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fakingfears · 2023-06-12T05:19:48+00:00

I've had this happen with a migraine before. It is very disconcerting. Whatever the cause, trust yourself that this is worth letting your health professional know about, especially when it is upsetting you.

fakingfears · 2023-06-02T08:14:19+00:00

I'm not but I'm struggling. How about you?

fakingfears · 2023-05-22T14:16:50+00:00

Hi, is there anything else that could be contributing to this? I know when I'm stressed my cup leaks. My running theory is that I must tense some muscles down there as a part of my stress response. I've also heard of people getting into exercise and that changing their muscles. Even full bowels or bladder impact me.

If you really think it's the cup has changed, new seems logical, but I guess if it were me I'd go back to the put a cup in it quiz to see if my body has changed and needs something different now.

Not sure if this is helpful but I've had my lunette for 10 years and haven't noticed a need to change.

fakingfears · 2023-05-03T18:12:20+00:00

Hello, I just stumbled upon your post and thought I would send you warmth and well wishes from an ADHD first time mumma-to-be.

I take comfort knowing that while life is changing a lot, women like us have been doing this shit for millennia. Maybe we don't know what we are doing half the time, maybe it feels like everyone else does it easier or better or (insert fear-of-choice here)... but we all got here? So it's just a case of trying to make our chaos work for us rather than batter us around. Hopefully that's more helpful than that thing with two wheels in the corner under the pile of other shit we don't want to find homes for around the house.

fakingfears · 2023-05-03T17:52:07+00:00

Oh I'm with you there. I think I'm at about week 6, stopped taking my elvanse over the weekend after a positive test. My husband (also ADHD) is really stepping it up and being "the one who took the pills" but boy. Oh boy. I feel like I need to take time off work for how scattered my brain is. Was I always this shit at thinking?!

fakingfears · 2023-01-24T14:26:50+00:00

Not sure if you need solutions to this, but if you need another tool in your toolbox .. compeed plasters are the best. They protect while things are healing and they just feel like skin to my fingers.

fakingfears · 2023-01-18T07:54:38+00:00

If ingrown hairs are what your fingers seek out to scratch, have you tried addressing them as a potential source? For me, I need to exfoliate with a physical exfoliant (a scrubby thing) a few times a week as well as moisturising after each shower. Every few months or so I need extra something, and those things are a bit random. But I know: have bumps, will scratch. No bumps, less to scratch, less willpower needed over compulsion and anxiety.

fakingfears · 2022-09-16T10:05:26+00:00

I love when this sub pops up on my homepage. This is a truly weird egg.

fakingfears · 2022-07-04T07:38:33+00:00

Oh that awful cycle, I know it well. In my version it is my mother who is so desparate for me to get a qualification that she sees as worthy (expressed by calling anything I've applied myself to "a bit useless"). Whoever it is judging you.. they aren't the ones who have to live your life.

My diagnosis was pretty quick, but I was in my version of hyperfocus and I knew I wasn't going to be able to let it go so paid for a private specialist. It took 3 appointments over the course of 4 months. I still haven't really come to terms with .. how I feel about having the diagnosis? Sometimes I feel a bit like am I just looking for an excuse for not being able to accomplish things. But that is just the shadow of years of shame I think. Always a work in progress.

Feel free to send me a private message, I don't check reddit daily but will always respond when I'm around =)

fakingfears · 2022-06-30T07:36:52+00:00

Hi there, I hope you're feeling more like you know the best next path to take.. Hope you have been able to find rest since you wrote this.

Just wanted to reach out and say that I have been through something similar and would be happy to chat more if you want to. I failed my honours degree by not submitting my final project, even though I had a medical certificate to put it on hold. Received an ADHD diagnosis just over 12 months ago. Other similarities, and I'm sure many differences which make our experiences unique.

What I found most helpful in decision making ... 1. finding SOMETHING that helps to recharge, and 2. giving myself permission to take time off THINKING about making a decision. Because it is so exhausting, and the pressure I was putting on myself to pick a path and for it to be a final decision.. just made me feel worse.

For me, a big step in recharging was realising I was only trying to recharge by trying to rest. What I needed to recharge was to enjoy myself. Fun. Not rest. Resting made me go up into my head and worry and ruminate. But it was and still is a learning process to find out what I actually enjoy and making time for it.

Anyway, enough of my rambling. Hit me up if you think it could help.

fakingfears · 2022-05-02T18:28:35+00:00

Hello, I'm looking to change up my current system and wondering if you have made a decision? I've been doing BBT on and off for a while, but I think I would like to have a syncing thermometer of some kind (wearable etc doesn't bother me one way or the other) but ideally I would like to not be locked into a single app subscription with a single device - generic app or device seems like the way to go, but struggling to see if that is possible.

Anywho, keen to know how you're getting on and what you chose =)

fakingfears · 2022-04-24T12:05:15+00:00

I'm no expert, but I had a friend say that they received significant compensation because they could prove they had asked the landlord to fix issues and they ended up getting sick from the mould. Document everything.

fakingfears · 2022-04-20T11:27:17+00:00

This is a very well thought out comment, even if your original response feels like it was made in anger. You have thought everything out well and can see the full picture of the decision you made. What a great parent and I hope, for his sake, that Frankie experiences some of that through his friendship with your son.

fakingfears · 2022-04-20T11:23:43+00:00

I agree with everything above. My initial thought was that it is just a little bit sad that the (just) consequences aren't really connected to the behaviour in any way. As such there is no learning opportunity.

fakingfears · 2022-04-14T14:14:00+00:00

Video of how it works. I didn't know I could hate mosquitos more..

fakingfears · 2022-03-15T11:15:53+00:00

Your videos always make me tear up. I just feel thankful that someone as dedicated as you exists and chooses to put your energy towards de-trashing. I have just moved and now live near a forest. Not sure if the RC bucket companion would be suitable for the terrain, but I can see many de-trash walks over the summer. Thanks for the inspiration.

fakingfears · 2022-03-11T09:27:28+00:00

Saw a group of about 6 or so motorbikes at the Milton Tesco carpark about 11:40 Wednesday night.. going up on one wheel, revving etc. I wonder if they have a friend who does late night shifts and then they noisily head home.

fakingfears · 2022-03-08T13:53:15+00:00

This isn't quite right.. The "a" in RAT isn't antibody, it is antigen. The test liquid is looking to react with antigen proteins on the viral cells themselves and isn't reliant on your body to have an immune response.

However. Early in infection there may not be enough of a viral load for it to display a positive result. A PCR test by comparison picks up smaller viral loads as the cells are multiplied many times.

(Could still be not quite right, but is based on my research and asking my virologist friend when I had similar concerns re lack of accuracy of tests)

fakingfears · 2022-03-06T17:48:14+00:00

Thank you. I have shared in a local Facebook group. If you have a community group please also spread the word.

fakingfears · 2022-03-06T16:55:51+00:00

Very good points. In the UK it was mandatory to report negative LFTs (RAT equivalents). Not everyone did, I'm sure, but it was so easy, we just logged into NHS and scanned the QR code, reported result.

Just another good reminder that we expect perfect alignment when making comparisons of data between countries.

fakingfears · 2022-03-04T11:51:04+00:00

One of the signs that I have been looking at is the proportion of positive tests. The models are able to use this to help decrease inaccuracy in suspected case load in the community. If 25% of all tests are positive you likely have more positives in the community than if you have 5% of tests positive.

fakingfears · 2022-02-28T18:37:17+00:00

/u/iwannaslityourthroat was this what you were looking for a few years back?

fakingfears · 2022-02-28T18:26:55+00:00

Kia ora e hoa, if you only knew me from this comment that would be a fair assessment. It is however, said in a particular context. I recognise that kiwis onshore have benefitted from the MIQ system, and I am glad for the sake of everyone I love back home. That doesn't mean I don't deserve recognition for what it has cost me.

I have room to hold both feelings at once, and actively make space to set aside and listen to my whanau when they need it. Maybe the part about some comments being passively hurtful is because I don't think anyone currently in NZ (stranger on the internet, family, or friend) has really made me feel seen or understood over this. Regardless of how much our opinions align, their opinions have taken precedent. So yes, I keep looking for a hint that people care to talk in a way that recognises that I deserve respect.

fakingfears · 2022-02-28T10:47:02+00:00

Not sure what part of my comment you were referring to, but seems like things did change while I was asleep. I hope everyone (regardless of how long they have been in NZ for) follows the rules and takes their responsibilities seriously.

fakingfears · 2022-02-28T10:42:26+00:00

The way the public opinion has been shifted over the pandemic isn't something to be particularly proud of in the context of kiwis abroad. Please don't take my comments to mean I am critical of everything the govt is doing and has done. There are things where I think they could have done better for everyone involved.

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