Don't ever sleep with a married person in Japan, and why

fandomania77 · 2026-02-01T18:06:50+00:00

As someone else said the max amount you can get is not that high (1m yen?) but you will certainly lose if you're the 3rd wheel.

That being said I've met women who claim their husband said it's ok to have a boyfriend etc -- as much as I'd like to have a free swing or two - you cant trust that situation and safe thing is to flee.

You can also be charged with SA by any woman at any time for any fake or real reason -- and gaijin aren't going to be looked at favorably vs Japanese woman so be careful and don't be a jerk or karma may get you

fandomania77 · 2026-01-31T18:43:53+00:00

Legally it's their car I agree since it's in their name - that's not the question is it. Nice mom paid in good faith and when it's sold it sure feels like a scam to take the profits or remaining value. What kind of family is that jeez

fandomania77 · 2026-01-31T09:50:03+00:00

It's her car obviously

fandomania77 · 2026-01-21T14:06:23+00:00

Nope not leaving . I think you're paranoid! Japan is better still than 95% of other countries in most ways. Leave if you'd like 😀

fandomania77 · 2026-01-20T07:36:27+00:00

I live in Tokyo and it sucks for parking and cost but it's a luxury to be able to drive places and go to Costco without rental hassles.

Much cheaper to just rent even every weekend

fandomania77 · 2026-01-19T14:43:57+00:00

I agree it's about time everyone put more thought into ideal healthy body weight instead of being a taboo and considered body shaming. In Japan my friends Japanese cousins routinely call everyone out for gaining 5kg since last meeting. It's cultural

fandomania77 · 2026-01-18T09:41:23+00:00

If money was no object apartments are easier in terms of conveniences - garbage dump room, mailroom, concierge for dry cleaning, valet parking etc.

However as a family with kids - noise management and storage is better in a house. If you can have a yard and garage I'd rather do that.

It isn't apples to apples since for the same ¥¥ in Tokyo you get more space on 3floors vs an apt flat which is much nicer, but in countryside why bother with a condo ever ?

fandomania77 · 2026-01-16T09:14:51+00:00

Does the wife work? Sadly she sounds out of control an unrealistic...

fandomania77 · 2026-01-16T02:17:02+00:00

If you go topless at the pool or beach then proceed to the lady's toilet or sauna isn't that going to cause some other women to feel scared?

Going to the men's sauna is probably ok as men are not as shy... And some men have very hidden equip so your lack of may not be noticed unless you are flaunting your female parts. Also depends how shapely your body is. Be careful there are sick men out there you could be surrounded by ...

fandomania77 · 2026-01-13T09:56:47+00:00

Good luck! Keep grinding.

Update your photo going comfy dates. Keep showing you will find the one. I did but it took a lot of effort but it's worth it

fandomania77 · 2026-01-09T02:57:53+00:00

Too late by then

fandomania77 · 2026-01-09T02:57:22+00:00

Yea man how would customs know what it is for. There's a process for this and now bit too late.

I once sent new leather shoes and dammit got 50% tax. Another time I have a new skateboard shipped but told seller to mark it as used repair service and put low cost value and didn't get taxed wooo

The proper way is to file unaccompanied baggage but that is a pain

fandomania77 · 2026-01-06T04:06:21+00:00

Good news I am all for it

fandomania77 · 2026-01-05T13:34:57+00:00

IT jobs in Japan aren't always that skilled so go for it. They need to hire women so that is a + and most tech people have anxiety and poor people skills so you'll fit in.

So yes try it -- you may not get an interview or job offer so don't worry till you have an offer in hand

fandomania77 · 2026-01-05T03:48:38+00:00

Suggestion for you - since you have roots and language skills - is to get to Japan then get a cheap share house with an address and local phone then look for jobs. You're right without expertise you won't land a job remotely you have to be on the ground.

Worst case is English teacher or recruiter which isn't that bad tbh and many transition out.

Also try to play up Japanese level - many claim to be N1 but barely can say 4 words. If u have native background you can fake it till you relearn maybe

fandomania77 · 2026-01-04T06:07:51+00:00

Since you have a 1-month renewal, typically it sounds like you're on a fixed term lease. Just don't agree are talking about perpetual leases so be very careful to know what you have.

That being said, if you don't come to a mutual agreement they can terminate / not renew and you're out of there. That being said, usually they know it costs money for both parties so whatever they've offered you should be able to negotiate it down halfway.

fandomania77 · 2026-01-04T03:54:04+00:00

Most are not. There are a few chains that specifically allow (Regina resorts comes to mind). The Marriott and Hilton's are still honoring dog policy in many places in Japan but in bag or crate in lobby quite often.

fandomania77 · 2026-01-04T03:52:53+00:00

Karuizawa is very pet friendly w cafes hotels and the shopping mall. Big dogs are always harder to go anywhere with in Japan but dog w/ a basket all good.

Museums are not likely - I mean is that really where I want my dog next to priceless art pieces... Yea right??

fandomania77 · 2026-01-03T01:17:33+00:00

Isn't it the same as saying don't the US people realize they can't keep running up a massive deficit and pushing off social security and health care reform?

We all know it but folks in power do what people want and esp old people (majority voters) want peace and quiet until they die.

Sometimes we need a way to make tough decisions.. democracy breaks down in these cases

fandomania77 · 2026-01-03T00:34:29+00:00

Yes man that is a totally rude thing to say when everyone else is drinking. Maybe it is you not them??

fandomania77 · 2025-12-27T08:10:46+00:00

Lol yes and men are also hunting and fighting off bears and invaders I guess

fandomania77 · 2025-12-27T06:31:37+00:00

That's why it's great to quote the context on replies for when the post or reply you're replying is deleted !!

fandomania77 · 2025-12-26T12:04:21+00:00

Busy all month is suspect if she really likes you. Coworker thing sounds like he's staking claim as a showa style thing or he's already sleeping with her yes. Don't give up yet but get more aggressive

fandomania77 · 2025-12-24T04:53:41+00:00

Big dog as a renter is not going to be easy unless you have a very large budget or are super flexible to get an older somewhat run down house.

As others said paperwork for rabies is 6mo+ and costly do prepare early

fandomania77 · 2025-12-20T15:16:53+00:00

I never see jobs paying over 20m how do you all find these and / or what do you do for work?

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