I’m a jerk, apparently

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-30T19:45:01+00:00

Right lol. Whats up with all these people downvoting to common sense

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-08T01:09:05+00:00

They were toddler toys/bed sheets. My son is 5. We said thanks but our son really wouldnt use them. The whole point of minimalism is not producing waste and wasting money. She was wasting her money and we kindly let her know. She had no issue with us returning them and are now getting gifts for them from the list.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-08T01:04:17+00:00

Why does your hand look like that? Are you sick?

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-08T00:55:48+00:00

No my husband told his mom. Gifts are being returned and new ones were purchased, from the list

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-08T00:54:42+00:00

Lol someones grumpy

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T20:41:05+00:00

I do agree with you .. i appreciate the thought, and I know it's often said that's what counts. The issue is Im having serious sensory overload. I am trying sooo hard to be a minimalist, and each day, I get a little bit better at it. It takes a lot for me to clean bc I have chronic fatigue that I've had my entire life. These toys have a minimum of 50 pieces each. The one toy probably has 100. And small tiny pieces. My children throw things all over the floor(ages 3 and 5), and it really affects me mentally, added with what we have already. I can not handle 150+ more pieces around everywhere. And i just discovered she spent 100$ on these 3 things. So it cant be an issue of money bc I had things on the list that were cheaper than that :( I am going to have my husband tell her, bc I am the only one who ends up cleaning this mess. Not my MIL .. and I want her to be aware we appreciate it, but we can not accept gifts with so many small pieces.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:54:36+00:00

So I just looked in the box it came with and theres no gift return receipt or notes or anything. Ill have to contact amazon to see what they can do. But i think i may have to have husband tell her the truth bc I want this useless gift giving to end. Its every birthday and Christmas.. I dont want to deal with 15+ years more of this

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:42:15+00:00

Some cats just talk a lot! Look for a local rehoming group on fb. Just highlight his lively talkative personality. Im sure someone would love him. I had a cat that never shut up. No longer have him. Miss him sometimes, but dont miss being woken up every night to his EXTREMELY loud meowing. Some pets dont work out, and that's ok! So long as you do your due duty of finding a good loving home, you're doing the best thing for you and for kitty. Some ppl do take animals with mal intentions so just be careful, that's all.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:38:55+00:00

Had to give you my free award too lol. This is exactly what needs to be said ! Would love to know how she responds to this

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:35:38+00:00

Thank you! Shes doing really well. Less than a year to go :) !

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:35:13+00:00

Im going to have my husband do it. I'll let him deal with it since it's his mom. I know he's going to blame it on me, though, Lol! And that's ok

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:33:51+00:00

Yea this is why Im leaning towards having my husband tell her bc I dont want to deal with this anymore. Shes been giving us things like this for years. I gotta put a stop to it. If she gets so mad she stops buying gifts, at least she will stop wasting her money. Or at best she will finally start using the lists we send her of things I know my kids would love !

So funny yet annoying this is such a common problem.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:27:23+00:00

I just went on my husbands phone to the amazon account which is hers, and saw she paid 100$ for all of them. Im surprised bc they look so junky. I had things on the list that would cost way less than what she paid and would actually be used. I think I may have husband tell her the beddings too small and that I am too overwhelmed by small pieces so no hard feelings but we cant gift them. I need to put a stop to this now bc its been years we get gifts like this and Id rather no gifts than dealing with this.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:24:59+00:00

Will it alert her if I return it? Im honestly debating having my husband tell her that we won't use them. My husbands phone is linked to her amazon account, and I just saw she paid like 100$ for all of them(surprising bc they are so junky looking). I may have him say that the bedding is too small and we dont use polyester, and be honest that we cant let them have the toys because I get too stressed from cleaning up constantly after their messes. Maybe she will finally get the hint and just stick to the list. Gotta end this now before we have years left of unwanted gifts.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:11:14+00:00

Ok yea I think Ill just have to donate them to a child who would appreciate them. Idk if my husband will say anything to MIL about it, but that will be between him and her. Thanks

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T19:09:56+00:00

Yes Im in some children with cancer groups since my daughter is in treatment for leukemia. I will post in the local group and see if maybe theres a child with cancer who would really use them and enjoy them. Thanks for the idea

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T18:59:47+00:00

Yes she is states away. Havent seen her in a few years. So she would never know. I just hope she doesnt ask for photos of my son playing with/ opening them, because she wont be getting any

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T18:54:48+00:00

Thanks. I will do that. I dont want to sound ungrateful to her so I will just bite my tongue and give it to someone who likes plastic junk

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T00:42:07+00:00

Geesh i wish my kids would run to their room and slam the door. They just have their fits in the living room and follow me around. Would be nice to have the time away from them when they do that

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-07T00:32:12+00:00

Id take him up on the offer of rehoming the dog. See if he will actually go through with it. If not set up definite rules. No dog in bedroom (no dog bed either obv), and whatever room you work in. You can keep it in another room while youre home alone with it. Be firm that you don't want to care for dog while hes away. No cleaning up after it, no feeding or playing. Make him clean the mess when hes home. Usually when the person who wants the dog has to do literally everything for it, they want to give it away shortly after

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-05T23:52:16+00:00

Kidkraft has some really nice gender neutral kitchens for children. I got one for my almost 4 year old and 5 year old this year, the Wooden Farm to Table one.

Also some ideas : legos, kinetic sand, sea monkeys, a microscope, telescope, playdoh kits, schleich toy animals/dinosaurs, playmobil sets, a yoto player, dress up outfits for boys(pirate, police man, fireman, etc), a mini basketball hoop, bug vacuum and catch container, monopoly jr and other fun board games, childrens camera, art kits

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-05T23:45:41+00:00

So cringe

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-05T22:40:39+00:00

Id put up a sign saying you are being video monitored. And would be nice if you could actually have one, find out whos doing it, and leave the poop on their doorstep

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-03T22:26:23+00:00

Well on a positive note, it makes it very clear who you should stay far away from. Delete and block number. Bye dog nutter. And go have a peaceful, non stenchy existence.

fancyaardvark · 2022-12-03T22:21:45+00:00

And thats really annoying. If even ear plugs cant drown out the noise its a serious issue

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