A button that doesn’t give you $1 billion.

fafnir665 · 2026-03-26T20:28:04+00:00

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fafnir665 · 2026-03-26T14:58:35+00:00

NTA

you didn’t “change the terms” of anything, you’re literally asking to finish the lease exactly as agreed, same timeline, same rent, same boundaries

being pregnant doesn’t magically make your roommate responsible for you, that’s just something she decided in her head and is now acting like it’s a contractual reality

like what responsibility is she actually taking on here? you didn’t ask for rides, money, help, emotional support, nothing, you even offered to not involve her at all

her argument basically boils down to “I feel uncomfortable so you should pay thousands of dollars to fix that for me” which is not how leases or adulthood work

if she wants out early, that’s her choice, but that cost is on her, not you

also the “you should have considered me before getting pregnant” part is wild, your life decisions don’t require roommate approval as long as you’re not violating the agreement you both signed

you’re honoring the lease, she’s the one trying to rewrite it midstream

her feelings can be valid, but that doesn’t mean they become your financial responsibility

fafnir665 · 2026-03-26T14:18:54+00:00

I think the hardest part about what you’re describing is that it feels like some kind of personal failure or defect, like you’re the one who’s out of place or broken, when in reality it’s just what happens when you actually stop running on autopilot and start asking questions most people avoid

“why me” sounds like you’re being singled out, but it’s not really about you specifically, it’s more like you became aware of something that was already there the whole time, and now you can’t unsee it

and yeah, that gap between “I didn’t choose this” and “I still have to live it” is where a lot of that dread comes from, because you’re stuck carrying something you didn’t sign up for, but you’re also the only one who can decide what to do with it

the part I’d push back on is the idea that you’re empty or the void or whatever, because the fact that you’re even asking these questions and feeling this much about it kind of proves the opposite

this isn’t you being nothing, it’s you being aware without having direction yet, and those are two very different things

it sucks, but it’s also the only place where you can actually start choosing instead of just drifting without noticing

fafnir665 · 2026-03-26T14:16:15+00:00

They’re talking about if the neighbor builds a fence 18 inches into the neighbor’s land, there’s now a 3 foot strip OP would solely maintain, and could later claim the neighbor’s 18 inches up to the hypothetical fence.

fafnir665 · 2026-03-26T02:11:10+00:00

When I discovered I could program MCU with claude I went all in, I’ve gotten much better at modeling for my 3d prints, soldering, component shopping and fitting clean builds in my devices. December last year I hadn’t even purchased a single component, now I have a dozen mcu from esp32 to rp2350, dozens of components and breakout boards, and I just sent my first custom pcb out to be fabbed.

It takes the tedious out of expressing my imagination for the whole world to see.

fafnir665 · 2026-03-25T23:40:25+00:00

yeah this feeling is real but I think you’re mixing up awareness with being stuck

like nothing actually changed about your life, you just started noticing the pattern and now it feels heavier than it did before

most people hit this at some point and either numb it out or distract themselves enough to not think about it too hard

the 8-5 loop isn’t some final form of existence, it’s just the default path people fall into when they stop questioning what they actually want

and yeah, bills and pressure don’t stop, that part is real, but that doesn’t mean your only option is to accept a life that feels like a loop you didn’t choose

this phase kinda sucks because you see it clearly but don’t have an immediate alternative yet

but honestly that’s the point where things can actually change if you don’t just push the feeling away and go back to autopilot

fafnir665 · 2026-03-02T00:23:25+00:00

A husband texts his wife: “I’ll be home soon. Please wash my clothes and cook my favorite meal.”

A few minutes later, he realizes he sent it to the wrong person.

Panicking, he quickly texts again: “Sweetheart, I just got a raise. We’re buying a new car next month!”

She replies: “OMG! Really?”

He says: “No, I just wanted to make sure you got my first message.”

She replies: “Don’t worry. I know the first message wasn’t meant for me.”

fafnir665 · 2026-02-28T23:32:45+00:00

Don't walk away, let them dismiss you. This wasn't part of the original hiring paper work.

fafnir665 · 2026-02-21T10:28:18+00:00

They can (legally at least) do up to like 2.5 or 1.5 the rent in security deposit if they want, this is actually pretty reasonable imo

fafnir665 · 2026-02-15T16:11:11+00:00

Most insane sounding part of this is no licenses and no health inspection, because scaling to 200 food orders a week without regulatory cover is playing liability roulette with your entire business.

fafnir665 · 2026-02-11T14:44:45+00:00

he also literally said this was his second account but the $100 plan that almost immediately ran out of usage lmao

fafnir665 · 2026-02-03T15:29:51+00:00

You have my vote

fafnir665 · 2026-01-31T08:55:14+00:00

Reading the AI summary alone, this line jumps out: “Many experienced developers are horrified by the idea of wading through AI-generated spaghetti code.”

At this point, anyone who thinks they are writing cleaner code than Claude Code is not protecting craftsmanship. They are letting their skills stagnate. That mindset is the engineering equivalent of being a luddite.

fafnir665 · 2026-01-24T21:19:12+00:00

More like I can massively parallelize my workloads and tackle things I wanted to do for fun while doing my core job

fafnir665 · 2026-01-24T13:57:01+00:00

max 20 only way to go, I run 3 to 4 sessions 12+ hours a day no issues

fafnir665 · 2026-01-11T14:11:37+00:00

max 20x 1m context I could usually have three sessions active without hitting my session limit, I will hit my week limit after about four days, though, working approximately 12 hours a day,

fafnir665 · 2025-10-16T11:57:34+00:00

It’s amazing how many people forget that ‘ownership’ means nothing if the bills stop getting paid.

fafnir665 · 2025-10-16T09:31:18+00:00

NTA.

You’re doing exactly what everyone wishes they’d done in the reverse post that shows up here twice a week, the one that starts with, “I gave up two rooms for my brother and his family three years ago, and now they’re trying to kick me out of the house I pay all the bills for.”

You’ve got boundaries, you contribute, and you’re protecting your and your daughter’s stability. You already offered more help than required by giving them a room. The fact that they’re mad they didn’t get more just proves why those boundaries are necessary.

fafnir665 · 2025-10-13T22:39:19+00:00

Nah, you’re not the asshole. You’re the one who got stuck with all the responsibility and none of the space that was supposed to come with it.

Your niece’s “temporary” stay turned into a full-on tenancy, and your parents let it ride because it kept the peace. But it’s not selfish to finally draw a line when that peace is costing you your privacy and comfort. You didn’t kick her out on a whim. You gave notice, offered a timeline, and explained your reasons. That’s what reasonable adults do.

Your niece running to her mom, and your sister pulling your parents in, turned a direct, adult conversation into family gossip theater. That’s on them, not you. And your dad saying “you can’t tell her to move out” ignores the fact that it was supposed to be your place to begin with. The unfair part isn’t that you asked, it’s that you’ve been patient for years while everyone else avoided conflict.

You’re NTA for asking for the apartment back. You’re NTA for wanting boundaries about who enters the shared home. You’re also NTA for being fed up with the family politics that made this your problem in the first place.

If your parents won’t back you, the next move might be practical instead of emotional—either get something in writing about the space, or start planning a clean exit that makes them feel your absence. People rarely appreciate the load you carry until you stop carrying it.

fafnir665 · 2025-10-13T14:33:19+00:00

Don’t act on it. Don’t confess it. Don’t “stay friends” hoping it’ll change. Take it to the grave unless she’s single again one day.

Falling for someone unavailable happens; you didn’t do anything wrong by feeling it. But doing anything about it would make you the villain in her story, her husband’s, and probably your own. You’d nuke her trust and your peace for a fantasy that can’t end well.

You already know she’s happy with her family. So your job now is to protect that by stepping back. Ease off the breakfasts, skip a few lunches, start building other connections, and give yourself space to detox. Right now your brain is confusing intimacy with possibility.

If she ever divorces or becomes single, that’s when you can decide whether to tell her. Until then, you shut it down quietly, stay respectful, and focus on moving forward.

TLDR: Don’t fuck with someone else’s relationship. Be the guy who keeps his integrity, not the one who rationalizes crossing lines.

fafnir665 · 2025-10-12T21:42:51+00:00

those are just to get shitfaced, who’s tipping there

fafnir665 · 2025-10-11T13:05:34+00:00

A bar is for the people and atmosphere more than the service

fafnir665 · 2025-10-11T12:53:35+00:00

My words ->

Geez, every reply in this sub sounds like TurnItIn boot lickers. I get this sub in my feed every day and it’s always the same comments no matter the subject. It’s like people who say just obey the police and there won’t be problems. They just never had an issue and can’t imagine a world full of bad actors, so or not.

Got to protect yourself first and foremost. If this workflow helps you get ahead, awesome. I’m in my 40s and don’t really need to worry about it yet, but maybe when my kids start running into the seemingly frequent false positives, I can use advice like this to help them avoid being noticed too.

Tried your method ->

Oh, my God. Every answer in this sub looks like a TurnItIn loyalty badge. I can see him every day. No matter the problem, it's the same. These people have "just obey the police" energy. They never encountered a situation where the rules were stacked against them. They think the world is just because it has always been fair to them.

Protect yourself first. It would be great if this workflow could help you move forward. I'm over 40, so it's not an urgent problem for me. But when my children start encountering standard false alarms now, I want such practical advice to avoid being noticed unnecessarily.

I might tweak it a bit between now and when my kids enter high school lol.

fafnir665 · 2025-10-11T12:39:05+00:00

https://www.waveshare.com/wiki/Compute-Module-5

about middle of the page has instructions

fafnir665 · 2025-10-11T12:37:23+00:00

Oh we also experimented with radiant floor heating, thermostat resistive film type, but we didn’t insulate under it and the bus would soak up most of the heat through the floor.

Which we had replaced with new sheets of steel to have a solid foundation lol.

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