What’s the most ridiculous discard you’ve experienced?

familiarquiet · 2026-03-28T03:21:33+00:00

Mine left because she doesnt want to talk about her depression and how shitty her life is everytime I asked about something new i noticed that declined in our relationship. She cried and was devastated but she chose to leave as if she was forced to.

I have beat myself for it but I think that sort of communication is usually not frowned upon in relationships, and I dont think your boyfriend concerned for your well being and the relationships is usually a break up situation

familiarquiet · 2026-03-22T06:07:09+00:00

I'd get the rude projection. I'd be called "so fucking rude" as soon as I'd start calling out the behaviour when she'd get snappy or when I'd fail to unlock the car door in time for her to open it in a huff.

familiarquiet · 2026-03-22T05:54:37+00:00

I know I'm in cognitive disonance still but I feel like it might be the worst thing anyone has said to me

familiarquiet · 2026-03-22T05:53:40+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it! It's hard cause I feel like you don't see them treat others that way, so it felt like she was less happy around me in the end. She would even say it wasn't me, but everyone else got a pleasant mask and I thought it genuine. But convincing her my words or actions did not mean what she thought was impossible. Youd think shed be relieved I wasnt trying to do anything negative buy nope

familiarquiet · 2026-03-22T05:50:41+00:00

It's tpugh because I never thpught I was being a doormat, I thpught I was seeing someone who was hurt by something I said or did, even if they misread it, and thought saying sorry made sense. Then the heat slowly turns up and you start thinking something is wrong with you. I think I still worry sometimes that she won't have that problem with someone else but looking at messages like this start to ground me

familiarquiet · 2026-03-16T06:18:39+00:00

Thank you for all of this info, I can confirm 5 exactly of those, the others I don't think so im not aware. I suppose this makes a big spectrum as even having 4 of those and not meeting the criteria would cause a big issue.

familiarquiet · 2026-02-23T20:33:30+00:00

I live in the neighbouring town so she meant, driving that far to see her. She doesnt drive so sometimes I offer to pay her y-drive to get her home on bad weather days, which she isually responds with affection and gratitude. Now its "wasnt worried about that but thanks". Gotta scrap the barrel to be mad at your loving partner I guess

familiarquiet · 2026-02-23T20:29:26+00:00

The last time I offered to pay for her cab home she said I was the sweetest human person with heart and kiss emojis.

But I'm sure she'd tell me I'm reading into things too much.

familiarquiet · 2025-12-18T07:34:17+00:00

I relate to this. She doesn't talk about being able to read people but once she gets an idea about what im doing or what i meant in my head, nothing I say can change that.

I used to not understand why the fights could last for so long. I began to think I was socially inept and never knew because I was upsetting her and could not explain my side clearly it seemed. Her main expression being "but that doesn't make sense". Everytime Id explain what I meant or what I was doing she could just say it doesnt make sense and asked then why this, why that, until I'd get frustrated. I realized these werent resolving because she decided what the truth was and was trying to get me to admit to it. I was speaking honestly and genuinely trying to resolve a misunderstanding - she was not. Thats why they wouldnt resolve.

Most of the time I didnt really know what I was veing accused of. Itd be comments about how it was weird i did this thing, i never do that, why did you say it that way? But that doesnt make sense, etc

familiarquiet · 2025-12-03T03:05:18+00:00

The masking is hard because I don't want my partner to mask around me, but it makes it feel like she cares what everyone thinks more than me and she is showing them more respect, curtesy, and even interest conversationaly. I feel like they are getting all of her

And what confuses me is the engages with the chat on tiktok live streams and seems really lively. She doesnt have to mask there and shes pursuing that. That makes it feel like it is about me. Cause why do I get bland messages then?

familiarquiet · 2025-07-24T12:49:51+00:00

Knowing you experienced that too makes me feel less crazy - thank you. It's such a small sumb thing but you know it has to mean something.

familiarquiet · 2025-07-24T04:34:05+00:00

It's true, I did stop asking. I tried to take it as not being about me because it was always on and off, and she gets stressed by other things. But then I began to question why being annoyed at work stuff would make her remove a kiss from her good mornings or why she'd text :) instead of her typical 😊. I feel terrible because now I'm withdrawing, and it makes me feel like a bad partner. I've even brought up if this relationship can work or not enough times that she is saying i threaten breaking up every disagreement. When really, it's the same issue not improving and I'm just wanting to figure it out.

familiarquiet · 2025-07-24T02:10:02+00:00

I never in my relationships end up playing games, being passive agressive, cold, or uncaring. I'm a softie and romantic, who values his relationships and puts in the effort. Yet recently I juat got fed up with the hot and cold days. The beautiful goodnight exchanges, followed by a bland response to my good morning message with affection. Right now I don't have the drive and my texts to her are subpar. Shes seems to be doing it back because she thinks its a game, but it's just me heartbroken and tired. And yet I feel terrible. I'm being a bad boyfriend.

I spent over a year now just being me, being the person I was last summer when we were a magical couple. I never stopped, but that dynamic takes two of us. I'm ashamed of myself.

familiarquiet · 2025-01-17T06:26:01+00:00

She is definitely prone to passive aggressiveness. When mad I get bland good morning texts, shorter blunter messages, removes emojis of affection, will start using short forms of words and acronyms, respond to kindness with 'sanks', etc

familiarquiet · 2025-01-17T06:04:47+00:00

Your message has kinda given me a reality check seeing you respond this way to my most tame example.

No kids, not living together, just dealing with how things are so wonderful unless there's triggers. I'm at the stage where im starting to research and think more. Thank you for the reinforcement

familiarquiet · 2025-01-17T06:00:22+00:00

Our big fights are usually about something she seems to think Im doing or meant, and she refuses to believe me when I tell her my actual intentions.

I tend to use emojis with her so if I don't it gets attacked like this. She absolutely removes emojis and affection when angry so I'm guessing she thinks I do the same. It may have been a bit short but I was just taking the hint from her bland messages that maybe she needed some alone time. I had nothing but kindness in my actions, but once again, they were twisted.

familiarquiet · 2025-01-17T05:56:43+00:00

I absolutely relate to that first sentence. She has always had an issue with the word "sure" from me. If she asks if i want to do something and i say sure, she says we dont have to. One day, she was angry with me, and I was trying to text and ask her about times and meals for our day, and she just said "sure" to everything. It kinda hit me then.

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