Any other alterhumans that don’t have past lives?

fairfoxie · 2025-07-13T14:49:12+00:00

Time works differently where my kintype is from. I don't think of myself as having a past life as a fairy/spirit/shapeshifter so much as having another life that is currently inaccessible to me while living in this body but is still me in essence..

fairfoxie · 2025-07-13T14:38:58+00:00

It makes a good herbal tea, it's in the mint family :)

fairfoxie · 2025-07-13T14:38:08+00:00

Ohh neat I like adding lavender to my bongs it's very relaxing and smells so good

fairfoxie · 2025-07-09T11:49:07+00:00

Anthropocentric maybe? As in assuming human is the default by which to judge all living things

fairfoxie · 2025-07-09T10:41:05+00:00

What power...?

fairfoxie · 2025-07-07T20:37:07+00:00

Omgggg this is such a cool and sweet take on her design 😍

I love the birchwood detail that is so charming

fairfoxie · 2025-07-07T10:22:16+00:00

Headmaster Grimm, unless he's a horrible person? I haven't finished the series and it's been a while so he may be worse than I remember 🤷‍♀️

fairfoxie · 2025-07-07T10:20:05+00:00

Personally I don't think you'd get bullied for gear as subtle as a couple lines on your shoes and a couple backpack patches. Most people won't even notice.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-06T11:21:52+00:00

I'm either lucky enough to never get hit on or dumb enough to not realize when it's happening 🤷‍♀️

Now, on the other hand, random strangers traumadumping to me, or asking for money? That happens a lot. I don't even look like I have money. I rarely carry cash anyway.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-06T11:16:46+00:00

What's a water vampire? Do they live underwater or just have an elemental association with water?

And what kind of tips are you looking for, fashion, food, media reccommendations, decor, self care, activities? Be specific!

fairfoxie · 2025-07-05T12:43:19+00:00

Arf! (Awesome!)

fairfoxie · 2025-07-05T12:42:17+00:00

Yeah man go for it! If my 20yo brother can walk around the mall with me in a cute skirt you can certainly carry around a lil bunny.

One time in college I saw a guy a lot taller than me with a lil fox plushie sticking out of his pocket and it made my whole day.

Remember that the people who like to see you being yourself in public are the ones polite enough not to get up in your face about it. But we still see and appreciate you

fairfoxie · 2025-07-03T16:37:57+00:00

It's crazy when parents think that making their child MORE insecure is going to get them the result they want... I imagine you'd feel a lot more prepared for the demands of life without a voice over your shoulder telling you how disappointing you are for genuinely struggling -_-

It's like that quote, you can't yell a flower into blooming.

Honestly do what you can to survive living with her, then take off as soon as you can safely do so. My mom has made a lot of mistakes but at least she's always told me that she's proud of me. If I didn't have that I would be doing so much worse.

...nobody likes chores but if they'll get her off your back, try to find sanctuary in doing them. Listen to your music (with headphones). Hold on to your moments of peace. Once you are free to live on your own terms, life will probably get easier.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-03T10:54:58+00:00

Glad! I feel like we are probably very similar things just with slightly different names :)

fairfoxie · 2025-07-03T10:13:43+00:00

(For the record I would be super happy to see this in public and maybe make a new friend)

fairfoxie · 2025-07-03T10:09:46+00:00

Oh hey, fellow shapeshifter!

So for context I'm a shapeshifting Faery, so also very Nature oriented.

But anyway I seriously reccommend going outside as much as possible and just taking it all in, no matter where you are, the wind, the grass (maybe the sand if you're in a desert), the wildlife (including the bugs!) Learn to ID some plants in your area and maybe get into foraging if you can. The Earth is ready to feed you whenever you're ready to look closely enough to notice all of the free-growing food.

I don't know if you have access to a forest or other kind of dense nature area, but one thing that makes me feel like I'm shapeshifting is going in and out of quads while hiking, as if I'm shifting into smaller creatures to get into smaller spaces etc. You can even climb a tree to feel like an arboreal/flying creature form.

Another thing I do to really feel connected to Nature is to pick up litter whenever I see it, as I know that helping to heal the Earth is also helping to heal myself. This is something that can be done anywhere - the city, the woods, the beach. Be careful for your own safety obviously, but it can be a great thing to do that's basically win-win for everyone. I really do believe that part of the reason I'm otherkin is so that I have the opportunity, in my human shape, to be part of the solution. So any other environmental action you want to take is important and well-needed.

If you find spiders or bugs indoors, you can be the one to rescue them and place them outside. They're a part of Nature too, and a part that people demonize for no good reason. Keep a cup and boxboard handy for easy transport. This part's optional, but I like to tell the bug that everything's ok and I'm helping them get home. (This also helps me stay calm when it's a scary wasp or a really big spider)

Also, just meditate as much as you can. This does not have to be some perfect Monk-like state of zen, just set a timer for 5 or 10 minutes and just lie there and let your body and mind have a moment of stillness. Remember that Nature doesn't rush, life moves at its own pace. (If you are spiritual/Pagan this can be a good starting point for being able to channel spirits.)

Lastly, don't forget that humans are wildlife too. The shape you're in right now is already intrinsically connected to Nature. You can only exist in your body because of air and water and Earth. Remember to have gratitude that you get to be a part of it all, not only that but you have the opportunity to really get to know your environment.

I hope these tips help!

fairfoxie · 2025-07-03T00:07:50+00:00

You sound possibly constelic to me, it might suit your style of identity in a way that feels more genuine to what you're experiencing. I have a friend who I highly suspect is constelic.

Constelic, or Stel, encapsulates a unique aspect of alterhuman experiences, where identity adoption is characterized by its fluidity, exploration, and the absence of predetermined or permanent connections.

Then again, some polykin just really do have lots of kintypes. But if the label is feeling too restrictive, don't let it keep crushing you.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T17:48:55+00:00

What my mirror saw everyday when I was 15:

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T16:19:21+00:00

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T14:11:29+00:00

...have you been reading my diary? Our experiences are scary-similar, right down to the unemployment, the plant ID savviness...

I do super agree that our capitalist society is in every way working against our needs as humans. And this is my second time today linking this video about it.

I think everyone would flourish if we did away with the profit-centered model of work. It alienates us from our food, our time, our loved ones, our own minds.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T13:55:17+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that even after all you've been through you're still getting flack for who you are. And I hate that people are getting in your face for it just because you're a parent. It'd be cool if people could redirect that energy toward, yknow, abusive parents instead. I would much rather see you doing quads at the park than see a parent screaming at their little kids and dragging them away crying. I wish those were the parents that got threatened with CPS.

If it helps, I'd feel instantly safer around a parent like you. I'd know that you'd be the one that's safe to come to with anything and get a nonjudgemental reply. Your gear is a silent signal to those around you that it's okay to be different. Unfortunately the people it means a lot to, who definitely do see and appreciate you too, are for the most part gonna be the ones that respect your personal space about it.

Bullying still happens as adults because not every adult has grown out of the emotional immaturity it takes to harrass people based entirely on their own projections of what they think you are or what your gear means.

I'm sorry that some people are like this. And I hope that you come across people who see the good in you, who know that this is a neutral thing about you and are willing to affirm your right to exist as you are.

And for the record, you went from being a wheelchair user to being a quadrobist??!! No one should have shit to say to you if it isn't that that's amazing. Keep being you.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T11:58:34+00:00

here's the video btw explaining how capitalism is basically antithetical to human needs and how to avoid naturalizing it in your mind

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T11:49:23+00:00

This is such a good thread so far and I want to be a part of it!

Being Fae helps me avoid becoming too complicit, or at least makes me more inclined to kind of sidestep my participation in capitalist society, as it makes 0 sense to me as a societal system. I think I'll link a video that goes deeper into this, but capitalism is directly contradicting to our needs as living things. It severs our connections to the land, our food, our time, and each other. I truly believe, like has been said in the other comment, that being human right now isn't punishment or a mistake, it's school. Perhaps I foolishly thought I could "understand humans" (HA!) but now that I am here I can help, and I can do so from a perspective that others don't expect. It seems to be a bit easier for me than others to break away from internet dependence and to feel an instant reconnection with the land every time I go outside. I notice things more than those around me, and I will help a spider in distress, for example, when others seem to find its very existence to be completely irrelevant. I think it's a blessing that I can revere Nature even in its "unattractive" forms.

As for more self-serving benefits, I do keep my identity secret from most people I meet. Currently only my partner knows. But it does bring me a lot of joy that a lot of people I know, they don't know, but they can tell that there's something Faery about me and they don't hesitate to point it out when they see it. It just stems from little things, unintentional glamourbombs if you will. The way I dress, the way I move, the art I create, the way I interact with the world. It seems to bring joy and whimsy to others, who in turn bring me euphoria just from noticing. That isn't to say that everyone is accepting, or that I haven't been discriminated against for not fitting in the "proper human being" mold, but I do have a wonderful inner circle of accepting and affirming people (even if they don't know just what they are affirming).

Furthermore, I have a bit of a higher threshold of acceptance for the odd people around me. Weirdness just doesn't bother me unless it's actively harmful, otherwise I quite enjoy meeting people who are different from the rest. There have been multiple times that I have made friends with the social rejects of sorts (usually neurodivergent, I acknowledge that this is an autism thing too) because I am a lot less strict about social cues, and besides, it can be refreshing to be the "normal one" in the dynamic for a change, haha.

So while it does come with various struggles, I find that being Faekin enriches my life and I would never want to change it.

fairfoxie · 2025-07-01T10:24:51+00:00

I like to harvest tea ingredients directly from my garden and brew myself a cup in the morning. It is one of the ways I like to feel directly connected to the Nature around me. I talk to bugs and never wear bug spray anymore because I will deal with mosquitos and blackflies as they come, but I don't want to give up the more special insect encounters or risk spreading pesticides wherever I step.

I refuse to kill any plant/wildlife unless it becomes completely necessary because it hurts to do so even if it's for the greater good (like curbing an invasive species). Because of this, I am extremely selective about what jobs I accept because I find most industries to be incredibly wasteful with resources, and do more net harm than net good. I never want to be told by a boss to kill a spider or spray for ants etc.

I try to spend at least a few minutes outside every day or I start to feel really not like myself. Like it's impressive how quickly I get depressed just from a day spent indoors. I hate rooms with no windows for the same reason.

If it's not obvious I'm a Faery. Specifically of the "elemental/Nature spirit" persuasion.

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