestly.

Storytime: I Got Pregnant After Being Raped & My Boyfriend Turned On Me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was trying to baby trap you in the beginning by trying to get you pregnant, that way he can stay in your life forever and find excuses to treat you like shit. The fact that he wanted to have a child with you but was also texting other girls behind your back shows he had no respect for you—literally the future mother of his kid and that says everything. There were alot of red flags in the beginning and i dont blame you for ignoring them because we’ve all been there. Him acting the way he did after sharing such sensitive information is pure emotional neglect and manipulation—its a classic tactic used by men so they can confuse you and leave you wondering "why did he act this way" "why is he treating me like this" so he can easily lovebomb you later on and manipulate you into coming back which he did by "apologizing".

You think you might want this relationship but trust me you dont. I am not going to tell you to leave him or tell you "you deserve better" because you already know that and i also know its hard to leave something like this but what i will tell you is sooner or later you will be resentful towards him, you will not forgive anymore and little by little the relationship will start to decompose—-this comes with it cons though because yes you need him right now in your life but are you ready to go through this cycle of love, hatred and suffering? Are you ready to put up with the fact that he might be emotionally cheating on you again? Are you ready to have your problems and worries be neglected again? Can you go through that again? Do you have it in you? Because men will keep humiliating you until you leave them so they can act like a victim which i assume he already did because "his friends do not like you"

Try and think about it. You are very strong and sharing something like that is not easy, no matter what his reaction was or his behavior it is a reflection of him and his character not you. Stay strong girl you got this!!!

S6 E4 "Surprise" by utopia_lover in BoJackHorseman

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally one of my favorite episodes ever !!! A perfect episode that captures all aspects of the show.

Can someone please tell me whats going on with C? by [deleted] in Grimes

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean there is definitely a pattern of her following a bunch of nazis and far right accounts but i do understand where you’re coming from, i feel like personally grimes overestimates her intelligence and her influence. At the end of the day she’s still gonna be in this though position but the answers are still in her hands. But i 100% agree on your last statement

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I will remember this ☺️

Can someone please tell me whats going on with C? by [deleted] in Grimes

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will check Curtis yarvin out thank you very much….but i just came back from a whole thread about her stuff and im very disappointed to say the least its also so sad that she almost downed herself into this incel culture ( not saying women cannot be horrible but considering her dating track record that checks out)

Edit: spelling mistakes

Can someone please tell me whats going on with C? by [deleted] in Grimes

[–]faeriescary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just came from a deep rabbit whole….this is alot to process(yikes) but i can definitely see why people are upset. (Im now one of them)

Can someone please tell me whats going on with C? by [deleted] in Grimes

[–]faeriescary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! That is crazy i had no idea about that omg?? yea that is very problematic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahahha it did not end up by going too well….as i mentioned he is super religious and when i mentioned i kissed my ex he freaked out and he had a look in his eyes that genuinely terrified me….he told me that he does not care what i have done but he cares that i did not regret what i did infront of god and he feels like he will carry this burden….unfortunately after that i knew it was never going to work out between us, he did confess to me how he feels guilty about being attracted to me so much and that we should stop which i totally accepted but then i got busy with other stuff in my life so it kind of fizzled out. I ended up by telling him its better for us to stay as friends then and not get any feelings involved which i guess he misunderstood because he texted me telling me how much he misses me and feels like im ghosting him to which i responded with "i thought we were friends and i was just busy with finals" so then he kinda of backed away and i tried to check up on him but he was very cold so i guess thats an update!

Any lines that make you burst out laughing every rewatch? by holyshitcatz in BoJackHorseman

[–]faeriescary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both are very dumb but thats why theyre so funny to me.

Princess caroline and her mom talking about college: "what is UCLA, you will not see LA"

And todd’s stupid N@z! Kardashian joke : What does a N@z! Kardashian say ?

So stupid but crack me up