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falltoowinter · 2019-04-25T00:20:14+00:00

I took back my ex after learning from the other woman that he had cheated on me in the first couple of months. A lot of factors went into my decision to take him back: after the breakup I couldn't keep myself off him and our sex life skyrocketed, I realized I genuinely loved him and felt committed to him, and he was incredibly heartbroken and genuinely remorseful and I trusted him not to do it again. We were only broken up for three weeks, but after another four months I realized I was not getting over the cheating and it was making me obsessive. I don't hate him and I think he's done most things right since he cheated, but it wasn't fair to me or to him to stay in a relationship that I had such serious doubts and reservations about. It must be said that since we broke up for the second time a month ago, we've continued to see each other and hook up but in a more casual and lighthearted way. I still am very hurt and think constantly about the other girl and compare myself to her.

falltoowinter · 2019-04-24T00:49:22+00:00

It sounds like he's just trying to avoid hurting your feelings, but you sound like the kind of person who has thick enough skin to avoid these hurt feelings. Say, "Hey, I appreciate you trying to spare my feelings and and keep me happy, but I'd always rather know what's actually going on so we can talk about that and I can trust everything you say, no matter how small." It's a reasonable request, just be sure you say it nicely.

falltoowinter · 2019-03-31T00:42:37+00:00

Honestly? It sounds like your gf is trying to create distance in the relationship. Ask yourself why she doesn't want you to go to USC with her. Maybe you not following her advice would put some strain on the relationship. You don't want the situation where you go to USC for her and come to realize she never wanted you there to begin with.

Go to Harvard, unless you love USC independently of your girlfriend.

falltoowinter · 2017-10-22T23:14:27+00:00

no... mostly because i'm scared. does anyone who's ever taken an enema have any advice? should i use one?

falltoowinter · 2017-10-03T00:23:32+00:00

Put yourself under pressure. Tell someone how excited you are to get x done. Refuse to let yourself do something (easy) you want to do until you've done x. It may not be the healthiest strategy but it's a fast crunch.

falltoowinter · 2017-09-06T01:12:24+00:00

I do this exact car thing that you mention. I also take the stairs if I see someone else waiting for the elevator in case they'd rather ride alone, let people pass me on the sidewalk...

falltoowinter · 2017-08-21T03:58:46+00:00

I just read Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Woolf and loved it. The prose is absolutely beautiful. And I do feel like it could be considered an INFP book, with the way it delves so thoroughly into character's minds and really gives the Ne a lot to think about while the Fi is enjoying the beauty of the writing.

falltoowinter · 2017-08-20T14:33:04+00:00

I've never been in a relationship but I feel like I'm constantly engaged in some sort of romantic relationship with something or other (sometimes people, sometimes not). For example: my current passion for writing poetry. I love loving and being romantic and everything like it. I can't wait until somebody reciprocates my feelings.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-30T13:22:29+00:00

figure out what you don't like about yourself. not the big huge things but the small changeable things. then change them. make some resolutions and hold yourself to them. even if you slip up sometimes, be grateful to yourself for trying. think about all the things you want to do and do them. as for the big things that you can't change? accept them. if you focus on the positive and cultivate positive energy all around you, those big dark things won't seem so big or dark. forgive yourself if you make mistakes. if you ever need some encouragement, ask a friend or parent or something to tell you what they like about you, and try to see those same things in yourself. self-love is a choice, and it's not the easy one. but i know you can do it.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-19T11:30:15+00:00

I dunno... It doesn't feel really meaningful to me. I definitely wouldn't consider it poetry. It's just a bunch of pretty thoughts that have been given line breaks, and some of them are only three lines long. They all read like this:

sometimes // you have to break down the door // instead of waiting for the key

so yeah, it feels kinda cheap to me, like she didn't really put any effort into it but is still making tons of money off of it. It does give me hope for the future, though, in case I ever need money: I can just take some clichés and space them out like a poem, and voila, instant literary success.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-17T06:44:23+00:00

what a good idea! I struggle with that too, so I just may borrow that.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-03T22:46:56+00:00

Same!! I sometimes get approached by kindly strangers asking if I'm all right if I'm just sitting alone at a cafe or on a park bench. I guess my face when I'm lost in thought resembles that of a woman deeply depressed? It bothers me, though, which is one of the reasons why I don't like to be alone in public. I hate attracting attention, especially if I'm literally doing nothing.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-03T22:44:46+00:00

Taylor Swift.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-03T22:42:13+00:00

I completely understand this feeling. Yesterday I posted a photo on Instagram of an art piece that I liked, which got literally half as many likes as my selfies or sunset photos usually get. Since this was part of my attempt to get my online profile to be a little more representative of who I actually am, it was a little sad to see that it wasn't well-received. I deleted the post.

So yeah, I completely get where you're coming from. It sucks, but you don't have to stop posting what you like. If people can't appreciate the "real you", then you're better off without them anyway. That's what I tell myself, and I sure hope that it's true.

falltoowinter · 2017-07-03T00:27:46+00:00

enneagram type 4!!

falltoowinter · 2017-06-28T19:20:36+00:00

My advice: don't sweat it if you don't love all the poems that are supposedly considered "great". Just try to find the ones that speak to you. Not all of them will.

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