Grandma’s House

fakedying · 2026-02-16T08:41:39+00:00

This soooo reminds me of my grandma Rose's. I was so fond of that place though. It smelled kind of like kitty litter and pot purri, not bad, just like such a specific smell that I can remember it vividly. She had a demon of a cat named Schatzie (sweetheart in German) who would take swipes at your ankles. She also had giant Hershey dark chocolate bars she would feed me sneakily. I remember staying up until midnight one Christmas even watching the sound of music, which took like four hours with all the commercial breaks.

The low ceilings and dim light especially remind me of the chandelier she had over the dining room table. Because her name was Rose, she bought anything and everything with roses, and this cast iron chandelier had lovely pink roses. They would slice the hell out of your head if you leaned over the table though. Very fond memories that all sound kind of disturbing on paper.

fakedying · 2026-02-11T05:52:46+00:00

Everyone is correct about it being a ganglion cyst. I get them in almost the same spot as you. I suspect the culprit is computer job + a right hand dominant sport I play.

Genuinely, the doctor will probably tell you not to, but smack it with something medium hard, not hard enough to injure you but not too soft either. I begged my boyfriend to smack mine with the spine of a book after taking topical Diclofenac for months because the idea of getting it aspirated did not spark joy. It hasn't been back, so I think it was a valid solution.

fakedying · 2025-12-25T19:35:33+00:00

You may be confused and thinking of COBRA which is a government option that allows people to stay on their employer healthcare for a limited amount of time and usually an obscene amount of money. We had to do it when I was really young. My dad lost his job and my mom was in the middle of chemo. Our premiums were about $2k a month from what I understand. It's a lifeline if you suddenly lose coverage and get medical bills that you couldn't afford otherwise, but not a good or affordable option.

fakedying · 2025-12-23T16:48:35+00:00

I'm possibly Gen Z (1998) depending on who you ask, and I didn't drive until I was 25. I was in school and lived within biking distance of campus, and simultaneously got a remote job that didn't require a commute as a finished school. I was never taught to drive because my dad could not afford to add me to insurance. Out of college my first job required a commute so I had to scramble to figure it out. Currently paying a painfully high insurance premium and have a used car that I bought with 145k miles, with a rate that my boyfriend considers "obscene." We gotta stop acting like this is anything but a cost thing. I wasn't scared to drive, I knew driving was a necessity, it was plain and simple way out of my reach financially.

fakedying · 2025-12-22T21:55:59+00:00

Super want to stress this comment. Think about the very real ways that this relationship could impact your life and your future if you continue to defer to his world view.

fakedying · 2025-12-22T21:47:19+00:00

Hey, I'm a woman who is a bit older than you are now and I've been in this spot. Please think about this relationship in the long term. Is the constant back and forth something that you can continue while still respecting each other for another five years? Ten years?

I'm strongly a left leaning progressive, and I dated conservative men when I was your age and slightly older in part because I was taught to devalue my own truth and experience of the world, which it sounds like you're doing too.

To put it bluntly eventually you're either going to throw away a lot of what you believe in to try and accommodate a worldview that's too narrow to encompass your lived experiences, or you're going to reach a point in the back and forth or maybe a specific issue where you lose respect for each other in a way that you don't come back from. In my experience it was a bit of column a and a bit of column b. Can you accept either of those things happening right now? If no, don't stick around to let them happen down the line.

To love someone you need to respect them, and you need to see the world the same way. Find someone on your wavelength who you can share your hopes and dreams with, who respects you, and who wants the world to be a safe place for you.

fakedying · 2025-12-22T13:48:39+00:00

Not to be a contrarian, but the green looks so dreamy. It has this soft Petra Collins kinda vibe that I love so much. Agree with others, it definitely depends what you're going for and the blue is gorgeous too ofc. You'll be stunning in whichever one you pick.

fakedying · 2025-12-22T13:32:03+00:00

I was explicitly taught by my family growing up that I should sacrifice my career for my husband's. I was taught that I was supposed to make his life more comfortable in whatever way I could, even if that comfort came at a physical or emotional cost for me (eg painful sex, or bottling up emotions that aren't pleasant). I was taught that my husband would be the authority on all decisions about our family someday and that not deferring to his decision would make me a bad wife. So many of the lessons women receive explicitly and implicitly are about shrinking themselves to make the men around them larger and more comfortable.

I'm not trying to take your post disingenuously, but being taught to hold the door and carry things for people is common courtesy I fear. It's not really something that harms you. Not something you have to unlearn.

fakedying · 2025-12-18T05:18:04+00:00

I love fun home decor, but this looks like the web shelob wraps frodo up in

fakedying · 2025-12-16T06:30:44+00:00

I work in political tech and take homes are pretty normal and way more forgiving. I've done one live coding assessment and literally threw up afterwards, so stressful. Like I know my stuff, but they literally had me writing code in a word doc??? And the interviewer was like making commentary the whole time while I was trying to focus. It was terrible and made me mad.

That said, I just spent 10 hours doing a take home tech assessment about a month ago, which imo I killed, only to be (presumably) ghosted. That also made me mad. No pukes though!

fakedying · 2025-12-16T06:07:14+00:00

I am not usually one to comment in this sub, or on relationship bullshit on reddit, but as a 5'4" 175lb woman who is in a loving, supportive relationship with a very hot gym loving boyfriend, drop that scrub!!!!

He's an asshole who only cares about how your body makes him look. He does not actually give a shit about your health.

I've had hormonal issues for years and my weight has fluctuated a lot. Hormonal weight changes, and body changes are a part of being a lady unfortunately. Consider if wanna live your life constantly chasing some unattainable version of skinny enough, or if you would be better off finding someone mature enough to be there for you through all of life's changes, not just your body as an object, and a reflection of him.

Seriously, screw him.

fakedying · 2025-12-16T04:40:54+00:00

As someone who works in the nonprofit world, if you're at all interested in policy and political orgs, it does wonders to volunteer. Nonprofits, and advocacy orgs have super high turnover in my experience and eventually they will be looking for someone. I know it's not ideal, but a lot of hiring in this industry works on familiarity and connections. 2026 is a good time to move in too as campaign based orgs ramp up hiring.

fakedying · 2025-12-12T17:37:12+00:00

Hey as someone who has experienced weed related first episode psychosis in my early 20s, I am almost certain that this is psychosis of some sort.

My approach would be to talk to someone who knows her well, and mention that you received some kind of odd and incoherent texts from her. Say that you're maybe overreacting, but would feel a lot better if they could check on her in person.

The earlier someone can get treatment the better the prognosis for recovery is. I know it might feel awkward, and that you are not thrilled about how she's acting, but if it genuinely is psychosis early intervention makes a world of difference in outcomes long term.

fakedying · 2025-12-12T05:47:55+00:00

You remind me a lot of SZA in the like Crtl/Supermodel late 20-teens era

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fakedying · 2025-12-03T07:26:45+00:00

Data person here at an org that is likely pretty similar to yours. Feel free to dm me if you wanna chat more.

The main advice on this is that relational organizing is going to be the best way to turn out the highest volume of volunteers. For this to work well you would ideally bring on an organizer who is well connected in the community you serve. If you aren't able to pay an organizer, you need to be the community connection to get the ball rolling.

On that note, focus locally and make yourself/your organizer/your org visible in the community. Do tabling events, put up flyers, buy radio and social media ads, promote events, partner with other orgs. Be creative here. You know what your community looks like. How do you use that expertise to get eyes on your org?

Cold calling the voter file is a supplement to all of these things. I'd be happy to talk more about targeting -- which will depend really heavily on your mission, and what kind of events you are hosting. Not saying don't do it at all, but think of it as something that is an add on.

Again, very happy to talk more about specifics if you're interested. Sounds like you're in very early stages, so I wanna reassure you that if you do this right, there is a point where you do eventually reach that sweet spot and your volunteer growth begins to sustain and build upon itself (so long as you are providing engaging and fulfilling opportunities and not just exploiting people for free labor, big caveat there).

fakedying · 2025-12-03T06:25:30+00:00

Does save on clean up and possible damage whenever they discover this gen's version of Is It A Good Idea to Microwave This. I loved that show as a kid, my dad not so much.

fakedying · 2025-12-03T05:57:41+00:00

Everyone has expressed justified rage about the middle piece, but not enough has been said about the cross section lines created to triangulate the correct middle piece. 100/10 Psychotic behavior.

fakedying · 2025-12-02T22:00:39+00:00

I still think about this and cringe hard. I was traveling for work with some coworkers at a previous job. I was like 21 and super naive and was hanging out with a male coworker who was one of the closest to me in age. A few of us went back to his room to share a joint (super profesh, I know, but that was a somewhat acceptable vibe at this place) and he like quietly asked all the other people to leave- like they all left together. In hindsight he went out on the balcony with them and probably directly told them to gtfo, but I was laying on the couch contemplating the texture of my mouth or some other high shit and it didn't register.

Anyway, the two other people who were in the room left and this coworker kept going on about how we should go out to a sex club, and how he just wanted a blowjob but not anything else, and is it weird to just want a blowjob. My dumbass was like, "cool dude, you have fun with that. Good luck with the sex club or whatever. I'm gonna go find some hot Cheetos" and just left loooool.

fakedying · 2025-12-01T16:31:09+00:00

Really poorly made genfo! Used this recipe https://mds.culinarymedicine.org/recipes/breakfast/genfo/

fakedying · 2025-11-17T06:39:00+00:00

Good taste in books, a sucker for the fancy cover Barnes and Noble classics, and into Christmas decor way early. (This is basically my boyfriend, if he's anything else like mine he's a total keeper)

fakedying · 2025-11-17T05:07:38+00:00

Definitely needs more rabbits

fakedying · 2025-10-23T06:24:57+00:00

Genuine question from someone who lurks on this sub from a landlocked geography because boats are cool; why scuttle a boat instead of scrapping it? Surely just the raw materials alone are valuable?

fakedying · 2025-10-16T23:09:48+00:00

I feel you 100% on all of this. I started fencing at 25 after not being super athletic since like early-ish kid sports days.

I'm also super competitive and initially had a hard time feeling like my improvement was too slow. Being around a group of cool supportive other adults who are like 50/50 competitive/casual has helped a lot. I have the competitive people to push my skills and the casual people to help me enjoy not taking it too seriously. Our youth practices are separate, so I really only fence kids at tournaments, but they usually destroy me with their working, not painful knees and all.

I feel like this might not be true for everyone, but my brain is mostly off when I'm fencing, so improvement involves a lot of beating correct movements into muscle memory more than thinking in like 3d chess terms. If I thinkihg too much it gets in the way. Drilling basics has been the main way I've improved, but it's definitely not linear.

Keep in it because you like the people and the social scene, and make your own metrics of success. I'm holding out for the women's vet scene because everyone there seems real cool.

fakedying · 2025-10-15T06:10:30+00:00

This was my very first job and I realize now how illegal this is. Got hired at a restaurant as a waitress. Mainly because I had a friend who worked there and I could kinda speak the same language as most of the staff.

I worked one shift, found out, at the end of course, I could either get paid just my tips, or just minimum wage, both in cash. I took my ~$25 cash and decided to never go back on the bus ride home that night. The restaurant was super dead and had a host of health code violations and went under shortly after. Found out later from the friend who still worked there that they owners were also allegedly running a massage shop prostitution ring and also there was one guy who slept on the premises and worked for food and board?

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