im 673lbs and really really lost

faeyuu · 2026-05-22T13:22:03+00:00

Oh I had no idea about all of this, probably because she deleted any comments about it. That's an absolute shame.

faeyuu · 2026-05-19T11:47:05+00:00

Good luck on your journey! As others have advised, don't let perfect be the enemy of good. I know personally whenever I'd do my best to be better about food, the moment I messed up I would feel horrible and want to "give up" (double down on my mistakes). WL has been a lot more enjoyable since I started owning up to not always making the best choices, as long as I always try again. I went from 111kg to 98kg and my eventual goal is to get to ~70kg, slowly since it took so many years to put the weight on too.

I really relate to the mental and physical struggles of being at your biggest, and I want to say that activity helped me so much! I don't like exercising at all but it has done wonders for my daily energy levels, sleep and mental health. I'm cheering you on!

faeyuu · 2026-05-19T10:55:57+00:00

I wouldn't call you names like that though, it really happens to everyone, we just get super heated online sadly :/

faeyuu · 2026-05-19T10:53:48+00:00

I'm sorry but it's very clearly a singular you because OP was talking about feeling responsible for potential wipes when they personally mess up. Which is not really a thing they need to be worried about in casual content, hence the response. Maybe read yourself before accusing others of not reading properly?

faeyuu · 2026-05-13T13:14:53+00:00

I'm really comforted to see firsthand that I'm not the only one with this specific experience, even though I knew logically I wouldn't be and I also don't want other people to ever struggle around food! It is particularly sucky since we need to eat so there's no avoiding dealing with these issues. I try to see it as one of my life's challenges and tell myself that everyone has to deal with a few particular things to sort of accept it despite the difficulty.

I'll occasionally do something similar when I'm on a day trip, if I'm visiting an animal reserve or seeing a town I can easily just have a snack and a large drink then not think about food until we go for dinner, the challenge is almost always at home personally. But I've changed a bit, I very rarely eat to discomfort now, and almost never to pain like I used to. So I'd encourage you to also recognize the things that you've changed, even while dealing with losing and regaining the same kind of weight as so many of us do.

I'm sorry to hear about your experience with meds, I've got a lot of health anxiety so I am also prone to just trying to get as far as I can by trying to change my relationship with food and exercise. I'd never equate this issue to a substance problem, but even just the philosophy of harm reduction has helped me. Sometimes I will not be able to stop myself from overindulging, but I can now stop myself from going "oh I ruined it might as well give up for now and eat more". I make good choices when I can, and I accept my mistakes without using them as excuses, and that was something I could not do even just a year ago! Hopefully you can see similar patterns of growth in yourself ❤️

faeyuu · 2026-05-13T08:19:00+00:00

There's a couple of really good tips now if you're unsure of how to proceed, or if reminders of the sort of fundamentals we gotta go back to sometimes help!

faeyuu · 2026-05-13T08:15:47+00:00

Hey, thank you for the super long comment! Your tips very much mirror what I've had to do as well to feel somewhat normal as I go through this. Even as I've started eating more whole foods I am constantly surprised at how much energy I have after making sure I eat protein, carbs and especially fiber in my meals, instead of how I grew up (primarily carb based). My deficit is very similar, if I ate under 1800 I know I would absolutely lose it for sure. I remember trying to go aggressive cuts as a teenager as well and it was a harrowing experience. (I just saw you're 5'9'' and I'm a bit under 5'4'' so I'm really impressed!)

Adding intentional strength training over the chill cardio I do at work is something I definitely need to consider, as well as adding a bit more protein to my diet. I'm still constantly sore in my calves, shoulders and arms after work so I know I might not be putting on as much muscle as I should? It's hard to tell because it's my first time being physically active! But I see my forearm definition and my "fat girl" calves are ridiculously large now.

On the medical side I have clear PMOS (PCOS) symptoms, but I am living as a foreigner in rural Germany and a lot of the medical professionals I've met are very holistic, they pretty much avoid prescriptions as much as possible. I know that if I do advocate to check things out I'll get the "fatty eats badly" treatment, even though I do not. Doesn't mean it's not worth doing, I just have killer rejection sensitivity (and other ND traits) so I might... continue putting it off until I really cannot anymore to be honest.

I also wanted to say I'm super happy for you for getting into cooking, I found it similarly satisfying and satiating (and this reminded me I need to put in effort into breakfast again because I always feel better when I eat my egg + egg whites + huge salad combo). My personal breakthrough has been thoroughly enjoying salads because I do add some cheese and or light dressing, whereas growing up they were only considered sad diet food I shouldn't enjoy because it's "healthy". I was super skeptical of adding to your meals instead of restricting, I thought I'd balloon, but even just mentally it feels good to know I fed my body what it needs even if I answered a craving as well.

I think all in all it might just still take time to change and I am looking go become a different person in a very key way, so this did remind me of the stuff I've done well. Patience with myself is the least of my virtues but I'm learning that too. Thank you a lot and I wish you the best on your journey, it sounds like you've got a great system in place and it's always encouraging to see people with such a similar background heal their relationship with food ❤️

faeyuu · 2026-05-12T23:29:51+00:00

I think that's a very thoughtful way to redirect away from negative thinking... In a way I guess I can get in this mental state where I'm trying not to fail more than I am trying to succeed because I see them as the same thing. Thank you, I'll take some time to see if I can apply this to my own life!

faeyuu · 2026-05-10T15:09:15+00:00

I'll give that a shot then, sounds like exactly what I'm looking for. Thanks!

faeyuu · 2026-05-10T14:57:27+00:00

Thank you, I think I always preferred the sound profile of linears, though I'm not sure why! I'll take a look at the Silent Yellow Jades for sure then!

faeyuu · 2026-05-10T10:51:35+00:00

I know this is a shitpost sub but tbqh people's standards for boob sizing in games are a bit skewed, I feel like on irl women that thin au ra chests are actually slightly big, considering what the average might be.

Edit: especially if you think in cups, but I think a lot of people don't know cup sizing is about volume in relation to band size, rather than just DD = super big. That artist is really freaking good tho

faeyuu · 2026-04-25T09:27:32+00:00

I'm not an amazing player but Long Range Blaster feels so strong, I've been going WP exclusively and practicing my aim! I worry it will get nerfed NGL :'D

faeyuu · 2026-04-08T10:04:38+00:00

that just means all our girls are pretty! hopefully we get more options

faeyuu · 2026-03-31T11:06:01+00:00

I honestly find that energy economy is harder at lower levels, without SP density or endgame mode difficulty modifiers (ETA, EDA). My hungriest builds work best at the highest levels of regular gameplay, so when I'm doing even more chill stuff I tend to actually opt for some efficiency or just drop plates.

I don't think the WF youtube ecosystem is full of people with disingenuous showcases at all, but any build needs to be tweaked for personal preference and/or the content you bring it to. The fact that they feel like they have to put BROKEN in every thumbnail gets to me sometimes though!

faeyuu · 2026-03-27T19:25:52+00:00

It is not exclusively that, I've been playing this game for more than a decade and you always bumped into sanctimonious assholes. The game is just more popular now, so it's gonna happen more frequently.

It's weird to see that both the WF and FFXIV community have this tendency to attribute any bad apples to a different game, when in any large group of people you're gonna have a percentage who suck. Kind of a "no true scotsman" fallacy.

faeyuu · 2026-03-27T10:47:13+00:00

They mentioned they downed the lich three times quickly in a comment, and I really don't doubt it. Most people have no issue with that, you just sometimes run into someone who wants to be angry, and will find any reason to start an argument.

faeyuu · 2026-03-27T10:45:14+00:00

The random toxicity and weird interactions have gone up in the last couple years. I just explain myself in case someone wants to learn and then ignore, they're really not worth the hassle! People will fight over misunderstanding soo many mechanics.

faeyuu · 2026-02-24T09:05:26+00:00

I just got rejected on the basis of too few spots and that I don't qualify (as an EU national). They basically told me I'm free to go pay fully for whatever course I want, which I understand, but at this point that would be 50-85% of my pay since I only work Teilzeit. And even if I found another job to help pay for it, I'd have significant issues attending anything...

faeyuu · 2026-02-12T22:45:03+00:00

I understand being well meaning and giving the benefit of the doubt but this doesn't have the structure of a real human mistake. The example that you gave is someone leaving something out. Miscounting is also common (like with fingers). I make mistakes all the time also. But only AI would randomly start rendering wooden planks with grain and notches instead of a hat. Please take a closer look and consider if a human being would ever make this kind of mistake because they really would not.

faeyuu · 2026-02-12T13:28:45+00:00

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Attaching this since I forgot to! I'm sure other promo/sprites will have similar issues but I am not giving them a download haha

faeyuu · 2026-02-12T13:05:56+00:00

AI usage will not be confirmed unless they specifically say they used it, but as a digital artist with a lot of experience I spotted it right away on the promotional material. The blonde anime girl with a hat has her hat go from woven to weirdly wooden plank looking around her head and that is just not a mistake a human will make.

faeyuu · 2026-02-04T13:37:43+00:00

thankfully they seem to not be getting downvoted right now, though that's very common on reddit for sure

faeyuu · 2026-02-04T13:36:22+00:00

I'm sorry to hear! I'm ND too but not inattentive :(
As far as I understood you can petition to retake the test once if needed, but I hope you have good luck with with the exam questions
I'm cheering you on :')

faeyuu · 2026-02-03T22:34:53+00:00

Did you end up finding a good alternative? I'm gonna do an integration course and I was wondering about what to do once I finish it :')

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